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Should I b this teary day after birth?

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Cheekychops84 · 03/08/2012 14:32

I'm in a right pickle! Had baby yesterday at 6.45 am lovely birth was home at 3pm. However she has been up all night (expected) but I'm trying to breastfeed she been attached to my boobs since we came home which midwife said was normal but I have only been able to put her down twice! I've now been in tears and in feeling really really low! My work his rang to say they couldn't find my matb1 but they've foundnit now! I'm now starting to worry about ny pay and about is breastfeeding the right choice I'm basically worrying about everything and it's really silly! Is this lack of sleep ? As I thought baby blues etc kicked in later then this? Help please :(

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Cheekychops84 · 04/08/2012 16:22

Yes am really trying my best with breastfeeding but she has been on me now since 2 pm she isn't getting irritable tho think she is using me as a pacifier aswell? Altho I gave her an ounce from s bottle last night twice and she slept for an hour and a half after that which really helped tbh as Ive had 2 nights with literally no sleep not even a cat nap. Dp is here but she won't go to him she just keeps crying and sucking her fist . Midwife witnessed latch said she was very good as did my mum as she breastfed me until I was a year old. I jus think my milk is delayed at coming in not sure y as the birth was fast and v easy for me

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YoulllWinGoldOneDay · 04/08/2012 22:16

I hope that things get better when your milk comes in. I am not an expert by any means, and I've seen now that you've started a thread. I just wanted to mention it. Lots of lovely people on here to help Smile

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Cheekychops84 · 04/08/2012 22:17

Fantastic people ! I'm so glad there are so many lovely ladies to support me i am very grateful. X

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Chunkychicken · 04/08/2012 23:49

From my limited experience, you are reacting perfectly normally.

Don't answer the door, stay in your pjs for a day or 2, until you feel ready for guests, then get them to make you plenty of drinks (breastfeeding is thirsty work).

Your milk won't be in for a couple of days, so it will seem like your DD isn't getting anything, but she'll be getting colostrum. Newborns feed very, very frequently at first. Use nipple cream, breastmilk, fresh air drying etc to keep your nipples soft & supple & know that each feed is encouraging your supply, & it will pay off soon.

Congrats & all the best.

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Cheekychops84 · 05/08/2012 13:30

Thank you chunky chicken think my milk is on its way getting the tingly. Still got visitors coming :( but my mum is here and tellli g them upstairs resting

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Cheekychops84 · 06/08/2012 21:50

Oh no heel prick test tommorow that's gonna set me off big time :( feel like refusing it but no I can't :(

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elizaregina · 07/08/2012 09:59

Cheeky please dont feel guilty about breast feeding, and the BEST advice a friend gave me was TOO introduce the bottle early on so they so get used to the two types of teet!
Of course each baby is different but I had no problems with breast feeding and bottle - ( expressed at first) at all. It was also wonderful to have that break where DH could feed her. However Freinds that exclusilvy breast fed were stuck down the line as baby wouldnt take bottle nor dummy.

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Cheekychops84 · 07/08/2012 19:36

Now I'm really crying my neighbour came in last night and held baby her 3 year old started coughing everywhere! Today my neighbour told me she has tonsillitis and now my 4 yr old has it I'm so anxious I really dnt want baby to get it I've been trying to keep 4 yr old away from baby and making us all use hand gel :(

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Chunkychicken · 07/08/2012 19:55

Remember Cheeky all the time you're breastfeeding, she is getting your immunity/help from you to fight it. I very much doubt your 4yo has come down with it from yesterday, so its prob nothing to do with your neighbour's visit.

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Cheekychops84 · 07/08/2012 20:06

No prob not but my 4yo was playing outside with her daughter 4 days ago :(

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Badgerina · 08/08/2012 11:29

Wow - someone needs to stop visitors from coming into your house - it sounds like Piccadilly Circus! You don't need the added stress of sickness and feeling worried about being seen crying - poor you.

You're doing really well. Really well. Keep your baby close to you, feed her whenever she asks and your milk will be in very soon.

In a couple of weeks you won't feel nearly as emotionally delicate as you do now. Your hormones will settle down, and the breast feeding will be more a routine for the two of you.

What you're going through sounds perfectly normal, difficult and draining, but normal.

cupcake78 · 08/08/2012 11:47

Wow you had a babyGrin. Congratulations and well done you. How many people do you have coming round? I'm exhausted at just the thought of it. Lock the doors put a sign up telling people to txt your dh if they want to visit. You must be shattered!

Tears are very normal, I was slightly insane for at least 10days after ds, I would cry if someone said thankyou, if i was made a cup of tea i was eternally grateful and loved them unconditionally. I remember crying when dh passed me a tissue cos I was crying and thinking how amazing the person who invented tissues was (crackers).

Enjoy your new family, I hope you get some quality family time together soon

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Cheekychops84 · 08/08/2012 18:58

Went on an outing today i was so overprotective but really needed to get out . My poor Dp has been v good bless him he going to take then himself but I couldn't stand the thought of staying in on my own :(

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