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Easy pregnancy = easy birth... or is that wishful thinking?

34 replies

islandbaby · 11/09/2010 20:09

Hey all

I've soared through my pregnancy so far (29 weeks), with only a couple of days of mild morning sickness, all tests and scans fine, plenty of energy and just the odd day of complete knackerdness.

I'm hoping that this nice, easy ride will continue through to the birth, and the little chap will just slip out nice and simple.

Would those of you who had an easy pregnancy confirm that the birth was less traumatic than you were expecting, and those who had a troubled pregnancy also had a troubled birth?

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rubyslippers · 11/09/2010 20:11

I don't think it follows

Be as prepared as you can for birth though

I had 2 high idk, worrying pregnancies and 2 amazing births

In particular my second was amazing ...

It is a huge bonus if you feel well, calm a nd relaxed during your pregnancy

AnnieLobeseder · 11/09/2010 20:13

Wishful thinking, sorry! Both my pregnancies were as easy as anyone could hope for but DD1 was a 27-hour horror marathon birth and DD2 was back-to-back (otherwise lovely though, at home in a birth pool).

I hope it is easy for you though.

ShowOfHands · 11/09/2010 20:14

I had a lovely stress-free, enjoyable, calm, healthy, perfect pregnancy.

I had a terrible, intervention-heavy labour with a malpositioned baby and an eventual emergency caesarean. I still have ptsd 3 years later.

So no, it does not follow.

The best thing to do is be prepared for the birth and know that most of it's down to chance. You just don't know what will happen but you can consider how you might like things to happen and what you will do in each instance.

And chances are you'll have a normal, straightforward delivery.

domesticslattern · 11/09/2010 20:48

I had the pregnancy from hell, and a lovely birth.
I considered it payback.

togarama · 11/09/2010 21:17

Hmmm - I wouldn't say easy. It was bloody hard work but I had a problem free pregnancy followed by a largely problem free birth (there was some stopping and starting of labour and eventually we did ARM to move things along) and a quick recovery.

My view is that you've probably got the odds stacked in your favour. But however good the odds are, there's always an element of chance. If 99 women out of 100 with problem free pregnancies also have problem free births, you could still be the one who doesn't.

Read everything you can, discuss any concerns with your MW, make sure you know what you want and why, and have someone to support you on the day.

Good luck

Meglet · 11/09/2010 21:21

Wishful thinking.

I had a boring pregnancy, no sickess, went to the gym etc. And an emergency c-section at 37 weeks.

Second time round I had dreadful all day sickness and split up with XP, and a planned cs Smile.

MollysChambers · 11/09/2010 21:23

Yes that's exactly how it works OP Wink

PacificDogwood · 11/09/2010 21:26

Ha, never mind pregnancy and birth - looking after the wee blighter is the real killer GrinWink.

Just kidding, of course!!

Poppet45 · 12/09/2010 14:27

From my group of friends we worked out that you either got a. an easy pregnancy (me) b. an easy birth (that would not be me, unless I unwittingly specified that I wanted to end up in a high dependency unit somewhere in my birth plan) or c. a good first few weeks. No one got all three and one poor mum didn't get any.

belgo · 12/09/2010 14:28

no of course that doesn't follow!

I've had three average pregnancies and three average births.

defineme · 12/09/2010 14:35

yes

JuicyLips · 12/09/2010 14:48

definitely wishful thinking. Easy pregnancy can be followed by a hard birth. you would be very lucky indeed to get both.

lal123 · 12/09/2010 14:53

I've had 2 easy pregnancies and 2 "easy" straightforward births. But I don't think one necessarily follows the other.

Agree with pacific - having them is the easy part - it's keeping them that's hard

ILoveDonaldDraper · 12/09/2010 15:06

Personally I can't help thinking that the people who have terrible pregnancies with hyperemesis/spd/bleeding scares etc deserve the easy births!

sancerrre · 12/09/2010 16:20

Yes, absolutely, definitely, without a doubt. I'm in the same position as you - 29 weeks, easy pregnancy (so far) so I'd say we're both destined for short, pain free, easy births. Orgasmic in fact.

Presuming from your name that it's going to pop out on an island and that definitely helps too. (I'm on an island as well.)

PaigeTurner · 12/09/2010 18:54

How nice of the OP to wish a troublesome birth on us poor preggos who are having a hard time!

MrsS1 · 13/09/2010 19:33

I had a very good pregnancy and Im told as birth go, mine went very well. I had no drugs, no intervention, gave birth at home and it only took 5 hours. so it is very possible I had a hypnobirthing and personally I believe your state of mind helps alot to achieve this.
Stay positive and relaxed and keep telling yourself every thing is going to go smoothly you are health baby is health there is no reason why things should go a little astray

reallytired · 13/09/2010 22:26

Your pregnancy could stop being easy, you still have some way to go.

My pregnancy was easy up to 29 weeks, but then I got SPD and could not walk during the last weeks of my pregnancy.

I had a really easy birth. I hope that all you pregnant ladies have an easy birth too.

nameymcnamechange · 13/09/2010 22:37

Totally easy and trouble free pregnancy (apart from morning sickness).

Life or death birth.

Sorry, there are no guarantees.

beanlet · 14/09/2010 11:32

"I had a lovely stress-free, enjoyable, calm, healthy, perfect pregnancy.

I had a terrible, intervention-heavy labour with a malpositioned baby and an eventual emergency caesarean."

Yep. Me too.

STORM01 · 14/09/2010 12:45

Easy pregnancy "easy" labour.....I think you have to think positively. At the end of the day whatever will be will be.....it's gonna happen one way or another.

islandbaby · 14/09/2010 22:43

Yes, of course I know there are no guarantees, it just seems like some people have an unfair amount of difficulties through pregnancy and birth, and some just shrug and say "ah, it was no big deal".

Mine's looking to be a bit of a monster, size-wise, so I'm not holding my breath!

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VickstaS · 15/09/2010 07:07

I had a fab pregnancy but a very traumatic 50 h labour plus PPH. So it doesn't follow, I am afraid. I am sure you will be fine though, good luck!

BooKangaWonders · 15/09/2010 07:50

an easier birth will be dictated by the choices you make - if you choose a birth centre, the birth will likely be less medicalised with fewer interventions etc. If you choose a home birth, it'll be safer still.

EssieW · 15/09/2010 07:59

Think positively. It helps.

I'll try not to mention my lovely pregnancy with DS, which was followed by 44 and a half hour labour.