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himynameisfred · 17/08/2012 16:55
and moved to bereavement.
It is a birth story, this is where birth stories go.
Does my daughter birth not qualify for here because of what happened??
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 17:08
Hello. We did let you know by PM, OP, that we thought it best to move your thread to Bereavement - where there are lots of posters who've been through the a similar experience to you, and who can offer the most brilliant support and advice.
We're absolutely sure you won't find it like the Mumsnet morgue.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:13
Just to be clear, we moved himynameisfred's thread to Bereavement purely because we'd like her to get some of the wonderful support we know to be there.
We were in no way trying to hustle her out of the Childbirth topic or make any kind of statement about her daughter's birth not being something she could describe or discuss - or something that others might not want to read.
Our thoughts and concern are only for her, and we did PM himynameisfred about this.
Congratulations, too, himynameisfred, on the birth of Angel. And, as we said to you via PM, we're moved and sorry for your loss and wish you much strength in the weeks ahead.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:35
Okay, folks - sorry if we're upsetting everyone. Absolutely not our intention.
We obviously didn't handle this very well and for that we apologise.
As we posted earlier, we've been in touch with himynameisfred - from way before we moved the thread. But clearly there were some crossed wires there and she started this thread while the wires were crossing, as it were.
We'd be happy to move the thread back - as we said, it's the OP we have in mind entirely through all this - but we can see she's posting away on the thread with the Bereavement folk.
We'll drop her a line anyway.
Again, apologies if we sounded disingenuous. We hope you'd all know that would be the very last thing we'd want.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:36
Ah, x-mails with himynameisfred!
Would you like us to move the thread back?
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:44
@LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops
We would never do that. This kind of thing does happen to people at MNHQ, too, you know.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:45
@PQ77
I am glad you are offering to move the thread back. 11 babies die every day in the uk (Tommys website) and it is horrific shock when it happens to you or a family member or a friend because no one talks about it
It was not my intention to be glib. And I'm hugely hugely sorry that you think we would ever be glib about something like this.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:50
That's appreciated, Loopy. Sorry if I took it the wrong way; I thought you were implying that we don't understand what's it's like to lose a child.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:51
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HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:52
@5madthings
i dont think mnhq set out to upset anybody, and i imagine modding these boards is a hard job at times, and we are all fallible, mistakes will be made.
this one is horribly upsetting and was a bad call.
Thank you.
And to repeat once more, we are very sorry for the way we handled this and for the crossed wires with himynameisfred.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 18:58
@peanutMD
I am a big bag of hormones ATM and seem to be prone to speaking before thinking right now.
Thank you peanutMD. That's appreciated.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 19:00
In which case, I'm sorry for my misreading. Am obviously allowing long-buried emotions to affect my posts today. Do please try make me feel better again any time you like.
HelenMumsnet · 17/08/2012 19:08
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