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Embarrassing: What is ettiquette re grooming of lady garden?

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sunnyside · 09/08/2006 15:31

I know I sound bonkers but when it comes to giving birth what sort of state should my lady garden be in?! Don't want to look like I don't pay it any attention like some hairy earth mama but equally don't want to give it full strim and look like I'm prepubescent!!!!

I've asked my friends but basically we all end up screaming laughing and not really getting a straight answer!

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Flumpybumpy · 12/08/2006 14:05

After reading this thread I asked DH if he would mind 'giving it a bit of a trim' for me. He has decided a lightening bolt shape would look good!!! Now I am stuck, I can't see to do it myself, don't trust DH at all now, don't want a baldy (worried it might look like a money box )so may just have to leave it au naturel and hope it's not too bushy!!!

xenabelly · 12/08/2006 20:58

PMSL at money box!!

Molton · 15/08/2006 21:47

Go on, be brave, take the whole lot off (try veet) I've never looked back....

5 minutes once a week and you're sorted - not much finesse required if you're not "shaping" either.

PMSL at moneybox...

tron · 16/08/2006 18:09

veet is great - Jus before sencond c/s MW came over with her apron and bic (no shaving cream I noticed!!!!) Told her I was nothing like scary movie, she sqaid oh no quite tidy really - phew. After first CS midwife said - ooooh they didn't make a good job of shaving you - thanks god I couldn't see it!!!!

lusciouslynda · 16/08/2006 18:28

Who cares what you look like while giving birth? I am sure they've seen it all before.

However, I would have the whole lot waxed if I was going to do it again. I have had 2 c-sections. Both times got infections. This last time the bacteria causing the problem is the same as causes a shaving rash. I always get horrendous rash if I even think about shaving down there, so I think there is a connection between the midwife's BIC razor and my infection.

saka · 26/08/2006 18:00

Hi,

Can I ask, does waxing really hurt? Im booked in for a c section in a few weeks time, and really dont want the blunt dry shave treatment.

Anyone with a previous section had waxing over the area where the old scar is? Also..um..if I go to a salon, do they take everything off, I mean is a landing strip all off apart from the line of hair - even the labia?

I have to admit, I give mine a quick trim and shape with a razor, but Im single at the moment, and kind of let it all go/grow...I started reading this laughing and then thought, oh oh I had better sort it out!

I know, very shortly Ill be in a lot more pain than waxing would cause, but Im being a wimp at the moment..

Thanks

saka

Flumpybumpy · 27/08/2006 11:47

Saka, I'm so glad you have asked that question as I was wondering exactly how far they went with a brazillian. Surely they don't do the bit underneath??

I would like to have one but would prefer to have an idea of what they do first.

Also, how do they get to the 'other bits' . Do you have to lie there with your legs open??

chocybickie · 27/08/2006 11:59

most salons don't take everything off.
it varies widly.
at my local salon a brazillian is a tidy up around the edges. a full brazillian leaves a strip at the top, a little around the edges and on the top (they don't go any further down. knickers are kept on and you just move them from side to side as she does it.
if i want a full wax i have to go to london. for that you do have to lift your legs a little and no knickers.

squishy · 28/08/2006 10:25

chocy, I have a friend who gets all hers off (even the bits around a different hole - sorry if TMI) and can usually find somewhere in most towns prepared to do it !!!!

sarahlou1uk · 28/08/2006 16:53

Hi everyone. In the opinion of someone who's just given birth recently (1 week ago) I would seriously recommend the trimming of the area in question. The bleeding afterwards is heavy and the less amount of hair you have is less yucky to clean (iyswim)! When you're out and about you can't just jump into the shower!

CurrantBun · 29/08/2006 14:33

There is no way I'd do 'knickers off' in any salon! While I don't care what the midwives see, I just couldn't bear to expose my bits to some stunning, perfectly groomed beauty therapist - I would just be far, far too uncomfortable. I think I'm a bit prudish when it comes to things like this although I realise that once I go into labour I probably won't give a damn who sees what!

I'm planning to just get mine as short as I can myself (especially the underneath bit) to make it easier to deal with the heavy bleeding afterwards.

whiffy · 30/08/2006 11:22

Saka, usually they take everything off - round underneath and no.2 entrance unless you ask them not to, but it is only the bit at the front that really hurts (the closer to the bone you get the more painful. The labia area is fine) - I usually go for a strip just because it saves you going through the worst bit. How much it hurts depends on skill of therapist. My current one (in central London if you want a recommendation) only uses real beeswax and get almost everything off in just two 'sweeps'. But if you haven't had it done before first time may well bring tears to your eyes...

Booboobedoo · 30/08/2006 17:55

Boring question alert:

I'm PG with 1st (only 13 weeks), and had stopped using veet as I thought it might pose a risk to the baby (all that hair-melting - bit scary).

Is that bollocks?

This is a very funny thread, btw.

Tried waxing the other day, but... well... unaccustomed pain combined ith morning sickness... 'nuff said.

JessaJam · 30/08/2006 17:56

I suspect that it is bollox tbh!

saka · 30/08/2006 19:04

I would love a recomendation for the central London salon, whiffy. Im definately going to have it all whipped off so I can forget about it, and save on the dry shave experience. Ill have to just make sure I have access to chocolate before and after and all will be well..I might go wild and have my legs done too. I havent been able to shave them for weeks and I look like a yeti...sorry tmi..

Thanks

nooka · 30/08/2006 19:37

I only ever trim if I'm taking the kids swimming, and then only cut the bits that show. Dh got quite into grooming me a while ago which was quite sexy all round at the time, but I got a terrible rash afterwards (even with Immac/Veet). I had the dry Bic for my first c-section, which I found a humiliating experience - I felt I was treated like a complete object, with no thought for my privacy at all. Second time round I gave the area a trim just in case (and I ended up with another c-section, so it was just as well). But really if I heard someone making a comment I would kick up a big fuss, as that is completely out of order. Whether or not you chose to trim your ladygarden is entirely a matter of personal choice, there are no hygiene advantages at all and no one should feel as if they are neglecting themselves if they chose not to trim.

squishy · 30/08/2006 20:41

LOL! having mine waxed next week so I can go to ante natal classes (not bothering with legs, though, the hair is so fair and I just can't be @rsed! Underarms are something that a 1930's Eastern European shotputter would be proud of, though )

motherinferior · 30/08/2006 20:46

It never even occurred to me . I kind of assume the various professionals involved have seen it all before. Given that my first labour ended in theatre and an emergency ventouse (nearly a section) they had other things to think about, I reckon; and my second was a home birth which is surely supposed to be a bit, you know, earthy?

SydSnow · 31/08/2006 13:05

My friend had her baby in Hong Kong and was yelled at by her nurses for not being up to date on her waxing!!

Twinkie1 · 31/08/2006 13:11

God by the time you come to giving birth you won't be able to see it so I wouldn't worry - 1st time got XH to give me a trim and 2nd time I thought bugger it, I can't see it, DH won't be going down there for a very long time and the midwives must ahve seen worse!!

Now I get waxed every 5 weeks and although it is sooo painful there is so much less hair each time. Its the bit in between your legs that I think is too painful for words, when they get you to put your leg on their shoulder!!! Am awaiting the day when I can do it with my tweezers because there is only a few hairs left!!

whiffy · 31/08/2006 13:35

London recommendation - book with Mel at 'Chequers' which is in Leadenhall market just off Bishopsgate. Nearest tubes Bank/Monument. Tel 0207 283 3047. She is about 40 and has definately seen it all before... make sure you get Mel as the other girls there are nowhere near as good/entertaining.

Wax2Go · 31/08/2006 13:38

I have the works with a differing remainder each time, hubby has some input.

Make sure they use talc inbetween and around the back as this does make for a comfier experience.

I use miosturiser twice a day and exfoliate the area daily and so rash and ingrowers are kept to a couple.

It is mildly uncomfy but worth it and with years of waxing the hairs are much less dense and mainly singles per follicle not the doubles i used to have.

Hope that helps.

W2G

themoon66 · 31/08/2006 13:39

When you say 'bit in the middle', do you mean between fanjo and bum?? I think I would need a general anaesthetic for that!

Wax2Go · 31/08/2006 14:01

Yep.

Along the lips i find very unpainfully, front has a higher oww if hair has got a bit too long.

W2G

themoon66 · 31/08/2006 14:18

I've got this far in life without bothering... don't think I'm gonna start now.

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