home birth?

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I am getting increasingly concerned about the birth of DC3, which isn't until July.

The primary issue is I have no one to take my two older DCs. DS is 8 and my DD will only be fifteen months when no3 arrives.

it is starting to look as if a home birth is my only available option - can anyone talk me through if this is the case?

I'm scared

I have no idea about your personal situation and am not judgemental but I did see your other thread and wondered if you might have at least one person who may be able to help you seeing as you described that person as a friend. Just trying to be helpful and make suggestions.

Nothing else.

ISolemnly - oh come on.

You wouldn't have put a link on here to my other thread if that really was the case, I'd hardly forget a partner would I?

No, you thought it was a troll post. I DON'T mind - hopefully I have clarified matters - but please, own it at least!

No sorry. I won't 'own' what isn't true. I've stuck around on this thread to try and help you despite the persistent attitude.

Apologies if you've misunderstood my good intentions. Good luck with your home birth. Hope you can find someone with better suggestions than me

OP haven't read beyond first few posts but can you contact your local home birth support group? Mine is fab and has a v active FB group - bet you'd find someone to help with DC on that.

Or, ask if a student MW might attend to be on hand for DC as a special favour? IME home birth MW are ridiculously dedicated and a zealous student might say yes.

Also on pain relief, in my area they can do diamorphine too, ie everything except epidural.

My home birth was fab :)

A friend went into labour unexpectedly (middle of night) and had to ask her next door neighbour to look after her other child- they weren't friends but people like to help and are generally good people. Do you have next door neighbours? You could get making friends now for July

I have to say I quite love how you've dealt with picky posters on the thread OP, I'm sure you'll be able to sort something

Ask for help. There must be a friendly face, even if you don't know that well. I am sure that there are people around you who would want to help if you could only let them know that you need it.
I hope that all works out well. Good luck.

I second contacting homestart, there is plenty of time for you and your dc to build a relationship with one of their volunteers. Who could then assist you with childcare while your in labour. And probably be massively useful in the weeks following the birth too. They have a website you can look at for more info if you want it-
www.home-start.org.uk/
I hope everything works out well for you.

I only read the first couple of pages of posts and while you are entitled to give only the information you choose, you can't get annoyed when people make unfeasible suggestions. However I also recognise you must find this very stressful.

Fortunately you are not the first person to have this problem. You midwife will sort out a short placement with social services and this can happen at very short notice. It only extends for as long as you need. If you midwife is unhelpful then contact a supervisor of midwives of which there are many, they will certainly support you.

Good luck