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PLEASE can you help my friend who is having a C-SECTION on Monday....

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DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:03

Any advice please! Her baby is lying transverse and they couldn't turn it so she's having a section on Monday. She hasn't had one before, I've had two so I've told her everything I can remember but I'm sure there's lots more pearls of wisdom out there! Thanks

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fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:03

she doesn't have to be shy about pressing the pain relief button - she cannot overdose and can press it as many times as she likes.

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:05

what pain relief button?!!

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mumto3girls · 10/05/2007 08:05

She will still need sanitary towels as if she'dhad a vaginal delivery

mumto3girls · 10/05/2007 08:07

ihad no pain relief button either! just waited tila nurseheard me crying...

It was nearly 15 yearsago!

fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:07

well I had a morphine drip thing with a button that I pressed every time I felt I needed pain relief, but being dead 'ard, I never pressed it and the nurses kept telling me off. Kept telling them "I can 'aaandle the pain"

But actually, I didn't have to handle anything.

Did you not have one then?

fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:07

mine was with ds, who is 20 months old

mumto3girls · 10/05/2007 08:09

I got offered farking paracetamol!!!!

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:09

NOooooooooo I didn't. Morphine is blardy marvellous stuff but makes my nose itchy

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Gingermonkey · 10/05/2007 08:10

I never had a pain relief button and I've had two of the bloody things!!!! Pack snacks for after the event, I was starving after having to wait until lunchtime for my section, it was the first thing I thought about when I came out of theatre!!!! And pack cheap knickers to throw away (black please - white will upset her when she notices the lochia!). I hated paper ones after DD so I bought a pack of about 10 knickers from primark for pennies when I had DS, and was much more comfy. Ooh, lochia itself - after DD I was petrified in the middle of the night when I thought I was bleeding to death, I didn't realise you still bled out of there when the baby came from somewhere else (I was quite young and the first of my friends to have a baby).

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:11

Had a shed load of the stuff last year when I was quite ill!

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Gingermonkey · 10/05/2007 08:11

Squonk, did you go to a fancy pants hospital?

fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:13

oops. Sorry, I just assumed everyone had one.

Will stop criticising my local hospitals now.

Remind her not to take knickers that sit on the c.s. cut, they are super uncomfy, she needs BIG granny knicks that go over the top, the bigger the better as they may stay over the top, instead of rolling down and still sitting on the cut.

(wish I'd taken more advantage of that button now I know it was a privelege not a right!)

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:13

OH! Sorry! She has a dd already, I meant it's her first section!!

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fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:13

not fancy pants, no.

Scarborough general - NHS's finest, obviously

(and I knew the tea lady who worked nights, so she kept bringing me illicit cups of tea when everyone else was asleep)

Getting all nostalgic now

Gingermonkey · 10/05/2007 08:17

Ooh, now that's only an hour and a half away from me so I reckon I could get in there next time, that sea side air will do me the world of good! .....>>>>

yacketyblah · 10/05/2007 08:17

My c-section was fab. DD was breech and hadn't turned. DH was there all the time and was great at calming me.

I had stressed so much about the needle going in (that was the worst thought for me). In the event it just felt like pressure, no sharp or excrutiating (sp) pain as I'd been expecting.

After that the worst thing was the weird tugging sensation. It didn't hurt, just felt very odd.

The whole thing took less than half an hour or so - and I had a cyst removed at the same time.

Wish your friend the best of luck from me and tell her to just focus on the lovely little bundle she'll get at the end of it!

wheelybug · 10/05/2007 08:18

No pain relief button here either and that was 2 years ago. I had old fashioned tablets .

A new tip that a friend came up with who is also having a c-sec on monday is apparently you can get tena lady pants from boots which would provide the pad and disposable pants all in one. Otherwise, big granny nicks will do the job.

Also, tell her to start taking arnica now (I ended up having a c-sec in the very early hours of monday morning and had been taking arnica since the friday which I think helped recovery), I was also recommended zinc with vit c.

Also tell her to walk as soon as she can and to walk a bit more every day.

hertsnessex · 10/05/2007 08:19

Birth plan ideas:

*Women have had the screen removed so they can watch the operation, or have used a mirror to watch their baby being born, or have been helped to sit up a little so they can see their baby being born. We know of one woman who was helped by her surgeon to lift her baby out herself.

*You may want to make sure that the paediatric unit, resuscitation unit and weighing scales, where the baby is checked over at birth will be in theatre with you so that providing your baby is well (and most caesarean born babies are), he/she need never leave your sight or hearing.

*You can ask the midwife to give you a running commentary, and/or for music to be playing, or for quiet in theatre (particularly at the moment of birth). If you ask for quiet at the moment of birth then your voice can be the first voice your baby hears.

*You can ask for your baby to be delivered onto your chest, to discover your baby's sex for yourself rather than being told.

*You can ask to have photographs taken. Some people like photographs of the baby being lifted out of the incision (others don't!). You can also ask for one of the baby in the weighing scales - a good one because it shows the weight too.

*You can ask for the lights to be dimmed for a couple of minutes at the moment of birth. Babies are born with their eyes open so if the lights are dimmed and there is silence, yours can be the first face that comes into view and yours the first voice your baby hears.

*You can ask for your baby to be wrapped in a blanket and laid across your shoulder so you and your birth partner can 'baby gaze' while you are being sewn up - it's a wonderful distraction!

*You could choose a special soft blanket or towel for baby to be wrapped in (or to be draped over both of you during skin-to-skin). You could sleep with the blanket the night before your CS so that even if you can't hold your baby he/she will be wrapped up and still be able to smell his mother.

*You can delay having your baby washed, bathed or dressed until you are back on the maternity ward and have fed him or her for the first time.

*You can ask to be shown your placenta and have it explained to you by a midwife.

*If your baby is well there should be no reason why he/she should be separated from you in theatre or in the recovery room. Skin-to-skin contact should be facilitated and you should be helped to start to breastfeed when you want to.

*If you have a general anaesthetic you might want to give some thought to who should introduce your baby to you when you come around, and who (among family and friends) should be allowed to see your baby before you do if you are so unwell that meeting your baby is delayed.

wheelybug · 10/05/2007 08:21

ooh and tell her - another friend of mine who had an elective for her 2nd (having had emergency 1st time) describes her time in hospital following it as the most relaxed time she's had since having children because she had little pain and could just sit around and watch tv, read magazines .... and occasionally feed a newborn .

Just in case she wants positive stories (I wouldn't describe the time I spent in hospital after my em c-sec like this but there's no need to tell your friend that and am sure that was more to do with the emergency nature of the situation than anything else !).

whomovedmychocolate · 10/05/2007 08:23

Mumto3girls - I'm allergic to morphine and I too was offered two paracetamols, during a 14 hour induced labour. Only when they finally admitted defeat and gave me a section did I get an epidural...then afterwards, out came the paracetamol again!

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 10/05/2007 08:24

I have told her I've set up this thread so ABSOLUTELY NO HORROR STORIES or else

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DANCESwithnewlytannedlegs · 10/05/2007 08:27

LULU...where are yooooohoooo?

wheelybug · 10/05/2007 08:28

adds - I would only NOT describe my stay in hospital not like my friends because I was a moody cow desperate to get home after 8 nights in hospital (pre-during-post). I actually had a quicky recovery so basically felt fine but was just unable to relax. Also dd had had issues pre and during birth so it was all a bit of a worry.

Gingermonkey · 10/05/2007 08:29

Take books too, and mags and maybe some nail varnish - the baby sleeps most of the time and you get a bit bored, but it is lovley having the rest. And tell her to stay in for as long as she can, make the most of it because as soon as you come home you forget you've had a section and start doing too much and especially if she already has a DD - she will need the rest!!!!! (And try and get a private room - ask on the day, they are only about £20 and mean you can sleep more)

fryalot · 10/05/2007 08:29

tell her that even though she won't be able to pick up her dd, someone can hand dd to her so they can still share cuddles

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