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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

Anyone had a really slow, long buildup to labour?

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AwkwardAsAllGetout · 02/04/2019 08:38

This is my fourth dc so it should be second nature but my littlest is 7 and it’s all been wiped from my memory! I’m 2 days overdue which is nothing in the scheme of the others who ranged from 8-16 (yes, really) days over. Numbers 1&3 we’re induced, so my only spontaneous labour was number 2, and there was no mistaking I was in labour, my waters went, straight into huge, 2 minute apart contractions and he was born less than 4 hours later.

All have been back to back which I think is a factor in them being so late. Up til about a week ago this one was behaving but she’s now firmly back to back too and no amount of going into all fours or leaning off the front of the sofa is getting her to budge. I have a misaligned pelvis which was diagnosed before this pregnancy as I’d been having back problems which I think explains why my babies seem to lie this way. My first didn’t turn in labour and was a very hard birth, she came out facing up. The others turned in labour after staying upright and active so I’m hopeful this one will do the same.

But recognising that things are really happening is much harder than I thought it would be! This pregnancy has been incredibly tough and I’ve had awful pgp since about 22 weeks. It’s eased up in the last few weeks, so I can actually walk about much more easily but getting up and out of bed or a chair is still incredibly painful, as is turning over in bed. I’ve woken up today feeling that my pelvis is incredibly loose which it’s not been like for a while. I’m reluctant to put on my big support bandage this far along as I really don’t like how restrictive it is (I know that’s the whole point!)

I’ve been having tightenings and period type pain for about 3 days now and I feel so tired as I really can’t get comfortable in bed and am getting about 2 hours sleep a night. I’ve also been feeling queasy for the last few days. Dc3 was born in less than an hour once labour got going and I’m terrified I’ll not make it to the hospital once things get going as it’s a good 45 minutes away this time.

Is the cramping and tightening I’m having likely to actually lead to anything productive or is this just nature’s cruel way of making me turn slowly mad while I try and spot every symptom? I’ve carried low throughout so there’s no room for her to drop any further, and I’ve stayed active up til now but the way my pelvis feels today I’ll not be walking anywhere. I know I should just be patient and know that she’ll come out eventually but I’m at that stage where I’ve just had enough. Seeing my midwife on Thursday and I’m assuming she’ll offer me a sweep but I really can’t warm to her and I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable with her doing it.

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Designerenvy · 07/04/2019 22:28

On my 3rd I didn't recognise I was in slow labour. I had fierce pressure in my back passage ( TMI) and lower back pain. I didn't have this with my previous 2 Labour's.
This lasted about 3 days and then when the pain shifted to the front and I was sure I was labour, baby was born 3 hours later.
It wasn't until he was born that I realised I had been labouring for days really !

Lizbiz89 · 09/04/2019 08:56

@AwkwardAsAllGetout @Laurenjay9 any more progress? Nothing happening my end apart from cramps that go when I go to the toilet. So frustrating! Keep thinking it's round the corner but doesn't seem to be.

Laurenjay9 · 09/04/2019 09:04

@Lizbiz89 no 😭😭 I had a sweep yesterday and had high hopes that it would happen last night, but nothing. Midwife said his head is really low, I was like 'I know, I can feel it everytime I move 😣'. What are your plans today? Long walk? My pelvis is playing up so I can't even move much.

Lizbiz89 · 09/04/2019 09:45

@Laurenjay9 ah no that's annoying! Hopefully it kicks in soon. My day will mostly consist of chasing my toddler around until the 2pm nap 🙌. Don't believe long walks do much as my life is one continuous long walk chasing after my dd and nothing so far. Last night I really thought was the start of it but again it eased off. Think if nothing happens by tomorrow I'm going to start trying natural ways to induce. God knows if they work though! Did your midwife mention any helpful tips to get things going?

Laurenjay9 · 09/04/2019 09:51

Midwife said the only thing she would really recommend is sex. She said most other things are a myth and don't tend to do much unless baby is ready to appear anyway... After my sweep she said to go for a walk but I couldn't even manage it, annoyingly! At least you're keeping active and your mind will be off it for a bit, looking after your toddler. I tried some 'labour inducing exercises' from YouTube yesterday afternoon, it was really just squats and pelvic movements. Might try a few more today 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Laurenjay9 · 09/04/2019 09:52

@Lizbiz89 oops forgot to @ you x

Lizbiz89 · 09/04/2019 11:47

@Laurenjay9 well good luck for today! I cannot think of anything worse than having sex right now! Might try expressing tomorrow and see if that does anything. Getting so tired as well. I can really sympathise with the pelvic pain! I'm soooooo sore down there now. Surely can't be much longer for us!

Laurenjay9 · 09/04/2019 12:04

@Lizbiz89 thank you, you too! 🤞🏼👶🏼

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 09/04/2019 12:15

Nothing happening here either. I’m getting so down which isn’t great. I tend to overthink and worry about every little thing and I feel like everything is getting on top of me. Baby is still stubbornly back to back and I just can’t get her to turn, I’m convinced if she was in a better position then things would get going. My last two births were so positive, I really felt so prepared and empowees but this time I’m feeling really pessimistic about it. My midwifes been awful all through pregnancy and I’m at a hospital in a new area and I’m worried how an induction will go there. I’ve had enough of constant pelvic pain and I still can’t quite believe I’ll get a baby at the end of all this

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Laurenjay9 · 09/04/2019 17:26

@AwkwardAsAllGetout sorry to hear you're so down, I'm getting a little miserable too. It's not helping that I have in-laws harassing me every day, asking what's happening and if I need anything. I need to be left alone! 😂 I read a post on another forum from a girl who was so overdue but she was so positive about it and said she had been watching 'positive birth company' videos online. I might try that out to try and ease some of my negativity today...

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 09/04/2019 18:29

I’ve been getting cramps all day which makes me think my body is desperately trying to get things started but still nothing. After my sweep last week I had lots of bloody show in dribs and drabs over the following days but even that’s stopped now. I’m getting fairly concerned about baby’s position. It actually feels like her head is well against my hip bone rather than head right down in my pelvis. I can feel flutters to the side which the spinning babies website suggests is her hands which does feel right. Definitely still back to back as I’ve had feet and limbs poking out all day. Doing the optimal positioning excercises, which pretty much involve leaving forward off the sofa on to the floor, are too painful because of my hip issues but I am trying. I don’t feel as tearful as I did this morning but still feel like I’m slightly losing my marbles. I know people are trying to be kind by checking in with me everyday but it’s so frustrating, every day for 9 days now I’ve had to tell them nothings happened! I’ve been incredibly lucky to have minimal weight gain in this pregnancy, I joined slimming world at about 10 weeks and have only put on a stone but for the last couple of days I’ve been maintaining chocolate like there’s no tomorrow ConfusedBlush I blame the stress of it all.

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Lizbiz89 · 09/04/2019 19:03

@AwkwardAsAllGetout big sympathy to you. Hopefully the cramps mean that labour is imminent now. I can relate to the weight gain. I'm all bump this pregnancy but over the last few days I've given up trying to be good. Just want comfort food as I feel so uncomfortable now. Anyway I'll keep my fingers crossed for you tonight 🤞.

AwkwardAsAllGetout · 12/04/2019 09:41

Well I gave birth less than 12 hours after my last post Grin And I’m pleased to say that a long, slow buildup seems to have been a good thing as my labour was quick and far less painful than my others. So much so that I was taken by surprise when I realised I was actually pushing. My waters broke at about 1.30 and I wasn’t sure they really had as it really wasn’t a gush, more a tiny trickle. I went back to bed thinking it was probably nothing til I realised I felt like I needed to go to the loo, got up to try again and had another little trickle and realised I probably didn’t need to do a poo after all Blush We left for hospital which was the part I was dreading most but at that time of the morning the roads were clear and it took 20 minutes rather than 45. I was contracting every 3 minutes but they were about 30 seconds or so long and no worse than period pains really. When we got to hospital there was no water on my pad at all so I worried they’d send me home but they did a dipstick test and confirmed my waters had gone, but that I was only 2 cms. God bless the midwife though, who read my birth plan quickly and listened when I said my last two labours were incredibly quick. She didn’t send us away, but left us in the room while I was pacing around and leaning on a birth ball and brought me the gas and air even though they didn’t like to give it before 4cms. I didn’t need it when she left but we had to call her back about 10 minutes later, she didn’t need to examine me, again believed me and took us straight to the pool room where they were already filling it up for me. I got straight in and had given birth in an hour. I was amazed as even though my last birth was a pool birth in less than an hour, the contractions that time were awful, one on top of the other with little break between, I assume as I’d been induced that time. This time I had a good 2-3 minutes between each one and they didn’t seem to last much longer than about 30 seconds each, to the extent that I said to the midwife that they couldn’t be possibly be effective and maybe I’d got in the pool too soon. I didn’t even have a panic at transition, I think because I felt that even though my body had started to push, I didn’t really think it could be time. The whole thing was very calm, I didn’t make a sound and the lights were very dim. Totally amazing experience. And my heaviest baby yet at 9 pounds 4 Shock, almost a whole pound heavier than my previous biggest. Small first degree tear and no stitches. I hope the rest of you still waiting have as good an experience when things start as I have had. I feel incredibly lucky Smile

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Laurenjay9 · 12/04/2019 10:06

@AwkwardAsAllGetout YAY! So happy for you and you totally deserved that calm, peaceful birth after such a hard build up. Sounds like a dream, I can only hope I'm half as lucky... got an induction date booked for 18th but I'm trying not to count on that actually happening. Sending you lots of love and happiness with your new bundle xx

Lizbiz89 · 12/04/2019 10:40

@AwkwardAsAllGetout congratulations! So happy to hear your baby arrived safe and soundly. I'm still very much pregnant unfortunately. Going to try sex tonight to see if something kicks off. I've had no contact with any midwife through this pregnancy as the midwifery setup isn't very good in my area. Which has been ok as I've been consultant led because I'm thyroxine. However I've now been discharged as low risk so if this baby doesn't arrive soon I'm going to have a ball ache of trying to contact a midwife! Anyway I'll be trying everything today! @Laurenjay9 hope baby wants to come before your induction date! Keeping fingers crossed for you!

Laurenjay9 · 12/04/2019 11:55

@Lizbiz89 good that they've put you at low risk but yeah, I can't imagine it's the easiest job sorting out a midwife late on. Hopefully you won't need to go out of your way too much and natural labour sets in soon! I'm just at a point now where I think I'll be pregnant forever and I'm trying to just get on with things to take my mind off it. I guess it'll happen for us when it's meant to 😂x

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