Social services say gran has to go in a home ..what now?

[onestepat]

My gran is nearly 99.
I'm 34 and have looked after her for the last 15 years.
She broke her hip 3 weeks ago.
I thought she was coming home with care assistants popping in to assist.
Social services have now told me that she needs 24 hour care.
She has to go in a home.
They didn't ask me ..they told me.
I feel so upset.
I feel like a failure
I feel like I've let her down.
I've seen her every day since I was 10 (except for 1 holiday a year )
Why couldn't they try the carer thing.

Due to her age can the LA agree specialist home care if you lived with her? It can’t be in a 99 yo’s best interest to move from familiar surroundings for what are (realistically) probably only a few months.

Have the hospital carried out a financial assessment to decide who is paying for the carehome. She should have had a care needs assessment so that the right care is given in the right home. Do you have power of attorney to look at homes and arrange everything. It sounds like you have done an amazing job looking after her but she needs 24hr care now. The hospital social worker or discharge coordinator need to help find the right home.

So sorry you are in this situation, but really, sometimes there just comes a point where a person needs 24h professional care which simply cannot be provided by family members at home. It's not your fault and you have done everything you can, but it is the best thing for her needs now.