Body after c-section

[CommanderShepherd]

Not sure whether this is the right board or not but needing reassurance. Had ds 2 weeks ago by emcs, I've recovered really well but there is a coupe of things that are worrying me. I can feel a lump underneath my scar, which I'm assuming is the muscles they had to cut as it goes across my stomach. I assume this is normal? My second issue is that the scar had caused a 'pooch' which under my clothes feels like a huge fat roll that super obese people get. (I'm size 12/14)
Will this ever go away? The rest of my bump is pretty much gone although I know it still takes a few weeks for the womb to go back to normal. So, fellow c-sectioners out there, I'm not going to have a washboard stomach but are these lumps and bumps anything for me to worry about

Ok, you touched a nerve. I reacted strongly and I'm sorry.

Tbh, OP, various attitudes that women aren't proper mums if they don't have 'natural' births, breastfeed, etc, are deeply upsetting and it's so sad that there is a competitive element to us having all boxes ticked.

I hope you're ok. My scar was numb for a while and then slowly, sensation came back. The tissue seems ok underneath.

My abs were cut, rather than parted (top tight; result of exercise), so my operation and recovery were pretty painful.

Go easy. And congrats!

A lot of the time it isn't a competitive thing. It's being made to feel like an utter fucking failure for not doing these things.

Are you breastfeeding? Ooohh no? What a shaaaaame. I can't believe people even ask that. And you just mumble something and look at the floor and feel even worse.

I'm not breastfeeding and I tried for weeks and ended up broken with an unhappy baby. Add a c section on top of that and you may as well call social services immediately according to some.

I have had total strangers ask about the birth and the answer of a c section has actually been met with 'oh so you're too posh to push' actually I was too close to dying to have a choice.

Society seems ready to condem women who don't have the idea birth or feeding regime. The OP is entirely justified to have whatever feelings she has. Just because you don't agree doesn't make her feelings any less valid.

Perhaps channel your anger at those who put people down and undermine them and support those who feel upset and unhappy with what happened.

I've now read your second post and I apologise too. I reacted just as badly.

I think the fact that these situations inflames us shows how much it hurts people. Sad, really.

Being healthy and happy is the only thing to strive for.