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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Help giving birth and...........................!

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BabyMadwithBump · 31/01/2007 11:22

(TMI WARNING) I was watching a birth on telly last week and as this woman was pushing her baby out she was also pooing alot, now I'm so scared of doing the same, also having nightmares about it please advice needed, due to thinking about home birth and MIL will be there and possible SIL, as well as DH, help!

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lulumama · 02/02/2007 16:30

sorry he has upset you

there is a big difference, between pooing on the baby, which is what he said, and pooing while you give birth! you cannot, cannot help, physically pooing....even if you go to the loo first, anything in the rectum is coming out when you push baby down the birth canal

also, the midwife will clear it away so quick!

it is not deliberately pooing on the baby

think he is being a little bit silly, TBH....

show him this thread !

make sure any bad vibes between you are cleared before you are in the labour room!

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BabyMadwithBump · 02/02/2007 16:34

lulumama I will show him tonight!
Debbsyandson I'm only 14 weeks but what started this off was I watch this birth on telly and now I cant get this woman pooing out my head, well I did untill DH that is!

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Debbsyandson · 02/02/2007 16:37

trust me you will have no idea about it you wont even care you need to have a stern chat with dh though

Blu · 02/02/2007 16:39

Oh poor you.
Honestly, if you are thinking of homebirth, he needs to get his mature and supportive act together pdq! I don't know how you can get him to do that, though. Are you doing NCT classes?

And truly, don't have anyone anywhere near you, even in the same house, who you do not REALLY want to be there. You need to be able to be 'in the moment' not self-conscious - and privacy and quiet are the best conditions for labour. I was really irritated by people when I was in labour.

You will be fine. Good luck!

stleger · 02/02/2007 16:43

This may be bad science, I can't believe I made it up .... Breastfed babies are given a vitamin k injection, needed to help with blood clotting. Apparently, and I am not a scientist, it would normally have been in the mums poo as baby arrived. I need someone to tell me if that is correct; but that needn't concern you, you can tell dh that 'I read somewhere....', the impeccable source goes unmentioned. (Yes I pooed too)

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BabyMadwithBump · 02/02/2007 16:47

NCT class never been to any this will be my 3rd but I might try them this time might make a man out of my DH yet!

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mrsmalumbas · 02/02/2007 16:56

Hey you are completely right about the Vit K - I think Sheila Kitzinger discusses it. In fact and this may be TMI but there is a sort of jelly like mucusy substance in the woman's rectum which comes out just before the poo and it is chockablock full of vit K. I have a doula colleague who calls it baby jelly. There is also a school of thought that exposing the baby to some fecal matter is good for the development of the immune system. And as Lulumama says you can't help it. Having said that I have seen lots of women give birth without poo. It's not always inevitable! But midwives generally will be quite happy to see anal dilatation and indeed poo because it means the baby will not be far behind! (And even in a pool, no problem, you just have someone scoop it out with a little net thingy - I bought one of those nets for cleaning out fish tanks especially for the purpose!)

lulumama · 02/02/2007 16:58

midwife friend of mine also told me about the 'baby jelly' !! also, tbh, there will be that much fluid, blood, general gunk , that some poo might not even be noticed !

Blu · 02/02/2007 17:00

Oh sorry BMWB - teaching you to suck eggs!

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BabyMadwithBump · 02/02/2007 17:07

Blu No not at all, NCT class is a great plan if i ask them they might talk about pooing and then DH might see sence!

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stleger · 02/02/2007 21:32

At least I know I didn't dream it!

sorkycake · 02/02/2007 21:50

I pooed in my pool as ds was crowning, m/w just kept on scooping as pool had bits of allsorts in. At one point I did think 'what are they doing back there', but you won't care and neither will Dh. Having pool birth again (God please let it be soon) and have a sieve ready. Tbh with you my Dh had to clean the pool the next day and only commented then at how grim it was, but it was the blood and other fluid that bothered him.
he m/w's are very discreet, and you could always say to Dh well it's likely to happen if you have a problem with any aspect of the birth I suggest you say now and get over it or you aren't welcome there.
In the scheme of things it's not such a biggie honestly. Pooing will be much more worrying after you've given birth and you feel like all your organs are about to fall out!

Creena · 03/02/2007 13:42

Lol at sorkycake - yes, I can recall trying to poo after giving birth. It was like my body was saying to me "ssshyeah, right! I remember what happened last time you got me to push and I'm not doing that again!"

TrinityRhino · 03/02/2007 13:45

It was only after the birth od dd2 that I had thought about whther I pooed or not, I asked dh and he said 'no'. He probably would say that even if I had and it's certainlynot something that your m/w will be bothered about
wouldn't have thought your dh would either
your in laws probably won't even notice, don't worry about it or you could talk to your dh about it first if it malkes you feel better

rachelhill · 03/02/2007 21:00

I think the etiquette should be 'if you see it or smell it and don't acknowledge it IT NEVER HAPPENED'.

Midwifes quietly hide the evidence. Besides, it's not like he's going to be close enough to the point of the action to know whether it's blood, mucus or poo is he?

He's poop himself too, if he had a baby shooting out of his penis

Tell him that every bodily fluid bar sperm WILL be involved and that if he ever wants the missing fluid to be present in your relationship again to belt up!

Sorry, a bit of a rant there, but FFS, you are having a baby, you have enough things to think about without getting stressed out about floating a chocolate airship

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BabyMadwithBump · 04/02/2007 22:02

Update: DH, he's said that (also read our/my tread hehehe) he doesn't care weather I poo or not he's going to be more bothered about me and baby than a little poo, bless! So thank you ladies but I'm sure I'll have more worrying things to talk over with you good ladies in the next few months (baby not due till 03/08/07) But I have decided that I'm not ready for in'law to see my poo whether their bothered or not so it will be just DH and I weather I have a HB or not!
Thanks again You've all been very supportive and I LOVE the funny story's very good at seeing aother side of pooing rather than I negative side that us PG tend to see when were thinking about the birth, labour and baby!
Very happy non-worrying Babymadxx for the moment anyway !

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