I am really sorry to all those who have lost babies, what an unimaginable tragedy, my heart goes out to you
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I think what this thread illustrates is that we all assess risk differently based on our personal views, understandings and experiences. There is no one size fits all. Very sadly, some babies do die during pregnancy and birth. In retrospect it is sometimes possible to see things that might have been done differently that could have saved them, like induction/c-section earlier. Sometimes not. The process is not risk free, and death of a baby is not the only risk. Some people will consider it the only one worth thinking about and even a miniscule increase in that risk would be totally unacceptable to them. Others will weigh up other factors too, such as the risks to both the mother and the baby of induction (which include the risk of emergency c-section, one of the rare complications of which is maternal death). Whatever you do, the risk of death or injury to the mother and/or baby remains, however small. There is no way to make the process risk free.
I would absolutely support someone who requires a c-section at 37 weeks or earlier because of anxiety about the health of their baby following a previous c-section (or other circumstances). Absolutely, no question. I totally respect their decision and wish them well. Likewise for mums who decide to be induced at 41 weeks, 41+3, 41+5 or whatever is right for them in their personal circumstances.
I think it is unfair to not allow those of us who might want to consider expectorant management the same courtsey and imply that we are somehow playing russian roulette with our unborn babies' lives
. NICE and many other clinical guidelines recognise watchful waiting as a valid choice, and make the point that for the overwhelming majority of accurately dated pregnancies up to 42 weeks the babies will be absolutely fine. According to some studies, the risk of stillbirth increases (though several are flawed), but the absolute risk remains very low. No pregnancy is technically overdue according to the World Health Organisation until it has passed 42 weeks. 37-42 weeks is the defined length of normal pregnancy. Beyond 42 weeks, the evidence available is much more limited, but very few accurately dated pregnancies reach that stage.
All we can each do is assess what we think is important and make the best decisions we can for ourselves and our babies
. After all, that's the essence of the whole lifetime of parenting we all have ahead of us.