Oh Blueberry it sounds like you've had a horrible experience. So sorry to hear that and I hope you are ok.
As I said before, of course I, like most people, would never "choose" to have an instrumental delivery. In fact, I would choose a pain free, damage free magic spell, which would deliver my baby for me please... 
I do find the onus which is sometimes placed on women to "choose" the best options for birth occasionally counterproductive; as if to say, "Oh well done you, your straightforward birth with no injuries was clearly because you chose the right mode of birth" or "oh silly you, you should have pre-empted this and fought with highly trained medical professionals to insist on a c-sec".
Obviously a degree of choice is good, I just don't believe there always is a choice regarding instrumental deliveries - sometimes it seems to be a case of getting the baby out right then and there or risking life-threatening injury to mother or baby. Under those circumstances I would rather take advice from the HCP who is actually there at the time regarding the method instead of consulting my pre-prepared risk assessment of the various options.
As PPs have said - child birth is a risky business. This thread could almost have been titled "Child Birth: never mentioned risks". C-sec, forceps, ventouse, waterbirths; I have now read about all of these options apparently being responsible for significant injury to numerous birthing mothers. Surely it depends on each individual case rather than the method in that case..?
If there is a campaign for better aftercare I would find that really interesting.