Should I b this teary day after birth?

[Cheekychops84]

I'm in a right pickle! Had baby yesterday at 6.45 am lovely birth was home at 3pm. However she has been up all night (expected) but I'm trying to breastfeed she been attached to my boobs since we came home which midwife said was normal but I have only been able to put her down twice! I've now been in tears and in feeling really really low! My work his rang to say they couldn't find my matb1 but they've foundnit now! I'm now starting to worry about ny pay and about is breastfeeding the right choice I'm basically worrying about everything and it's really silly! Is this lack of sleep ? As I thought baby blues etc kicked in later then this? Help please :(

Yes, it is lack of sleep. Plus the hormones.

Give the baby to someone else (your partner?) and tell him/her to take her round the block in the pram or the sling for half an hour. Also say that, if the baby falls asleep, on no account to come back until she wakes up! Then have a sleep yourself.

The hormones are all over the place (even on day two). The lack of sleep is a killer - imagine if you ran a marathon and then someone said 'ooh, now you need to stay up all night".

If you are still struggling with the breastfeeding, ask the midwife again, again, again. And post on here if you need to. But it does sound normal for day two.

p.s. it isn't a disaster if she cries if you put her down. sometimes you have to - better if she is in someone else's arms, but if that isn't possible, in the bouncy chair whilst you pee/have a drink/eat a sandwich is in her best interests. No newborn needs a collapsed mother!

Oh, and congratulations!

Is it normal to worry about work stuff tho aswell?? Silly me!

If they bother you the day of/the day after the birth, yes, probably! It's one of those times where you worry about everything that crosses your radar, and forget everything that doesn't.

Congratulations, you sound like you are doing really well so far.

As a new mum, you will be able to worry about anything and everything. You will also cry at the drop of a hat, TV adverts and random acts of kindness.

It is all really very normal. That doesn't make it any easier, but it will gradually pass. At the moment try to just worry that the two of you are both eating/drinking, sleeping when you can and and relatively clean. The rest can wait.

Congratulations!

Don't worry about being teary. You had a baby yesterday, imagine how your hormones are reacting to that, never mind your body trying to get ready to feed the wee one.

Rest when you can - you don't have to sleep, a cup of tea and biscuit on the couch while someone else is holding the baby will do.

Thanks everyone ! Think it didn't help my dp went to town for about 4 hours I was left with her screaming then been inundated with unexpected visitors who r still here I'm in bed crying this is crap :(

Ask the visitors to leave now - say you need to sleep then don't let any more in unless they arrive carrying a lasagne (or something similar).

This is a special time for you and your baby and you don't need Uncle Tom Cobbley and all cluttering up the place. Is your mum or sister around to give you a hand?

Congratulations.

My mum is here now thank god ! Dp's sister is here with her kids ! The others ( 2 neighbours and a friend who just literally walked In uninvited whilst my boobs are out all over the show have now gone) thank god! Jus don't wNt anyone seeing me crying tbh I think if I could have had some help / sleep today I would have felt better !

Yes, all normal. It all gets better soon. Baby has only been out for a day, so she'll feel insecure away from you. BF is new to you both, and your milk won't be in properly in. So get to bed with the baby, chuck out all visitors and enjoy your family. Put a sign on the front door saying do not disturb, new mum and baby sleeping. Tell anyone who comes or phones no visits without a call first for the time being. I ff so can't tell you much about bf, but I think there's an organisation called la leche league and a website called kellymom which are meant to be useful.

Thanks a lot felt so lonely today and helpless got banging headache now from crying ! Silly old me ! Isnt it awful we wish and wish our babies here then when she is here I sit there blubbering . Yes my mum suggested a sign saying gone out lol I like the idea ! Thanks again glad it will pass cause I love her so much bless her and I'm crying about it !

Well done! You did it! Yes the tears are all perfectly normal - whatever normal is! I remember sitting on my bed clutching 1 day old ds while visitors were milling around the house crying and saying 'he's mine, he's mine, no one touch him!"

God, those early days are crazy, it's no wonder you are crying your body doesn't know whether it's coming or going! Could you have a quick bath, get into clean jammies (brush your teeth - big step for me!) and have a nice cup of sugary tea and few biccies.

It's normal to worry about everything but worry about things one day at a time. You are doing great and in a week's time you'll be (slightly) less teary and might even manage a jaunt out to the local Spar shop - dressed in a dirty tracksuit with unwashed hair of course! Enjoy the ride! xx

Why did your DP disappear for 4 hours?

Tomorrow, do not get dressed. If anyone unexpected turns up, answer the door in your pjs and explain that you are very sorry, but it isn't a great time - people understand on a very basic level that someone in their pjs isn't up for guests!

Congratulations!
Don't forget it takes your body and hormones 9 months to prepare for the birth, nothing goes back to normal overnight. It's completely normal to cry and worry!
Ah the crying... DC3 was born 6 months ago very early on the morning. That night after our other 2 had gone to bed DH nipped out and came back with a takeaway and a bottle of champagne.... Cue me saying "thanks love, ooh chicked bhunaaaaaaaa and starting to wail like a baby!! Good job he's used to my post pregnancy behaviour by now otherwise he'd think I was a loon...

It's normal to feel like you do probobally more normal I'm fact than if you didnt feel like that!

I spent the first week of my dd life pretty much constantly crying, not sleeping, stressing over everything, having to write everything down because I couldn't remember anything. Well I say the first week was more like the first month but with a little less crying.

Dd now five months old and I feel human again, I know it sounds trite but it really does get better, as you get to know your baby better and better each day. Until then just go with the flow, cry if you need to. And rest as much as possible, which isn't much I know

And congrats on having your baby, enjoy!

Thank you , you have all made me feel so much better ! Dp went to town to get nipple cream ended up buying Moses basket stand taking kids to Mcdonalds nd by the time they at it was Dd's dentist appt! I've told him he not to go out tommorow lol! I just do not remember being like this day after birth last time! So happy to know I've not gone insane!

Thsnk you Qt pie will try and keep focused x

I was teary for the first 3 months.

I cried more in the first few days after giving birth than I have done in the rest of my 31 years put together

In a few weeks or months it will be you responding to an OP like yours saying 'don't worry, hang on in there, it will get easier soon...' Because it does.

And congratulations!

Thank you I've been crying downstairs now and it's driving me mad she had a better night last night but did have to result to bottle feed a couple of times as she wasn't getting anything at the breast so that made me feel bad.

Please don't feel bad. You are doing brilliantly. I remember thinking I'd gone crazy three months ago when DD was born and I couldn't stop crying. But it did get better and it will for you too.

Cheekychops - are you very keen to breastfeed, or is it more of an 'if it works, it works' thing for you? The reason I ask is that supplemental bottles at such an early stage are really not great for your odds of continuing breastfeeding long term. What makes you think your daughter 'wasn't getting anything at the breast'- because except for a few very specific underlying medical issues, it is pretty rare for that to be the case. More often it is latch, or an unsettled baby, or something of that nature.

I have thought long and hard before posting this as I really don't want to upset you, but equally if you would be really upset if breastfeeding doesn't work out, I don't think it would be fair not to mention it, IYSWIM.

You sound like you're doing everything on your own. Do you have help from anyone? Its exhausting and when your hormones are everywhere it's like the world is collapsing and you start thinking about everything. My hormones went so crazy two days after the birth of DD2 that I thought Social Services were coming as I'd had a few cigarettes outside and changed my clothes before I came in so I started cleaning the skirting boards and crying simultaneously while DP looked at me funny and held the baby.

If this persists you should tell your midwife. I think it's after six weeks that they start considering post natal depression rather than just 'baby blues'.

Congratulations on your new baby and I hope you get some well deserved rest soon.