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Since I'm being unreasonable....

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ThisMerryCat · 20/11/2025 18:45

I recently posted an AIBU about the way the school has treated my son, the link is below, and it was decided that my concern as a parent was unreasonable. I have asked him repeatedly about the way the teacher stares at him, making me feel like I'm a detective as I go through things step by step, and I am convinced it is not in his head. I have also been in the school, even to the headmaster, and other than going on about how inclusive the school is, he didn't say anything to give me any sort of hope the matter would be dealt with. It is getting difficult to get my son into school in the mornings now, since the whole experience with this teacher has put him off, but since I'm 'being unreasonable', what exactly should I do?
www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5443067-absolutely-furious-with-sons-school?page=1

OP posts:
KilkennyCats · 20/11/2025 18:50

Your original thread mentioned you thinking he deserved an attendance award for 85% attendance (!), and an academic award for being in the top 25% of the class…
You’re never going to accept how unreasonable you are, are you?

ThisMerryCat · 20/11/2025 18:53

KilkennyCats · 20/11/2025 18:50

Your original thread mentioned you thinking he deserved an attendance award for 85% attendance (!), and an academic award for being in the top 25% of the class…
You’re never going to accept how unreasonable you are, are you?

For goodness sake, read it properly. 85% was the cuttoff for an award, but my son had almost perfect attendance, except for the few days he had off due to a vomiting bug. Secondly, my son works extremely hard, and deserves to recognised for all his effort. You're the one being unreasonable, and frankly, nasty.

OP posts:
Ballabingballbongdoosh · 20/11/2025 19:11

Home school him

RockyRogue1001 · 20/11/2025 21:10

To back up @Ballabingballbongdoosh, and not being nasty.
Buuut
I can't imagine a school, any school, celebrating attendance that includes children who are in the government's definition of persistent absentees.
You have to have got something wrong with that element.
And that throws doubt on the rest of what you've posted.
And I mean all that in the kindest possible way

gamerchick · 20/11/2025 21:18

You could homeschool OP. Or change schools if you're not happy. I'm not sure what kind of result you want.

I'm not really sure what your issue is though. You're mad at the school because the teacher looks at your son?

PurpleCyclamen · 20/11/2025 21:25

I would concentrate on teaching your son resilience rather than repeatedly asking him how the teacher looked at him.
It seems as though you are actively looking for problems and the way you keep questioning your child is going to put ideas in his mind.
Let it go. You aren’t there, you don’t have the full picture, only your son’s point of view (which is probably skewed by your repeated questions). You seem an over sensitive/helicopter parent - this really isn’t good for your son.
Let him experience the challenges of life, it’s like a vaccination for the more serious life stresses of adulthood. Let him understand things don’t always go your way and the importance of moving on.

Marynotcontrary · 20/11/2025 21:29

KilkennyCats · 20/11/2025 18:50

Your original thread mentioned you thinking he deserved an attendance award for 85% attendance (!), and an academic award for being in the top 25% of the class…
You’re never going to accept how unreasonable you are, are you?

She never said that. Several posters misread the original OP and jumped on to that. The original post says their child has near perfect attendance. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Marynotcontrary · 20/11/2025 21:32

ThisMerryCat · 20/11/2025 18:53

For goodness sake, read it properly. 85% was the cuttoff for an award, but my son had almost perfect attendance, except for the few days he had off due to a vomiting bug. Secondly, my son works extremely hard, and deserves to recognised for all his effort. You're the one being unreasonable, and frankly, nasty.

It’s infuriating isn’t it. It’s annoying me so goodness knows how you are feeling. You have my sympathy OP

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