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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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41+4 and finally realised that there is no way this baby is gonna come of it's own accord... depressing!!!!

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sweetuphoria · 30/12/2010 08:35

There comes a point when you realise that as many walks that you go on, as many pineapples and curries that you eat, as much sex and bouncing on a gym ball, scrubbing the floor etc etc the babies come when they are ready and not before.
Booked for a very reluctant induction on Sun (42 weeks) - Fed up but just want it over with now!!

Anyone else??
:)

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inthesticks · 31/12/2010 15:22

Ahhh..this was me 15 years ago.
Baby due 21st December. Managed to avoid a Christmas day baby, then I dreaded the idea of a New Years Eve baby.
Iwas booked in for inductio on 2nd January.
I was induced and labour was under 3 hours.
Those last two weeks took forever and the last 15 years have gone like a flash.
All the best.

LeroyJethroGibbs · 31/12/2010 15:31

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sweetuphoria · 31/12/2010 16:43

thank you everyone for your stories, it really helps hearing from people who have had the same experience. I really did not imagine it would be this bad being overdue and i don't think you can understand unless you have been in this situation.

Smoggii - I feel exactly the same as you. I was quite depressed yesterday and thought I'd really hit rock bottom, but my mood has picked up a bit today (with thanks to some of these posts on here) becuase things could be worse and we will definitely get to meet our babies in the next few days even if it doesn't go quite the way we planned it.

must admit still holding out a little hope that things will happen before that. Persuaded DH to have a bit of nookie earlier even though very nearly put him off by letting it slip that it was purely to 'soften my cervix' - not the most romantic proposal, especially when you are the size of a whale.

know how u feel about facebook too - I have had similar experiences too so am now activeley avoiding it!

keep me updated on how you're getting on
x

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Mercedes519 · 31/12/2010 16:47

Think of it this way sweet. You are doing your DC a massive favour in that it won't have a birthday over christmas. That really sucks and even the start of January is better because you can celebrate properly.

reikizen · 31/12/2010 16:54

I went to term +17 with dd1 before I gave in to the inevitable. She wasn't coming out without hardcore drugs. Went term+10 with dd2 and took castor oil on the night she eventually arrived. Who knows whether that had anything to do with it but I would have taken it with dd1 if I could have found any! I was 3cm for several days so I'm sure it may have been the tipping point I needed.
Good luck, with a bit of planning and determination induction doesn't have to be as awful as it sounds. Keep mobile, keep eating, keep a sense of humour!

OmicronPersei8 · 31/12/2010 16:55

I think I had something like 'still no baby, thanks for letting us have some space while we wait, hope to have some news to share soon.' as my Facebook status. It worked a treat and no one bothered us

Evening primrose oil, applied directly, is also supposed to help soften the cervix. Sorry to give you an unsolicited suggestion, I know how annoying they get after a while (as if somehow it's all your fault for not trying hard enough or something).

Glad you're feeling a bit better, hope it all info wonderfully smoothly for you either way.

OmicronPersei8 · 31/12/2010 16:57

info? goes obviously. Stupid phone.

catdoctor · 31/12/2010 20:10

I went to 40+13 - disagreed strongly with my dates, but docs wouldn't listen.

I had a stop/starty labour over 4 days and eventually agreed to induction at 40+14. Couldn't get a sweep as cervix unfavourable.

Wasn't giving up without a fight though and I did self induce - nipple twiddling did it BUT I brought on (to my mind) a strong labour quickly - went on to have NVD but bab was stressed - meconium, lactic acidosis and ended up in SCBU and I still feel terrible guilt that I did that to him.

Not sure if this helps - I was very anti-induction - looked like a one way ticket to having a miserable bleeding time, but the bottom line is that the bab comes first and there are lovely modern ways to make induction bearable!

TheBreastmilksOnMe · 31/12/2010 22:22

catdoctor- Please don't blame yourself, you wouldn't have gone into labour because of your nipple twiddling alone. You would have had to do a heck of a lot of twiddling and your body would need to be about to go into labour anyway for it to trigger things so please don't blame yourself. Think of all the pregnant mums out there who breastfeed through pregnancy. Do you think it sends all of them into labour when their bodies are not ready? Not at all. Your body will only go when it is ready. You did nothing wrong, it was just a bad coincidence and I'm sorry you had to go through that experience.

EenyMeenyMaya · 01/01/2011 09:05

I remember the frustration of being that overdue so well. I really think it was one of the worst aspects of pregnancy/birth (and I had a 4 day labour, EMCS, PND!). I really do feel for you.

I'm not even overdue, after last time I'm having an ELCS in 9 days, but sooooo frustrated none the less.

Hope baby comes very, very soon for you!

catdoctor · 01/01/2011 10:01

Thanx Breastmilk, that's reassuring

christmasrocks · 01/01/2011 10:20

For anyone overdue, I went to 42 weeks and was due to go in and be induced at midday, really didnt want that as i was really hoping for a home birth, as the morning went on I was having backache, seeing as I had suffered this throughout my pregnancy I didnt think too much about it and was just wallowing in having to go in.

Dead on eleven, I felt an almighty urge to push, waters broke and seven minutes later DS flew out!!!

Hold on ladies, dont give up hope, good luck to you all

christmasrocks · 01/01/2011 10:21

Meant to say, just managed to get into the bedroom, so DS was not born on bathroom floor!!!

OmicronPersei8 · 01/01/2011 10:26

Christmasrocks that's a lovely story.

NewYearNewPants · 01/01/2011 10:33

I went to 42 +5 before I caved and went for induction. I feel your pain!

megonthemoon · 01/01/2011 10:33

I went 12 days over in Sept with DD (went into labour with DS at 2 days over so no way was I expecting to be that late!) Like you I never felt it was going to happen naturally. It was a really depressing time as I completely hated the thought of being induced and knew it would be ending up that way.

They tried to induce on day 12 but nothing happened. I got really despondent as I feared the whole cascade of intervention etc. but they tried again next morning after I had a reasonable night's sleep. The gel kickstarted everything and it was a really wonderful experience - far better than the spontaneous yet very slow labour with DS. 7 hours from first contraction to her being born, and only 2.5 hours from 3cm. Managed just on gas and air and swaying on birthing ball, pushed her out in 2 big pushes.

Way better than my first labour. I pushed her out and sais "oh my god, that was absolutely amazing". Truly the best experience of my life!

So don't fear induction - it can be a 100% positive wonderful fabulous experience :)

Good luck :)

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sweetuphoria · 01/01/2011 17:58

thanks everyone, nice to hear that some of you have some quite positive experiences of induction. Anyway unless anything happens tonight I will be going in tomorrow so wish me luck. Don't feel too bad about it now just trying to focus on the fact that soon I will have my baby FINALLY :)

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StayingFatherChristmasGirl · 01/01/2011 18:36

I will be thinking of you tomorrow, sweetuphoria, and I hope it all goes well for you.

smoggii · 01/01/2011 20:49

Good luck tomorrow come back and let us know how it went x

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sweetuphoria · 06/01/2011 15:40

just to let you know I gave birth to Molly Grace on 4th Jan at 0123am.

I unfortunately didn't go into labour of my own accord and had to be induced on 2nd Jan. My experience of this was:
Pessary started working after 12 hours and was sparking a lot of irregular contractions, some waek some strong so the midwife decided that it could be dangerous for the baby and took it out. I was to wait until the following day and they would book me in to the delivery suite to break my waters. In the meantime I must have walked the length of the hospital still suffering from on/off contractions and pure boredom. My waters broke of their own accord at 4pm on monday and straight away the contractions started getting more intense and regular. I asked for 2 paracetemol as one point and used my Tens Machine, the midwifes showed next to no interest in me, and whenever I asked when i could go on the delivery suite as i wouldn't mind a go on a birth ball, a puff of gas and air or maybe a bath as i was sure i was in proper labour now, they explained 'oh you're in very early stages of labour, it'll be ages before you give birth'.

At around 8pm-9pm the pain was getting very intense and contractions only a few minutes apart. I felt very exposed on a ward with lots of other ladies with a curtain round me tring to explain to the midwife that I was sure i wasn't far from giving birth and all i wanted was a bit of gas and air. 'no, you can't be more than 3-4 cm dilated' she said, however she wouldn't check because apparently they are not allowed to examine once someones water has broken.

At 10pm my DH was told that he must leave as visiting hours were up and it was very unlikely that i would have the baby tonight but they would call him if it got any worse. Now at this point the contractions were so bad that all I could think was 'hell, if i am only 3cm dilated now then how bad can labour be, I definitely need an epidural'. I was so upset that they has told DH to leave but was in such agony that I couldn't even communicate it so he reluctantly left. Anyway around 20 mins after he had left I had about 5 really agonising and intense contractions in a row without a gap in between and felt a need to push. Now I have not had a baby before but I have read enough to know what this means. I went to reception bent double in pain and demanded that they examine me because i was ready to give birth to this baby. The Midwife very reluctantly said 'ok, but there's not much point'. Got taken into the examination room to be told 'you're fully dialated, better get you to delivery suite QUICK'.
all i could say was, 'I knew it, you made me think that i was going crazy but i knew i was going to have this baby and you're supposed to be the experts'.
I said you better call my husband and tell him to get here quick. He arrive just as DD's head was crowning, I was just glad that he got to witness the rest of the birth, for which thankfully they finally allowed me a bit of gas and air.

So really don't think my story is particularly a dig at the induction process but more at a certain hospital which shall remain nameless.

But it has taught me one thing, If i can go through labour on 2 paracetemol than i'm definitely having a Home Birth next time!! :)

Smoggii - how are you??
x

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gummymum · 06/01/2011 16:34

Congratulations!
I hope there are some midwives reading this as it is a reasonably common story. I'm so glad it wasn't the "3 pessaries over 24 hrs, membranes ruptured and drip for 24hrs, then section as only 2cm" story.....yours sounds much better and well done for getting through it all so well.

Mumcah · 07/01/2011 12:33

Well done!Sorry the midwives didn't believe you,sadly I have heard this before.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 07/01/2011 13:21

Congratulations - and Molly Grace is a lovely name!

Re homebirth - I had two, and would definitely recommend it as a wonderful experience.

OmicronPersei8 · 07/01/2011 13:49

Congratulations on your baby! I'm that you were ignored like that, but glad that it was relatively quick and wow, you did it all without pain relief! I bet you feel like you could do anything now.

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