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Will my boyfriend be aloud to stay with me?

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user1476968120 · 12/01/2017 16:11

I live in a town where my hospital's proper maternity ward has shut down, So all women unless its a straight forward pregnancy and birth have to travel to the next town over to have their babies. But my midwife has told me that If I want to be, I can be moved back to my normal hospital to rest for afew days after the birth. At any time, There is only about 2-3 women there so we will all have our own rooms, We won't be on a ward together.

I was just wondering, If anyone would know, Since we will be in our own room alone, Would my boyfriend be aloud to stay with me, Or would I only get to see him at the set visiting hours which is only about 3 hours a day :(

The idea of being alone and i do mean alone unless i need help from the midwivies because its so quiet in the old building now isn't very appealing to me, and tbh, my boyfriend is quite upset that he might not be able to stay with me and our baby afterwards.

I do live in the UK, Shrewsbury infact if this helps, I've tried looking for more information, But found people both saying yes and no to dad's being aloud to stay in the days/over night after the birth.

I do plan on asking my midwife, but my next appointment isn't for another month. Oh, And this will be my first child, if that makes a difference.

Has anyone got any experience with this problem or could give me some advice, Thanks :3

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smellsofelderberries · 13/01/2017 00:25

Can't give you any advice on your hospital of if your boyfriend will be allowed to stay, but I agree with other that have said try not to have too much of a 'plan' about what is going to happen. I wanted to be hospital overnight at most. My labour and delivery was straight forward, until my placenta fell apart before I delivered it and a huge chunk stayed behind and I haemorrhaged. I had to be taken to theatre and lost 1.8L of blood in total. 4 nights in hospital (and DD was born at 4.30am, we didn't leave until 6pm the 5th day!) and even then I really, really struggled at home, even though DH was there and my DD is a dream. Things don't always go to plan and I found it hard when I couldn't do what I had planned for.

teaandbiscuitsforme · 14/01/2017 20:08

OP I had DD at Telford and transferred to Shrewsbury 6 hours after she was born for 1 night. Partners are definitely allowed in for the full day- don't worry about him being kicked out after a few hours! They can't stay though, or at least they couldn't when I was in. It was really busy that weekend though, the place was packed. Good luck!

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