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Help dd not going to sch, has GCSE’s this week

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Diamondt · 18/05/2021 09:36

Hi, I don’t know what to do. Sorry if this doesn’t make sense.

Any advise of how to try to get through the next few days of GCSE’s?
My dd’s anxiety & depression has became so bad she’s refusing to go to school (even out of the house tbh) She had her GCSE’s last week & week before and managed to go in and do a few but now refusing to go in this week.
Her last exam last week she nearly passed out & was crying. The invigilators ended up letting her do it outside of the classroom, their idea. This really helped. She is now panicking this will happen again but then won’t get help. Each day she feels sick, dizzy, generally ill. In the exams she says she can’t focus enough to do them as feeling like she’s going to pass out, keeps getting that rush feeling more or less constantly.

I don’t know what to do. She has 3.5 days left with 2 exams each day then that’s it. They have been able to rearrange the missed ones for this week but times running out. She’s missed this mornings one now too.

She says if she can be on her own she will try as she doesn’t feel as bad and can try to get through it. Being in a classroom is just exploding her feelings.
The invigilators said she can sit outside but that was to her not the sch. The sch are saying she has to go in the class room.

What can I do to help her? I do understand and have been in her situation many times before as I’m epileptic & know you can’t flip a switch for the nxt few days. It’s frustrating for us both as it’s 3.5 days then that’s it. She’s finished sch !

I said I know I’m asking a lot of her but I’m really worried about her exam results as she needs them for college. Just go in and take it step by step. You don’t know what they might be able to sort out when you’re there.

Pls be kind, I’m asking for help/advise. I am worried about her long term and we have things in place & in the pipeline.

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Sometimesfraught82 · 28/05/2021 12:22

Good luck to all
I can’t imagine how stressful this must be

These teens have awesome parents on their side though - so they will get through this

TeenMinusTests · 28/05/2021 12:58

Test done, after a fashion. Level of SPaG left a lot to be desired. But at least by sitting it she should get a grade of sorts. Hopefully. Only maths to do now, after half term.

PainterInPeril · 28/05/2021 18:49

I feel in your daughter's situation, it isn't really about grades. It's about coping with her anxiety. She has already done well simply by forcing herself to do that. Well done to her, and to you for helping her to cope!

TeenMinusTests · 28/05/2021 18:55

I agree Painter . She has had lots of praise just for trying. At the end of last term I suggested a schedule to school as the 'optimistic best' she might be able to manage. It's been tough, but she has done it, with just the maths to go.

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