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Did anyone struggle to conceive and now feel very grateful for the bouncing baby they have

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Debbsyandson · 21/02/2007 22:23

I do my little boy is 9 weeks old,took over 2 years and 3 mcs to conceive,and i feel like shouting it from the rooftops how much i love my little boy,and how grateful and happy i feel to have him.I just thought it would be a nice thread to start to give the ttc hope...

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Debbsyandson · 22/02/2007 10:16

lullaby what a lovely thing to say.

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katierocket · 22/02/2007 10:17

Yes, took us 3 years and IVF to conceive DS2, still can't believe it really.

lizziemun · 22/02/2007 10:21

Yes, it took 2 years to fall for dd, as you say i cried everytime i found out someone was pg. We had been referred to IVF Clinic and my dh announced his wife was pg i sat and cried my eyes out. The next week found out i was 10weeks pg . When dd was 10ths we started ttc again 18mths later found out i was 7 weeks pg had a mc the next week june last year it was due on dd 3rd birthday.

I am now 13weeks pg after 2yrs.

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Debbsyandson · 22/02/2007 10:23

huuuuge congratulations lizzie best of luck.

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Debbsyandson · 22/02/2007 10:50

And can you all remember when you first felt your babies move-magical moment dh still has the txt on his phone saying ive just felt our lo move.... blub blub blub

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Lullabyloo · 22/02/2007 10:59

yes...magical...just magical

OldieMum · 22/02/2007 11:13

We got our lovely DD (now 4) after 8 attempts at IUI and IVF. The day she was born was the happiest of my life. We tried again to have a second baby, doing three more cycles of IVF. Then we conceived naturally and now we have another, beautiful baby - DS is 7 months old.

The long grind of fertility treatment was extremely hard - painful, lonely and full of grief for all the potential babies who didn't make it. I am so grateful that we didn't give up. My heart goes out to anyone going through the agony of infertility.

itsmeNDaveP · 22/02/2007 11:17

lizziemum - your dh announced that his wife was pregnant ?!

twoisplenty · 22/02/2007 11:36

oldiemum, that must have taken huge courage. Can't imagine it but I've seen programmes on tv of a couple doing one round of IVF and that was so much heartache. Really pleased it all came right in the end.

lizziemun · 22/02/2007 12:09

itsmeNDaveP

Sorry should have read Dh friend. Sorry dd was Helping.

itsmeNDaveP · 22/02/2007 12:12

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mummydoc · 22/02/2007 12:18

my dd1 was concieved by IVF , it started as a triplet pregnancy and I lost 1 at 6 weeks, 1 at 12 weeks and then had dd1 - she is now 7 and i still think how lucky i am ( though not every day !! depending on her attitude) especially when she is asleep - i still go in and look at her and imagine having 2 more the same as her around and it doesn't make me sad just even more grateful for her IYKWIM, i also have dd2 who took 14 montsh to concieve with clomid and she has made me so happy.

mummydoc · 22/02/2007 12:20

just read articrolls comment about crying at the sight of a babygro on the washing line - well the most treasured photo i have is not of dd1 as a new born but of the first row of tiny white socks on the washing line - i could cry 7 years later just thiking abou tit.

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Debbsyandson · 22/02/2007 12:39

awwww im so glad i started this thread its such a happy thread with some lovely stories.
Oldiemum so so pleased for you you must have shown such courage.

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Firepile · 22/02/2007 12:49

DP and I spend a lot of time reflecting on how lucky we are to have our son. We are both subfertile, but had a quick diagnosis before we were really ttc, and managed to conceive on our first (NHS) ICSI cycle.

And our son is just the most brilliant little person. He has already brought so much to our lives.

theheadgirl · 22/02/2007 12:57

What a fantastic thread. I conceived my gals with no real problems, and although I can type the words "I know how lucky I am" it seems empty after reading all your stories. I remember first seeing those blue lines on the test stick - which I kept for ages! (yuck) but how much more intense the feeling must be when conceiving is a struggle. I'm very happy to read about your beautiful babies

Lullabyloo · 22/02/2007 13:45

i spent a huge amount of my maternity pay (don't tell dh)on a 3D scan...it was an amazing experience & worth every single penny.
To watch my lo inside me..yawning,sucking his thumb..sucking his toes...to be able to put movements to the jabs & kicks i was feeling...was unexplainable joyous & miraculous.
I watched him for an hour & a half & cried bitterly when the scan finally ended.
I was given a video of the whole thing though & some incredible pictures.
One is framed by my bedside...
It was an amazing bonding experience.
I'm looking forward to showing ds when he is a little bigger

liath · 22/02/2007 13:57

One of my best pregnancy memories was phoning the IVF unit and cancelling my appointment beause I was 5 weeks pg - the nurse who answered the phone was so lovely and said it had made her day to take to call! I wonder if the fact we were about to start IVF made me relax enough to conceive naturally, had also had reflexology so who knows....

It's lovely to read all these stories. Mind you, I didn't enjoy the early period of motherhood at all and I think that the infertility thing didn't help because I felt guily for not feeling happier IYSWIM. Now in a way I am grateful becuase if it hadn't taken so long to get pg I wouldn't have had the unique person that is dd and I simply cannot imagine existing without her.

kiteflying · 22/02/2007 14:40

This is such a lovely thread. Thanks for starting it. I am only thirteen weeks pregnant with our LO but I think we have loved her passionately and protectively since all we could see was a four cell embryo just before she was implanted!

Nothing can take away the pain of infertility - I think it will always be a huge part of my life. I did so much regret and self-blame over those two years. But it amplifies all the joys of pregnancy in a way no one other than the "diagnosed" infertile can possibly understand. I have cried at both my scans and I cried every time we got good news through our successful IVF cycle. I suspect I will still be crying at her eighteenth birthday.

daisyhun · 22/02/2007 15:35

YES!!! I have PCOS and conceived on my fourth cycle of treatment with clomid - 2 months before our first IVF consultation.

I remember the pain of thinking that we might never have children. I now have a beautiful precious DD who is 4 weeks old and she is absolutely perfect - I thank my lucky stars every time I look at her that she is ours, but still can't quite believe it.

What a lovely thread and I hope TTC-ers do get some hope from it!

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Debbsyandson · 22/02/2007 15:58

kiteflying congrat on your pg i want anothe one already.
CONGRATS too daisyhun 4 weeks old bless what did you call her?

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brimfull · 22/02/2007 16:08

yes took us 2 years to conceive dd and then had to wait another 10 for ds.
Never thought it would happen and sometimes still have to pinch myself when I look at him,he's 4 now.

hunkerdave · 22/02/2007 16:14

Yes, I was told I'd never have children when I was 22 (I had severe endometriosis and PCOS). DS1 conceived on clomid, after three surgeries for endometriosis and a burst ovarian cyst, DS2 conceived naturally and very quickly a year after DS1 was born!

LRWG · 22/02/2007 16:33

Lovely thread

DD finally arrived after two MCs, terrible pregnancy and severe SPD, so severe it has been suggested that maybe we shouldn't have another baby

It does make me sad to know that DD may be our only one, but we always said we'd adopt anyway... and it makes DD even more precious and if I'd been forewarned, a few years ago, the heartbreak and pain we'd go through to get her, I'd still do it in a heartbeat! I love her so much I still can't believe it

Sorry, very gushy I know.

Lullabyloo · 22/02/2007 16:40

not gushy honey...just lovely...like you

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