Being sued by a disgruntled former nanny

[Angeldust99]

Has this happened to anyone else? It seems like everywhere I turn, I hear stories of disgruntled former employees suing their employers for money - often on made up grounds. It’s scary!

@Whitesky75

As an employer, I have a right to choose who I employ.

Absolutely you do. However, once you've employed them, you have to abide by the law. Which would mean you couldn't sack the nanny in this case as pregnancy is a protected characteristic.

So you sacked her for being pregnant! And then lied about it!

I can’t tell whether you’re despicable or just painfully stupid.

Anyway I don’t want to totally derail OP thread. I wasn’t expecting such a reaction from me mentioning something that happened 8.5 years ago !

Why are you still trying to justify your discrimination when there is no excuse and nothing that makes it ok or excusable?

Well I’d have been stupid to say I’d seen her and was sacking her due to that so we used the true reasons we had available to us which were legal !

You fired her for being pregnant, lied about the reasons for the dismissal and boasted that you got away with it.

It's illegal and if she'd had the energy and resources to fight you you'd have lost.

You aren't in the right here. The only "other side" you're showing is why we need laws to protect workers from people like you.

I’m not - I’ve agreed that yes I did choose to sack her due to finding out she was pregnant and yes that was illegal. She would not have been able to offer da the level of care he needed and we would have had to pay ! So as she had no idea we knew she was pregnant we were able to refer to the repeated conversations about lateness and the fact I was changing to PT which was legal

It's illegal. And it's been illegal for decades to fire a woman for bringing pregnant.

It's that simple.

Play the pregnancy card? I'm not sure I know what you mean.

She took it further , she wasn’t successful

I’m not - I’ve agreed that yes I did choose to sack her due to finding out she was pregnant and yes that was illegal.

What you did was wrong, incredibly so and there is no excuse or justification for it yet you seem weirdly proud of it. There is nothing that you have posted that makes it in any way excusable.

Because she couldn’t prove that you lied. Not because you didn’t lie.

You seem strangely ok with saying you acted illegally, while refusing to accept that you lied.

I’ve agreed that yes I did choose to sack her due to finding out she was pregnant and yes that was illegal.

Disgusting. Just disgusting.

She couldn't prove that you lied.

But she doesn't need anyone to excuse her.
She did it, got away with it and presumably the family got a Nanny who wasn't late and who wasnt (probably) able to properly fulfill her duties within a matter of months, take time off and then might never have returned.
What this person did was the best thing for HER SON so why should she apologise for that?

You have a child with SEN and so you are going to experience a lot of discrimination over the coming years. And your child will likely experiencing that throughout life.

I wonder if that will make you reflect on your appalling and disgusting behaviour.

Because we didn’t lie we officially sacked her for issues we had already raised with her and could prove that? Yes the real reason was that we knew she wouldn’t be around for long and wouldn’t be able to lift ds etc

She just couldn’t prove she had notified us of her pregnancy prior to us sacking her - because she hadn’t ! I’d just seen her leaving with her maternity folder

When you are in a hole it’s best not to keep digging.

You did lie. You didn't truly sack her for the reasons you claimed. You've openly admitted and boasted about it, why on earth are you backtracking now? For someone who was so angry about lying you're spinning quite the web yourself.

I have no idea how you are linking these 2 things but you do seem rather pleased/hopeful this child will experience discrimination.

Very true.

I mean officially the reasons we have for sacking were legitimate. The real reason was illegal yes but it was on her to prove she had notified us which she hadnt - and that’s why we didn’t have any problems.

And clearly no guilty conscience. Which makes it even worse. Even more despicable.

You keep explaining how you got away with your illegal action as if you think the problem is that we don't understand how you did it.

We needed someone who could provide a certain level of care long term 🤷‍♀️ds comes first