I was talking to a friend about ttc and wanting a homebirth recently (whooooole other thread there) but in the midst of trying to dissuade me, she said, 'Birth isn't an experience, it's a process, and really the only thing that matters is a healthy baby'.
Okay - I'd agree with the first bit. I don't expect to go into it and have a Magical Experience Which Will Last A Lifetime. I think it'll hurt and large part of it will be boring and literally shit.
But - it occurred to me that the second bit is something I have heard lots of people say when discussing birth, inc HCPs. And tbh, it really gives me a chill. There are two people involved in birth and the mother counts as well. I do think the mother has the right to think about herself too when negotiating interventions, choices etc. AIBU to think this attitude is really horrid and totally devalues women?
Or is that just because I don't have DC yet?