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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

Anyone had a really slow, long buildup to labour?

41 replies

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 02/04/2019 08:38

This is my fourth dc so it should be second nature but my littlest is 7 and it’s all been wiped from my memory! I’m 2 days overdue which is nothing in the scheme of the others who ranged from 8-16 (yes, really) days over. Numbers 1&3 we’re induced, so my only spontaneous labour was number 2, and there was no mistaking I was in labour, my waters went, straight into huge, 2 minute apart contractions and he was born less than 4 hours later.

All have been back to back which I think is a factor in them being so late. Up til about a week ago this one was behaving but she’s now firmly back to back too and no amount of going into all fours or leaning off the front of the sofa is getting her to budge. I have a misaligned pelvis which was diagnosed before this pregnancy as I’d been having back problems which I think explains why my babies seem to lie this way. My first didn’t turn in labour and was a very hard birth, she came out facing up. The others turned in labour after staying upright and active so I’m hopeful this one will do the same.

But recognising that things are really happening is much harder than I thought it would be! This pregnancy has been incredibly tough and I’ve had awful pgp since about 22 weeks. It’s eased up in the last few weeks, so I can actually walk about much more easily but getting up and out of bed or a chair is still incredibly painful, as is turning over in bed. I’ve woken up today feeling that my pelvis is incredibly loose which it’s not been like for a while. I’m reluctant to put on my big support bandage this far along as I really don’t like how restrictive it is (I know that’s the whole point!)

I’ve been having tightenings and period type pain for about 3 days now and I feel so tired as I really can’t get comfortable in bed and am getting about 2 hours sleep a night. I’ve also been feeling queasy for the last few days. Dc3 was born in less than an hour once labour got going and I’m terrified I’ll not make it to the hospital once things get going as it’s a good 45 minutes away this time.

Is the cramping and tightening I’m having likely to actually lead to anything productive or is this just nature’s cruel way of making me turn slowly mad while I try and spot every symptom? I’ve carried low throughout so there’s no room for her to drop any further, and I’ve stayed active up til now but the way my pelvis feels today I’ll not be walking anywhere. I know I should just be patient and know that she’ll come out eventually but I’m at that stage where I’ve just had enough. Seeing my midwife on Thursday and I’m assuming she’ll offer me a sweep but I really can’t warm to her and I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable with her doing it.

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moreismore · 02/04/2019 08:50

I had a very stop start build up over about 5-7 days before my second baby. Kept thinking ‘this is it’! Then pains would disappear. It was so frustrating! The upside is that once everything kicked off properly I had an easy delivery and it was 2.5 hrs from start to finish! The more prep the better I think, as annoying as it is at the time!

Lizbiz89 · 02/04/2019 11:01

I'm exactly the same as you! 39 weeks tomorrow and I've been having tightening and cramps for the last week. It's getting more intense daily so I keep thinking that labour is starting but then it goes. @moreismore I'm hoping my labour goes the same way as yours! First labour was no picnic but didn't start like this labour. Went straight into it in the morning.

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 04/04/2019 08:45

I’ve just been sick after feeling a bit queasy since getting up, hopefully this is a (rather unpleasant) sign that things are moving along. I’m getting stronger Braxton Hicks and still have a horrible loose pelvis, I’m hoping for a sweep when I see the midwife later too.

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Thejoysof2boys · 04/04/2019 15:36

With DS1, I had two weeks of period type pains and dull aches with spotting. I didn't realise at the time but I was probably in slow labour and already dilating as my mother then told me this happened with all 3 of her labours too!

After the two weeks my waters broke before any contractions came so was sent home from the hospital! About 5 hours after my waters broke contractions started, was back at the hospital by 2am and fully dilated and began pushing by 5am.

Good luck, you'll meet your baby soon :)

Laurenjay9 · 04/04/2019 19:51

Ugh yes, I feel like this too. I'm a first timer so not overly sure what pains to expect and when... Im not sleeping due to being so uncomfortable and in and out of cramping most nights. It's been going on for nearly a week now. Also every morning I have to rush to the toilet as my bowels are going crazy, like they're clearing themselves out for the big day... just wish I knew when it would be!! Good luck to you, hope you pop soon, it's so frustrating isn't it Sad

Lizbiz89 · 04/04/2019 20:47

@Laurenjay9 I'm exactly the same as you! Keep getting painful cramps at night then need to run to loo and it goes. My bowels are all over the place. Just hoping this means things are getting into gear. Fingers crossed things get going for you too.

Laurenjay9 · 04/04/2019 20:55

@Lizbiz89 it's so disheartening isn't it? I'm almost hoping for more intense pain just to know it's the real thing. I'm due on Saturday and really don't want to be too far over, to think it could be another 2 weeks is rubbish. 🤞🏼🤞🏼 Praying for babies by/at the weekend

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 05/04/2019 09:24

I’m losing bits of my plug since last night and was having really strong, frequent Braxton Hicks since my sweep yeaterday, apparently I had one while she was doing it but I didn’t notice at all. My cervix is very hard to reach at the best of times and to say it was uncomfortable is an understatement Shock I’ve pretty much been stuck in all week and felt really ill yesterday after being sick so today I’m off out for a big walk, to the city where the hospital is just in case Grin I’ve been craving a Wagamama since last night so hopefully I’ll get a good meal before anything kicks off. Apparently I was 1-2 cms yesterday and she could stretch to 4, she also could have broken my waters easily so she said. Kind of wish she had but I have an enormous pad on ready for any deluge that may happen today. Frustrating thing is it could still be days away. I’m booked in a week today for induction if nothing happens but I really hope I can avoid that. My pelvis is now so painful in bed that I just want this to be over

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Laurenjay9 · 05/04/2019 09:37

@AwkwardAsAllGetout good luck! I hope your waters break the moment you leave Wagamamas 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Lizbiz89 · 05/04/2019 13:23

@AwkwardAsAllGetout hope a ramen gets your labour going! @Laurenjay9 any more progress? I've had nothing today apart from immense pelvic and back pain from chasing a toddler round all morning 😩.

Laurenjay9 · 05/04/2019 13:34

@Lizbiz89 no, nothing at all today! Haven't even been to the loo yet which has completely broken a week long routine... I've got a constant back ache but it feels more muscular than labour-based. Haha, that might help bring it on for you, if you're running about! Maybe I should go run up and down my street 😂 When is your due date?

Lizbiz89 · 05/04/2019 14:30

@Laurenjay9 I'm due on the 10th so next Wednesday. I went into labour with my daughter at 39+3 days so i was naively expecting the same for this baby but it doesn't seem likely now. Part of me feels like I'm going to go overdue with this one though. He seems in no rush to get here! Have you tried any natural ways to induce your labour yet?

Laurenjay9 · 05/04/2019 14:37

@Lizbiz89 Other than walking, no, I haven't really done much else. My boyfriend won't come near me as he's too scared, so that's off the table. Haha. I might try something spicy for tea tonight, not a big fan of hot food but maybe it'll help... Yeah if you've had the experience of a slightly early labour already it must be even more annoying! I think I'll be late too, maybe it's a boy thing 🤔

Lizbiz89 · 05/04/2019 15:36

@Laurenjay9 I think you could be right about the boy thing although my friend gave birth 4 days early and it was a boy so who knows. My consultant said hand expressing colostrum can bring on labour and is safe to do but I haven't tried it yet. Im in between enjoying the last few days of peace and wanting to meet him now!

Laurenjay9 · 05/04/2019 15:58

@Lizbiz89 yeah I don't think there's any rhyme or reason is there, they will appear when they're ready. I've got a midwife app on Monday so would really like to miss that... but we'll see. Ohh I didn't know that, I've been leaking a lot this week so could give it a go. Thanks! Stay sane! 😀

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 06/04/2019 07:51

40+6 and I’ve lost a huge amount of snotty gunk this morning so hopeful today’s the day. Had my wagamamas yesterday and had a enormous walk too, which was great until it triggered some awful sciatic pain which made it really difficult to even move my leg and walk. I was getting some very pitying looks. I’ve been promised a very very hot curry for dinner if we’re still waiting this evening. I’m still in bed and really want to get up and get moving but I’m very worried about my hip joints. Also terrified I won’t actually be able to move about properly once I’m in labour, I’m pinning all my hopes on a pool being available.

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Laurenjay9 · 06/04/2019 08:05

@AwkwardAsAllGetout Oh no, can you have a hot water bottle brought to you for some heat on the pain before you try to get up? Maybe even a quick rub/massage to get it warmed up. I think today is your day 🤞🏼 Is sex off the table..?

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 06/04/2019 08:07

I am sooo not up for sex. I am whale like. Poor dh is a saint as it’s been a looooong time but I think he realises it’s likely to (unintentionally) be incredibly painful for me. Give me a few more days though and I could just be desperate enough to give it a try

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Laurenjay9 · 06/04/2019 11:53

@AwkwardAsAllGetout That's fair enough, it's definitely not the sexiest of times when your 40+ weeks is it. It's been a long time for me too, mainly because of my boyfriend not being keen on the idea. He may need to step up if baby doesn't come soon...

Really hope it happens for you today, fingers crossed 🤞🏼

Laurenjay9 · 07/04/2019 21:14

@Lizbiz89 @AwkwardAsAllGetout either of you girls popped yet? Im still waiting...

Lizbiz89 · 07/04/2019 21:34

@Laurenjay9 nothing yet. Getting more and more uncomfortable now and sleep is pretty much non existent. How are you getting on? Any more twinges?

Laurenjay9 · 07/04/2019 21:57

@Lizbiz89 same! I'm getting really bad shooting pains down below, like a head might just pop out any minute 😂 We must be nearly there, surely?!?

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 07/04/2019 22:03

Nothing here either. Curry last night did literally nothing, it was hot enough to bring a tear to my eye but no movement of any kind. I must have guts of steel as dh was on the loo quite a lot this morning Grin Have spent the day bouncing around on my ball and leaning forward on all fours to try and get her to budge out of the back to back position but nothing is working. I’m incredibly bored. Too scared to wander too far from home and the risk of sciatic pain is too great for me to really walk anywhere either. Weather is miserable and it’s all just blah. I’m really not good company atm.

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elliejjtiny · 07/04/2019 22:13

My labours have all been really slow to start with. DS1 was over 3 weeks of early labour.

Lizbiz89 · 07/04/2019 22:24

@AwkwardAsAllGetout @Laurenjay9 fingers crossed we have more luck tomorrow and at least some sleep tonight 🤞.

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