Consultant refused induction request

[Stoptheworldiwanttogeton]

Okay so bear with me whilst I explain but I really didn't think I'd be in this position!

I was induced first time and had a traumatic delivery. Afterwards, I haemorrhaged and lost a lot of blood. Whilst the induction was bloody brutal, I would feel safer being in hospital (planned) in the event of the same thing happening again (which I've been told is likely). In the last week I've also become anaemic again and have been put on iron tablets but I doubt that they'll do much as I'm 37+ so labour could happen at any given time. I live ages away from the hospital and I can't sleep at night thinking what if something goes wrong on the way to the hospital, what if I don't make it on time etc.

So I saw my midwife last week who said that if I really did want induced the consultant kind of has to agree as I'm supposed to have a say in how my delivery goes apparently. I saw the consultant yesterday and relayed my worries etc to him and he just wouldn't agree on an induction. He offered an ELCS but not to be induced. I was surprised as my midwife made it out like he'd agree because it's my birth and me that has to do it etc. Whilst this pregnancy has been smooth, so was my last one and whilst medically there's nothing wrong (apart from iron) it's the after part that concerns me and knowing I'd be in hospital would make it so much easier for me. Now I can't sleep, feel sick at the thought of labour and am just generally panicking. Can I request my midwife to ask on my behalf as he may listen to her more than he did to me? Any advice would be great as I'm so worried TIA

The thing about booking a cheap hotel/air bnb is that how do I know when to book it for? It could happen anytime between now and 42 weeks.

@maryberryslayers he didn't even really give one, he just said well medically baby is good and you're okay (anaemia aside) so we only book you in for 42 weeks if you've not had it naturally.

To clarify, I was offered the ELCS due to previous traumatic delivery, not because medically it's necessary or advised.

I know logically the odds are I won't give birth on the road but for the PP's saying just go straight away- it's not as easy as that. We would need to drop DD off with someone (we have got options but it's not a simple case of dropping her off straight away, we may need to wait until someone can come and get her), I need to be assessed by the midwife who's based half an hour away (in case I need an ambulance she said I'd need to be assessed before taking that long journey) and it all adds time on then I have to actually make the journey, get into the hospital etc and we could be diverted etc, it just makes me really panic.

Regarding your anaemia start taking floradix or spatone instead of the tablets as they work much quicker.

I hope you don't mind me asking but why do they think you might have another haemorrhage? I had one with my first and just found out I'm pregnant with my second and wondering if I'm also at increased risk.

I hope you can get something sorted

@Redorangeyellowgreen sorry to hear that. They just said they think it's just my body and the way it works and it was because my uterus didn't contract back down so they think it may not do the same again as maybe it's a biological thing. Best of luck for you

@Redorangeyellowgreen I haemorrhaged with my first and now pregnant with second. I saw a consultant on Monday who told me I'm at increased risk of haemorrhaging again because it happened before. So, yes, I think your risk will be higher this time although I hope it doesn't happen!

Interesting, thanks. I do vaguely remember them saying that after I gave birth but think I was too out of it to take much notice.

Fingers crossed it doesn't happen for any of us this time round!

@Stoptheworldiwanttogeton I think you should go back to your midwife and see if there is someone else you can talk to? Failing that ask her if you can switch hospitals !

I am pregnant with my second and my midwife said we would be very worried if you wanted to have a home birth so please don't, as I am the exact same as you my uterus doesn't contract itself, if the worst was to happen you would have to ring an ambulance and you DH would have to follow with DD in the car! He might miss the birth but at least you will be with medical professionals and thats what really matters!

When I said labour at the hotel I meant just see if they have a room on the day, very unlikely to be fully booked xx

you’re more likely to haemorrhage if your labour is induced