To home birth or not, traumatic 1st birth experience, horrid MIL

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30 weeks pregnant with second baby. Baby 1 will be 16 months at my due date.

Delivery for baby 1 was somewhat traumatic (went in with bleeding and reduced movement, dr insisted on a sweep, I declined three times and gave in on the 4th, I haemorrhaged and was induced. Baby back to back, no real progress made for 6 hours, drip increased and increased until I was "doing it properly" and I went from 3cm to fully dilated in 90 mins. Baby wasn't in the right position and became distressed, we were left to see if things would improve and she was checked every 30 mins for 90 mins. Foetal heart decels worsened and we nearly lost baby 1 (only told this after the event naturally!) - we were whisked off to theatre for rotational forceps delivery.)
I've come to terms with this (for the most part) but would very much like to avoid a similar scenario for baby 2 so I'm keen for as hands off an approach as possible (though know things change and I'll do whatever is needed for a healthy outcome.)

Additionally, this time when I go into labour obviously baby 1 will need to be taken care of, I have no family nearby, my partner's mum loves 20 mins away but has undermined my parenting at every turn and has mobility issues so I'm worried about leaving an active toddler who has a vague routine that MIL won't even loosely adhere to. I have to admit that I despise my partner's mother since the birth of baby 1 and the constant undermining so not sure if this is clouding my judgement and I'm being totally unreasonable but I really don't want her involved. (FWIW she's done the same to my partner and he's been annoyed by it too, I still encourage relationships between them all, I just personally keep my distance)

Has anyone had a home birth after a somewhat traumatic though medically straightforward delivery? What are the pros and cons? I live around 20 mins from the hospital (10 mins or less if blue lights). I coped ok with the pain of labour but ended up with a spinal so have no idea what delivery feels like plus I reckon this time my dislike of the MIL is enough to motivate me to keep away from epidurals as I'd want to be up and out ASAP etc.
Am I daft for even considering a home birth given what happened first time? Any pointers would really be appreciated! Sorry this was so long!

“Home is never the least risky approach.“

Actually for some groups of mothers the evidence suggests it is.

www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg190/resources/choosing-place-of-birth-resource-for-midwives-msword-248730877

This resource from NICE shows that for low risk mothers having their second baby opting for an obstetric unit for labour results in 5x the rate of unplanned caesarean and double the number of blood transfusions compared to similar mothers who opt for a homebirth. No difference in the outcome for babies.

Anutteridiot - but none of that appears to be making a difference to outcomes.

There is no evidence for second time Mums that choosing a homebirth results in more deaths and injuries for mums and babies, regardless of the fact that sometimes ambulance transfers take time.