When your dd/ds was born did you..........?

[pepperpots]

Have them delivered straight onto you? ie skin to skin And do you think it affects bonding if not?

I remember my mum saying that when my sister and I were born, in both cases we were taken away, weighed, cleaned up, wrapped up and then given to her. With my younger sister, she said she got a horrible shock when they just plonked her onto my mums chest right after the birth!
Even before I knew I was going to have an elective C-section, I was leaning towards having my baby cleaned up first rather than being delivered onto my chest. I suspected that I wouldn't cope with the gore TBH!!

waswondering - I'm having an elective at the end of April and I'm going to ask the midwife, surgeon etc if I can have my hospital gown on back to front so they can plonk db onto me for skin to skin even if I am shaky from the drugs. I've been told they will probably have to check db first cos his lungs etc will not have had fluid squeezed out by the birth canal, but that they dont have to wrap him up and they can bring him to me with just nappy on then for skin to skin. (good idea to have a nappy on in the operating theatre really while you have a gaping wound still there). I know not to expect this skin to skin as there may be medical reasons that the baby needs a little extra help breathing or something but if he doesnt then he's coming to me whether they like it or not. I think it will do wonders to both of our heart rates.

dd was an emergency section and though it was a spinal, they wrapped and swaddled and cleaned her so well I didnt see her for 10 minutes and then wasnt offered any skin to skin (didnt think to ask), even my first feed of her she was already clothed. I want to feel this little one on my skin at the first opportunity I have. I dont think it will affect bonding. For me bonding was a step by step process anyway but I'd like to feel my last baby that closely.

Slightly off topic, but I'd also like to see the placenta this time, didnt think to ask last time, but I think its a fascinating organ, that your body grows for this one baby and I'd love to see it. Oh the surgeons are going to love the new empowered me asking for all these extra things rather than letting them just get on with it!!

waswondering - I'm having an elective at the end of April and I'm going to ask the midwife, surgeon etc if I can have my hospital gown on back to front so they can plonk db onto me for skin to skin even if I am shaky from the drugs. I've been told they will probably have to check db first cos his lungs etc will not have had fluid squeezed out by the birth canal, but that they dont have to wrap him up and they can bring him to me with just nappy on then for skin to skin. (good idea to have a nappy on in the operating theatre really while you have a gaping wound still there). I know not to expect this skin to skin as there may be medical reasons that the baby needs a little extra help breathing or something but if he doesnt then he's coming to me whether they like it or not. I think it will do wonders to both of our heart rates.

dd was an emergency section and though it was a spinal, they wrapped and swaddled and cleaned her so well I didnt see her for 10 minutes and then wasnt offered any skin to skin (didnt think to ask), even my first feed of her she was already clothed. I want to feel this little one on my skin at the first opportunity I have. I dont think it will affect bonding. For me bonding was a step by step process anyway but I'd like to feel my last baby that closely.

Slightly off topic, but I'd also like to see the placenta this time, didnt think to ask last time, but I think its a fascinating organ, that your body grows for this one baby and I'd love to see it. Oh the surgeons are going to love the new empowered me asking for all these extra things rather than letting them just get on with it!!

waswondering - I'm having an elective at the end of April and I'm going to ask the midwife, surgeon etc if I can have my hospital gown on back to front so they can plonk db onto me for skin to skin even if I am shaky from the drugs. I've been told they will probably have to check db first cos his lungs etc will not have had fluid squeezed out by the birth canal, but that they dont have to wrap him up and they can bring him to me with just nappy on then for skin to skin. (good idea to have a nappy on in the operating theatre really while you have a gaping wound still there). I know not to expect this skin to skin as there may be medical reasons that the baby needs a little extra help breathing or something but if he doesnt then he's coming to me whether they like it or not. I think it will do wonders to both of our heart rates.

dd was an emergency section and though it was a spinal, they wrapped and swaddled and cleaned her so well I didnt see her for 10 minutes and then wasnt offered any skin to skin (didnt think to ask), even my first feed of her she was already clothed. I want to feel this little one on my skin at the first opportunity I have. I dont think it will affect bonding. For me bonding was a step by step process anyway but I'd like to feel my last baby that closely.

Slightly off topic, but I'd also like to see the placenta this time, didnt think to ask last time, but I think its a fascinating organ, that your body grows for this one baby and I'd love to see it. Oh the surgeons are going to love the new empowered me asking for all these extra things rather than letting them just get on with it!!

oops computer crashed and pit it on 3 times. Can anyone edit the spare two out? Sorry

Hello

I had my dd delivered straight onto me - wanted to hold her straight away.

But she was not breathing due to the umbilical cord around her neck, they had to cut it when her head was out.

She was blue and looked in shock, they let me hold her for what felt like a few seconds and then they had to resusitate her "most painful seconds of my life" and then they gave her straight back to me and i held her skin to skin for an hour and fed her.

oh i cant wait to hold this baby - i am 26 weeks

Had ds1 delivered straight onto me and felt the whoosh straight away.

DS2 had to be resuscitated and I didn't hold him straight away, but I feel I bonded with him better as I was SO protective of him, I wouldn't let any of the mean midwives near him.

As an aside I didn't wear my glasses when I was having my boys, but I should have done, as when ds2 was being resuscitated I couldn't see him and I was shrieking like a mad woman, somthing along the lines of 'I can't fcking see him, where the fck are my glasses', I'd told dh I wanted them straight away but he was understandably distracted. What loevly sounds ds2 must have heard as he entered the world

DD was born by emergency cs and was shown to me and DH and we got to see her and touch her. She was then taken away to do the 1 minute and 5 minute tests. She then was brought back to me and Dh to hold and cuddle - not skin to skin though.

Despite this we still bonded well. TBH I think I binded with DD before she was born anyway.

Neither DDs were delivered straight on to me. DD1 was "an assisted delivery" in the operating theatre, and although they held her up for me to see her, the midwife whisked her away to get her checked over and cleaned up. It didn't affect bonding (the lack of care before and after the birth did that) but what I found more worrying was her being actually out of the room and not knowing whether she was OK, it all just seemed to take so long.
DD2 was also held up so I could see her, but because the birth was so quick, she needed a quick whiff of oxygen to get her crying. But it was much better being in the same room.