41 wks, been in early labour for 2 wks & no one will help!

[millysimmons]

I've been in early labour for 2 weeks now & getting pretty fed up! Have tried everything to get this babe out! Am also having problem with due dates which the consultants are still arguing about. I was due 13th sep, they say 2nd oct- only thing they are baseing their date on is 20wk scan. I'm using LMP, implantation bleeding, pregnancy test dates & other scan dates all which concour the 13th sep.
Main problem is threefold:
1)How long are they goinng to leave me before they help me. By my dates I am 41 weeks now but not by theirs so they wont help yet.
2)Have asked for a 2nd opinion from the consultant ut cant see him till next thursday so am worried about health of baby till then
3)Have been told they wont induce me because I have severe SPD & even though they where going to induce me originally at 38 wks they have now changed their mind due to some new research- that I cant find anywhere!
Does anyone have any ideas at all? Am considering changing hospital which seems a little drastic.
Only reason I have been told that the early labour is taking so long is baby is back to back & contractions arent strong enough to get him going & he keeps moving. So i get to about 45 minutes of good strong contractions & it all stops slows down.
Am really at wits end & its eating away at me as I really dont know what to do or who to get help from.

Been told by everyone at the hospital he is a very happy baby at the moment!! I am now laughing at the fact he has got his headout & gone for another play & dont I know about it as he's a big baby & a real fidget!!!!Obviously has his own idea of what he wants to do- wonder who he gets that from??!!!!

so glad you're feeling better milly and that baby is happy
hopefully when it all happens it'll be nice and quick!

Millysimmons, couldn't believe when you said he's got his head back out! So has my little darling! My pains have all stopped too! I'll be a week over on Monday and will be having a membrane sweep. Had reflexology last thursday, but nothing resulted from that, other than a chance to relax and be pampered! Got another session booked for next friday (hopefully she'll be here by then) and I'll probably be induced at the weekend if she still hasn't arrived. I'll be 12 days over next Saturday and midwife said that's how long they leave you before they start you off.

Hi Milly
We are due about the same time - so now overdue about the same too. I've had two episodes of thinking 'hurrah here we go' ... then stopped and then the worries of 'is everything ok in there' rear up.

Also ... she was prety low down three weeks ago ... and has been steadily dis-engaging!

Your mood, like mine, will vacillate ... but if the medical chaps really were concerned they would intervene.

Let's just agree to conclude that you and I must have lovely comfortable wounds that our babies are happy in ... and try (if we can, I'm speaking to myself here too) to enjoy our 'extra days' with our lovely babies all cosy, quiet and happy to stay carried under our hearts!

Good luck my lovely -- sending you happy thoughts

wounds -- haha, meant wombs

(Hope that wasn't a Freudian slip!)

Yes far too comfy & well fed!! Went to a small family function yesterday that we had refused to go to as we thought we'd have the baby.....anyhow was frog marched in by my inlaws(at great speed while asking them to slow down & let me get my crutches for the SPD- oh no!!)& paraded about with my large belly & sighs of OH my!! & look at that belly button poking out ( it was the band on my trousers!!) Then plonked in a chair & had a baby thrust at me to practice with!!
Wasnt long before I was heading for the door, much to cries from people of "Off to the hospital?"
Enough moaning, hope your little one comes along soon,cant help but looking longingly at the empty pram....

Oh dear...that sounds dreadful..what are people like sometimes, eh!

I've just been reading your thread and really feel for you. Both my labours went this way, the first lasted 3 weeks and the 2nd 5 weeks. I was told it was an irritable uterus. I would go for hours, sometimes 12 and then nothing. Everyone kept telling me they were BH, and I knew they weren't I know it feels like crap at the minute but you don't have much further to go. With my first I begged and begged for them to induce me but just hit brick walls. Really wouldn't recommend intervention, your body is just not ready hence why nothing is happening - with SPD you need to be careful. On a positive note, once I'd started to dialte there was no stopping and the 2nd phase (3cm - birth) took 2 hours in the 1st birth and 45 mins with the 2nd). Don't panic!

That's rotton. People (usually family in particular) really can be insensitive can't they; they are just excited and mean well but they tend to forget how fed-up you might be.

I had my parents journey down out of the blue on Friday night making me feel under some sort of deadline to deliver! Also dear SIL calling every day and declaring she will be taking day off , MIL saying she will 'abandon everything' etc.

I know they are being kind. But you just feel under pressure to be perfect don't you.

And yes -- the next person (especially a stranger) who stares or who tells me 'hasn't that come out yet' is going to get a punch!

I've put a message on the answer phone saying 'no sign of baby and I'm resting up ready for the big push or I'm in the middle of it -- thanks for calling, stay patient!'. That stops you having to speak to everyone and get more upset with the same 'not yet' convo.

Also -- hope this helps ...am busying myself making musical CDs, reading non-taxing magazines and watching TV series I missed ... may as well just enjoy this quiet time and just say a very firm 'no' / 'lala can't hear you' to all the wellwishers ...

beckymacca
i was the same with both my children but my frist kept trying to come out from 35 weeks and teh second from 27 weeks. they kept putting me on a monitir and telling me that the contractions were real ones and that they'd have to give me something to stop them.went in excatly the same a week later and was told that my cervix was irritable and that they were braxton hicks.i couldnt even stand up.i was in agony and exactly the same pains were happening irregularly yet again on 6th august 2002 at 3am, what a suprize, at 9.51am my son was born.dont assume they're all braxton hicks and if you're really worried get yourself checked out when it happens.i ended up having my son in the lounge at home and not in hospital as planned because i didnt panic too much as id been through exactly the same pain for the past few weeks and assumed this would stop too!

Think my little one is maing his way back into the breech position. whole bump has been moving for 24hrs+ in the opposite way it did when he went head down...... looks lke my bump is comming back up again.......hope its my imagination but am going to try & hold off till tommorrow to go to the hospital as he mnay change his mind again & being a novice am not sure so dont want to look like an over fretting 1st time mum....
Its encouraging to know that others are/have been in this situation though!!
I've taken to ignoring the phone now as just have BT call minder so cant cahnge the message on that. Think next time ( gosh will we do this again??!!) am not going to tell people when the baby is due!

Is there an update milly? Hope all is well.

Hi Milly, I'm guessing by the lack of messages from you your little darling has arrived...

Mine came on September 26th, after 3 false alarms during the previous week and it all went very smoothly and quickly!

I hope you were the same after all your troubles and all is well.

Let us know and take care.

Mine little boy Oliver arrived on 7th October weighing in at 8lb 13oz- so although a good size not the whooper they predicted!! Very long labour- went into be induced took days to get me to start to dilate then whey hey!! Ended up having forceps but glad it wasnt a section.

Oliver is a darling- eats well, 11lb 4oz at todays weigh in, sleeps well & is such a love I feel really lucky.

Hope you're all getting on well & loving motherhood

Congratulations Milly,

I bet you were releaved, as I was, their predictions of a 10 pounder were wrong! If I'd have had a boy, we were calling him Oliver! We named our little girl Olivia, she weighed 8lbs 6oz and she too eats well and has slept through the night since 2 weeks! She's an absolute darling.

Take care, enjoy your new family and be happy!

Congratulations Milly! What a fantastic weight gain in just a month, he was certainly ready for milk wasn't he!!
Glad he turned the right way around for his entrance into the world.
Well done to you both!
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