Elective C-Sections when alone?

[Themis1977]

Has anybody had an elective c-section and not had anybody at home to help them once they left hospital?

I had a EMCS last time but had no other children and a husband to help.

This time around I have a toddler and will be alone. I have no family around to help and no friends I can expect to help out. This is genuinely the case so please no replies suggesting ways that I can ask people to help me. My friends have shown themselves to be completely unsupportive and crap over the death or my Father recently and the breakdown of my marriage. If they can't even bring themselves to text to see how I am then I don't think I can rely on them to help me after the birth.

I do have daycare for my son, but will have to do everything else myself. There is a possibility EX-H would do nursery drop offs and pick ups but I can't rely on him (alcoholic) so have to be prepared that he will let me down.

Any advice? Is this likely to be manageable or should I try for a V-Bac? If I went into labour in the middle of the night I would be stuck for childcare, unless EX-H could be contacted and was sober. I can't rely on this though.

Good luck with the MW, she will know the resources available in your local area and hopefully they will be able to help you.

I'm so sorry for your loss of your dad, and I hope your crappy friends start being less crappy, and your soon to be ex fucks off without too much stress for you.

The other option is to throw yourself on your mum's mercy and ask her to take some unpaid leave.

Yes, I agree with Gobbo what is your relationship like with your mum? Would she consider it?

I had an elcs a couple of weeks ago, whilst I did have help it was hard work with the toddler. She didn't understand I wasn't supposed to lift her, lifting her in to her cot in the evening and out in the morning was the hardest bit. I would transition the toddler to a bed before your CS and also get s step for them to climb in to your bed or other places they need to get up to.