My 4 yo has been headbutted - help!

[bella29]

My 4 yo dd has been headbutted by a child 4 years older at school today - headbutted with such force the back of her head slammed into a brick wall. She's okay (I hope) but we have had all sorts of issues with playground violence towards our dc over the past 3 years and, despite raising our concerns with the school, it clearly isn't getting better. We have reported it to the police (on the police's recommendation) but where do we go/what can we expect from here, please.

Many thanks.

[bella29]

Thanks for the advice, ladies.

I am putting my letter together now. Have come to the conclusion that the head is herself a bully - I'm fairly seasoned in tough meetings but Friday's was still quite intimidating and I am certain that some one with less experience would have folded on the spot. Still cried all the way home anyway

At least dd is okay and both dc are very happy to be off school. As dh says, knowing you can go out to play without having your head bashed in must be a big relief to them.

[CarGirl]

That really is a shockingly bad attitude from the head! I hope the new head is a vast improvement.

If the head says to you again "well your ds hits" I would ask her "and what sanction was given to him to enforce the fact that violence is not acceptable?"

If my dc were being violent I hope the school would impliment some sort of consequence!

[BoffinMum]

I come across many heads who are bullies. It's the truth that dare not speak its name about UK schooling.
Keep standing up to her!

[bella29]

Thanks, Boffinmum. Have got the letter all ready to go now.

Both dc very happy at the moment, especially ds for whom this has been going on for a long time.

Feel like a bad mother for not having taken serious action sooner

[BoffinMum]

You are not a bad mother, because you are taking action now when it really matters. A lot happens at school and we shouldn't step in every five minutes and wrap our children in cotton wool!