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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Original poster

41+4 and finally realised that there is no way this baby is gonna come of it's own accord... depressing!!!!

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sweetuphoria · 30/12/2010 08:35

There comes a point when you realise that as many walks that you go on, as many pineapples and curries that you eat, as much sex and bouncing on a gym ball, scrubbing the floor etc etc the babies come when they are ready and not before.
Booked for a very reluctant induction on Sun (42 weeks) - Fed up but just want it over with now!!

Anyone else??
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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 30/12/2010 08:41

Don't give up!

I was like you, and you know the minute I said "hands up, your not coming naturally" it blooming well did, induction due on the Sunday like you, baby arrived on the Saturday, at 41 plus 6

I did have a sweep a few days before, and the day before I had some reflexology PB my feet, which I think relaxed me enoughtm to tempt her out!
Good luck x

indiechick · 30/12/2010 08:44

Maybe baby is waiting to come first thing on New Year's day and get its name and picture in the paper. Just a thought.

Poppet45 · 30/12/2010 12:13

I had reflexology too and my waters went within 12 hours. And even if it doesn't work it was a wonderful excuse for a bit of final pampering.

HettyAmaretti · 30/12/2010 12:19

But you're not even overdue until you reach 42 weeks, normal term is 27-42 weeks, not 37-40 . Baby may well come on his or her own.

Must be damn annoying though. I never made it out of the 39th week with either DC and even that felt like far too long.

HettyAmaretti · 30/12/2010 12:26

Oops, excuse the typo, obviously meant 37-42

smoggii · 30/12/2010 13:09

Me too, 41 + 2 just had attempted sweep number two - cervix clamped shut booked in for induction on Monday... not what i wanted at all.

Pineapple for breakfast, curry for lunch, arse permanently attached to gym ball!

Midwife has told me not to lose heart but admitted realistically there is little chance of anything happening on its own

I'm trying to keep my chin up but i'm grumpy as hell.

SlightlyTubbyHali · 30/12/2010 13:13

I wouldn't give up either.
I was booked for induction at 41+3 with DD1. The hospital had no beds (great) so I got really cross and started to labour on my own the next day. Only 3 days earlier my cervix had been too closed for a sweep and the MW sucked her teeth plumber-style at me.

I think 41+1 is about average for a first baby in the UK, so you are really not far beyond that.

Smoggii - IME extreme grumpiness is a sure sign of impending labour.

Good luck!

Indith · 30/12/2010 13:16

I was booked in for induction at 42 weeks. I had to go in on the Thursday evening but instead had ds at home that morning :) There is always hope!

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sweetuphoria · 30/12/2010 13:37

thanks everyone for your support, just so easy to get disheartened at this stage.. pregnancy is sooo long!!!

Smoggii - good luck, i hope both our babies get their act together soon!!

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smoggii · 30/12/2010 14:10

Thanks sweetuphoria good luck and fingers crossed something happens before Sunday x

I really am hoping that the grumpiness is a sign of impending labour - if that is the case my current mood should see something happen today lol

pooka · 30/12/2010 14:16

There's loads of time between now and Sunday.

With ds1 the midwife tried to do a sweep but couldn't as cervix so unfavourable. This was on the Wednesday. She did have a bit of a rummage though.

Had a show the next day. DS1 born on the Friday after a 2 hour labour.

Fingers crossed for you.

PS I think it was the sex that did it.

DiscoTex · 30/12/2010 16:29

Snap! I am 41+4, booked in for an induction tomorrow morning - booo!!!

PrivetDancer · 30/12/2010 16:42

I can highly recommend a glass of wine. Seems to have worked for a few people I know, me included.

debka · 30/12/2010 20:16

Induction isn't all bad! I quite enjoyed mine... [weird woman emoticon]

AnathemaDevice · 30/12/2010 20:53

I was booked in (reluctantly) for induction at 7am on the day I would have been 42 weeks exactly. Luckily I went into labour of my own accord at 7pm the previous evening, and DS was 5 hours old by the time I should have been going in for the induction.

Don't give up yet!

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sweetuphoria · 31/12/2010 11:33

well i think a glass of wine and sex is order tonight then (in that order) - well it is new years eve!! and a 1/1/11 baby would be nice!

debka - you are definitely the 1st person i've heard who's 'enjoyed' their induction - but i guess it's a means to an end and you finally get to meet your baby.

still hoping things get started on their own though! :-/

smoggii - how's it going? and is it just me or are you ready to punch the next person who asks 'any movement?'
x

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deemented · 31/12/2010 11:43

You don't have to be induced though, unless you want to. A friend of mine had her baby naturally at 43+4. Baby came when it was ready.

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sweetuphoria · 31/12/2010 11:46

deemented - I did nearly talk myself out of it but that was from fear more than anything due to all the horror stories I've heard about it. But in the end I just want to meet my baby now and that has won out in the end.

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deemented · 31/12/2010 11:59

That's totally understandable

Good luck - hope it's soon!

RobynLou · 31/12/2010 12:04

Oh god you poor thing, being overdue is miserable.

If it's any consolation, I was induced with DD and it was totally fine, my cervix was tightly closed when they gave me the first pessary, and they thought I'd be in there for days, but 12 hours later DD was born with no interventions

hastingsmum · 31/12/2010 13:48

And my sis was booked in for induction 2 weeks overdue and her waters broke as she reported to reception ready for her induction so really anything can happen.

OmicronPersei8 · 31/12/2010 14:22

Going over is awful, especially when you've tried everything and it makes no difference. I had reflexology, acupuncture etc to no avail and ended up being induced at 40+12 (after that I couldn't have had my planned homebirth any way). It was my second baby, but the whole thing took only 3 hours! I would say if you end up having a long induction though, think about an epidural so you can rest before pushing.

I was initially upset to be induced, but in the end (and it did help that my labour was so quick) I was just so happy to finally meet DS. He's sitting on my lap watching Pingu and two years on, how and where he arrived doesn't really matter anymore.

Good luck and enjoy your baby-snuggles soon!

KiwiJo · 31/12/2010 14:25

Both of my daughters were overdue and both arrived the day before I was due to be induced. Both were easy births so here's hoping you have the same experience. Remember to get some sleep before the baby arrives (if you can). Good luck!

smoggii · 31/12/2010 15:12

sweetuphoria I spent all day yesterday crying at one point spoke to my Mum and i was in a bit of a state, so she has warned everyone off calling me and is now fielding all 'any movements' enquiries.

The biggest curse is facebook - I didn't go on for one day came back to loads of 'haven't heard anything you must be in labour' messages - no i just don't want to spend my life discussing every twinge in front of 300 or so 'friends'. Someone i haven't seen in 14 years asked on my wall if i had a sweep yet!!! Lol happy to talk about some things but that is quite an intimate question.

Still trying to get things moving - hilarious nookie last night - i know they tell you to do that but i'm the size of a house and beyond uncomfortable!!

Been for a long walk this morning but still not a thing. I've kind of resigned myself to the induction but i have found a lot of the stories above very useful thanks all.

I hope you are coping well. I'm going to have a nice glass of bubbly tonight not sure more nookie is on the cards i'm knackered lol x

DontLetTinselDragOnTheFloor · 31/12/2010 15:14

Change your FB status to "No I haven't fucking well had the baby yet so fuck the fuck off" I suspect it sums up your current mood :)

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