Am feeding my new son, born on Sat, so this will be brief as one handed!
After the birth, 8 lb-er, I was inspected and told i had torn along my previous episiotomy scar. This prodding around fucking nearly killed me. it was much more painful than the actual birth and i was hopping up the bed trying to get them to stop!
they recom'd a stitch as it had gone some way to the muscle but i couldn't face the thought of it, the needle for the local, and being stitched in the delivery room - was stitched last time in theatre by surgeon (retained placenta, pph) and was flying after a couple of days he did such a great job!
i don't know if we're talking a 2nd or 3rd degree tear, i don't know what makes the grade tbh. i feel ok...dh reckons i should have gone for it at the time - like he'd have ha ha ha, the thought of him in labour, ha ha ha...