Did anybody try to fight the urge to push?

[MamaG]

I did, with DS

me: I neeeeeed ot push
(literally shaking with the effort of not pushing)

MW: push then!

me: but I haven't had my epidural yet

MW: no time! Push!

me: AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

I'm still waiting for the urge . BTW they're 13 and 10 .

I didn't even get the urge to push, let alone want to try to fight it ...

really? I didnt with DD but put it down to epi

I was told not to push and wound up pushing with my feet against the floor as hard as I could and screaming instead as a substitute.

It wasn't a very good substitute.

Not sure why I wasn't 'allowed' to push to be honest, something to do with a cervical lip they couldn't shift. Had emCS in the end.

how can they tell you not to push? it's like telling someone not to vomit - you simply have no control over those muscles, it's involuntary.

I was told not to push last time as I wasn't fully dilated. However my body had other ideas and I couldnt not push. Never had anything like it the other times.

Midwife told me not to push! cant remember why, something to do with cervix. Then she swapped shifts and next one said, you're 10cm if you need to push, push!
i was pretty mad cos it was by far the most painful part of the labour. Found it impossible not to do it when i had to.

i couldn't stop myself from pushing. ended up having a 3rd drgree tear and many downstairs problems. i still beat myself up over it.

PMD i think its impossible to fight it, its a bodily reaction which i found i didnt have any control over.

Blimey. No, I didn't, no idea how anyone would, tbh, was overwhelming and beyond conscious control.

Shame the midwife wasn't in the room, though, as I ended up with a third degree tear.

pmd don't feel bad, as i said i just don't know how anyone could not push.

I was induced with a drip then told not to push. Bloody ridiculous. But panting helped to stop the baby coming out too soon.

Ds: Felt rectal pressure, thought I needed to push, so did and with an op baby, head deflexed , flat on my back because of ARM nd foetal monitoring I ended up with CS.

Dd: all going well until I was pushing,

hold on a minute! I'm not pushing, my body is JUST doing it, how did that happen?

Me: Is it ok for me to push, am I 10cms? (BIG mistake)

Mw looks: No you're 8/9, stop pushing

I have never done anything so hard in my life! Trying to consciously stop what your body is doing of it's own accord is extremely tiring and takes far too much effort, so that I could not use G&A properly, was blowing instead of sucking and was finding it difficult to change positions and then when cons says off to theatre I had nothing left to fight with. They cut me and used forceps to guide out a perfectly happy baby although I was coached to push through a spinal.

Next time, if my body wants to push I'll just let her!!! Always listen to your body!

Since found good links that suggest gently pushing at 8/9 cms according to your body's wishes is likely to help with final dilation.

The urge's to push with both DS's was so strong there is no way I could of stoped it! At one point with DS#1 they asked me not to push I tried but there was no way!

Went to hosp at 13:00, MW said 4cms,I got in pool, after only 20mins needed to push, knew that it could cause damage if not 10cm so did not push....very hard work, asked DH to call MW (HE ASKED ME IF I AM SURE). MW said push,10cm, very panfull, worse than DS1, but at 13:38 DS2 was born 9,6lb, we were both fine and I was home at 20:00.

i had an em c.s after failure to progress with DS.. induced labour ....never got past 2 - 3 cm, and with diamorphine and an epi..didn;t feel even the contractions !

with DD, i had a spontanoues labour, remember thinking, 'will i know when to push?' , boy , did i know !!

hoicked up my nightie, said,, ' I need to push NOW'. MW had a look and said, 'off you go' and off i went...was the most overwhelming feeling of pressure, from my boobs downwards, impossible to resist and really incredible..DD born 30 minutes later, intact perineum ! woo hoo !

couldn;t have not pushed

was totally beyond concious control

Like a lot of us, I didn't feel any sort of urge as such...my body was pushing but I'd no control over it at all. After a few of those ctx and being prompted to push by the mw, I tried to actively push on top of the pushing that was already happening, and found I could...a little.
I think I had to probably as he was OP and a bit stuck-ish, told later it should have been over a good 15 mins earlier if he'd been correct presentation.
Cannot imagine fighting that pushing thing though, it was all I could to to survive it (or so it felt!) Your whole body becomes a giant pushing thing, it pushes your stomach into your mouth and everything else downwards. WEIRD feeling, after an epidural with DS1!
I'd no idea...

Lulu! Intact perineum!
Go girl!!!

She told me I wouldn'a torn if he hadn't been OP. Read notes today and he was ROA at 9am, by 10.32 he was direct OP...so, on his way round, then, and didn't make it! Grr!

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DD - was OP , born face up ! i think i am quite stretchy

You must be!!!!

Hello! How's you, Summer??

DC1 - I had a cervical lip, and mw told me not to push. I then tried to stop my body pushing for 2 hrs!! Nightmare! It wasn't an overwhelming urge, but pretty strong. DP reckons because I am so strong and bloody-minded, I should have given up and gone with it earlier and dc would have come out sooner!

With both DC2 and DC3, the urge WAS overwhelming - I did no pushing, my body just did it all. Like described before, the pain was not pain like contractions or crowning, but of my bottom being pushed inside out.

Again, me being so in control, had to call the mw in as head was crowning as I did not look like I was just about to pop - I was in that zone, y'know...

Yes 2nd time around because I feared the next bit too much. Everyone who had 2nd babies before me told me how the baby just 'slipped out' so I thought if I hung on for long enough, gravity would kick in and my baby would slip out of her own accord

It's silly really because when I did push she was born not long afterwards and I could have had it over with sooner.

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