If you have been Bullied what did you learn?

[TinselQueen]

After I was out of the bullying situation and had time to reflect I learned :

To trust my gut . If someone feels off they usually are.

To grey rock and avoid eye contact.

To nip it in the bud straight away , people will do to you what they think they can get away with .

In some cases kill them with kindness . It's hard to be mean to someone who is being nice to you , especially in front of others .

Some bullying esp in the workplace is actually a deflection, by putting attention on you it detracts from them.

In the case of some workplace bullies it's just best to cut your losses and move on . Some people are in so thick with management you will never win and they have done a character assassination on you anyway .

The most important thing to remember is if it wasn't you it would be someone else . The problem lies with the bully . Never blame yourself or think you have something wrong with you .

A bully relies on silence . Speak up always .

Bullies are cowards. Protect your privacy. Most people are weak willed and will side with the bully

Because they don’t want to be next . When a bully left the workplace I was in , not one of her allies or supporters made contact with her . I asked one of them if she was still in touch with the bully and her reply was “Oh no , too much drama “.

If your workplace bullies are from another country management will do nothing about it out of fear of being called racist.

Management are often weak and production / target focused . The bully knows Management will do sweet FA as they don’t want to get involved in something that could come back on them and be accused of racism , sexism etc .