Seeing obstetrician tmw.
Saw "perineal MW" who was no fucking help at all. She just said there was increased risk of tearing (thanks, no shit sherlock) and that I had to make my own decision about what sort of birth I wanted.
I am v scared of having a c-section, don't like the idea of being cut open or recovery. Natural labour may be painful but at least baby is supposed to come out of that hole!
I was induced due to cholestasis so on top of this decision am anxiously waiting to see if chol. comes back again, from about 30 wks plus.
I am only 26 or 27 wks atm.
I just feel that docs are too quick to do c-secs and that I want to give my body the chance to do it's job.
Recovery from tear did take a very long time, it was a year before sex was comfortable again, tho to be fair we didn't try very often because I was anxious about it.
But not actually that painful at the time, just quite uncomfortable. Continence is not perfect but that's fairly normal after a baby I think, and I have no ongoing concerns about peeing and pooing.