Clitoral stimulation during labour

[chrispt]

Hi all

I'm a Dad to be (7th Oct)and have been researching all sorts of subjects with regards to natural pain relief for my wife. In my searches (from the run of the mill to the bizarre) i found one which, although not popular in all circles, intrigued me and inspired me to ask for thoughts.

Who has used clitoral stimulation during labour? Not necessarily to orgasm but as a distraction. Did it help? Anything that flagged up as better than other methods?

This will be our first child so we are planning on going to hospital.

I would assume the increase in oxytocin would help along with massage and breathing.

Any feedback would be gratefully received.

Many thanks
Chris

Would LOVE to know how this labour went!

I think if it's 5 years since the last thread starting a new one would be better.
it's not like everyone will say 'not this again'.

Oh dear Lord! Whatever happened to just letting a woman's body just get on with it? With her taking the lead and doing what she feels like. Clitoral stimulation my arse.

Well that'll teach me not to read past the first page

Don't worry Curtains. I'm sure in the last five years there are whole new movements dedicated to using clitoral stimulation to relieve stress in all sorts of settings - the Great British Bake Off, Strictly Come Dancing, Newsnight, that kind of thing.

It's a very very odd thing to want to do in Labour.

Doh! Just realised it's a really old thread!

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I find visiting my dentist stressful despite the fact that he's v hot and a gorgeous bloke. I wonder if he'd oblige.....

I know this is an old thread but my God I'm pissing myself (not difficult at 35 weeks I grant you!). Who would seriously contemplate this?!

I would tell DP to fuck off to the far side fuck if he suggested such a thing. There is a time and place for a bit of bean flicking. Labour isn't it.

Go on! I dare you to do this, Op, and come back on here with enough fingers intact to type out a post and tell us how it went.

I would far rather have a needle in my spine than a finger on my clit.
Good luck with the birth.

Thank you to whoever resurrected this thread, it has given me a well needed laugh.

I wonder how the birth went?

I hope the child is looking forward to starting in Reception class in a few weeks.

OP - don't discount epidurals. In some circles they are seen as the Devil's work, but I could not have got through either of my labours without them. If your wife is struggling, reassure her that she won't be a "failure" if she has one. (Especially if it's all going a bit Pete Tong and she needs an induction, syntocinon, waters artificially breaking etc.) Good luck!

Argh tits, didn't realise this was a zombie! Still, I've laughed myself into paroxysms at some of the responses.

Is it time for this again?

Yeah I did. Early labour, and it was me doing it, no-one else knew. It worked really well to relax me. I went on to have a hypno, no pain relief, birth. I'm far too old for more babies now, but it would have been part of my relaxation/pain relief/distraction toolkit should another pregnancy have happened.

Chris I'm not a violent person but I would have thumped anyone who so much as breathed on my clitoris during childbirth.

There is an African tribe who have excellent results with pain relief. They tie twine around the father's testicles and the labouring mother pulls on the twine during contractions to distract herself from the pain.

Zombie or not, that's the biggest crying with real tears laughter I've had in a while.

It makes sense that it could help. But only in a home birth/ hypnobirth uber natural birth type setting.

You couldn't do it in hospital during a medicalised birth!

I went into labour about 10pm at night. DH and I lay in bed and cuddled up. He rubbed my back. I had a hot water bottle on it. I had a couple of hot showers with the jet on water on my back. I might have been able to tolerate it at that point had I known about it and known it would work. We went up to the maternity unit at about 5.30am.

I walked around quite a bit and at times found DH very irritating- squeezing my hand, rubbing my thigh encouragingly, offering me half a sandwich when I was about to push. He says that at one point I hissed at him 'Get your hand off me'. I can honestly say that in a room where there were two midwives at some points and an occasional Dr, if DH had suggested massaging my clitoris or stimulating my nipples, I might have clocked him one.

My nipples and clitoris have never been publicly stimulated To the poster who said 'You've had sex' - it is with DH in private, not with medical strangers looking on.

Your wife might find it doable. I wouldn't. And I bet the midwives would be gossiping and having a laugh about it.

Who would seriously contemplate this?!
I did, so fuck off with your judgemental comments. If it helps - and it helped me - then whats the issue? Not everyone wants the uber-medicalised typical hospital birth - I was at home, on my own, planning a hypo birth, which I achieved (27 years ago).

Blimey, touched a nerve Silver? Have a little self stroke, that'll calm you down...