Husband against ecs

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Hi,
I'm 16 weeks pregnant with my first child and really scared!

I'm happily pregnant and can't wait to have our baby.

But I am beyond scared about delivery (both for baby and me). So much so that I told my husband I might speak to the midwife about an ecs. He was pretty disgusted and used words such as disappointing & lazy. I was so upset he immediately apologised and said I could do whatever I wanted.

He sent me a few text messages the next day asking how I was and then said that his big problem was that it took the shine off things for him, knowing we would have a date in the diary for baby to arrive, like a reminder to pick up dry cleaning etc. But whatever I wanted.

I was really upset and still am.

I don't know what the right thing to do is, in terms of the birth & this has just made things even worse. I've spoken to the midwife who is referring me to a midwife on delivery suite who can talk me through things and failing that will refer me to a obstetrician to discuss/ageee ecs.

I'd really like some advice (and not so much judgement please), thanks x

I had an ELCS and it was great. Nothing like picking up dry cleaning. You have to be happy with the process op, not your DH. He's been a total git. Tell him to read up on birth injuries and then get back to you.

DW had DD via emergency C Section. Your husband is being a twat..
no further comments your honour

No uterus, no opinion

I'm quite disgusted at this sctuslly. I had a caesarean , albeit an emergancy one, although we knew from about 36 weeks it was highly likely, and giving birth to my daughter was nothing like picking up the dry cleaning. Giving birth is giving birth.

I can't really even remotely understand why you're husband thinks he should get a say in how you deliver, why it makes a difference to him, or how it takes the shine off, unless he gets his rocks off seeing you in pain.

That's not a nervous first time father that's a controlling and utter twat.

Sounds like he's been watching too many movies!

Maybe he needs to be educated on what it's really like to give birth and he'd want to support you as much as possible.

I hope he's not always like this and it's just first-time father nerves!