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Find advice from others who have experienced school or workplace bullying on our Bulllying forum.

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Gutted as a parent

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annabanana88 · 04/03/2023 12:29

My son was on his way home from school the other day when he was attacked by another boy whilst another vile child filmed and laughed. My son repeatedly asked to go home whilst this was happening. He was told to kneel down and apologise ( which he did ) then he had his nose burst while he knelt there. My son had never even seen this boy before. When my boy got home he was covered in blood, his face swollen, burst nose and lip. I found out who this boy is and got a hold of the video then went to the police...they later informed me that they'd caught up with him but there was nothing they could do as he's just under 12 years old. So this little sh*t brutally assaulted my boy but will face no consequences because he's under 12 years old? Where do they draw the line?? No wonder folk take matters into their own hands if this is the ' laws ' answer to serious situations! I don't even know what I expect from posting this, I think I just needed to rant and maybe hear from anyone who's been in a similar situation...I'm heartbroken and can't get the images out of my head, totally feel like I failed my child because I wasn't there to protect him.

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Crazycatlady83 · 04/03/2023 12:38

I'm so sorry this has happened to you DS.

Are you in the UK - the criminal age of responsibility in the UK is 10 and therefore the police absolutely can do something. Ask for formal notification they will not be taking any further action and then challenge the decision.

MintJulia · 04/03/2023 12:43

Crazycatlady83 · 04/03/2023 12:38

I'm so sorry this has happened to you DS.

This. I hope you are in the UK. Make it clear to the police that you expect and require them to act. If they don't you will complain the the local PCC.

You can bring a private prosecution for assault. Inform the bully's parents. His school. The school pta. Make sure every single person in the town knows what he is.

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annabanana88 · 04/03/2023 12:47

Yes I'm in Scotland. I honestly don't understand why they wouldn't pursue this...the police were disgusted when they viewed the footage. I will certainly do what you have suggested, thank you. I'm new here so hope I've managed to tag you Crazycatlady.

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Crazycatlady83 · 04/03/2023 12:49

Oh I'm so sorry @annabanana88 - i meant to say England and Wales age of responsibility is 10. In Scotland I believe it is indeed 12.

DNAshelicase · 04/03/2023 12:52

I would put the video all over social media and shame the boy and his family, he deserves a shitty reputation

anon37484291918 · 04/03/2023 12:53

Get the mum?

EmbracingTheEyeBags · 04/03/2023 12:54

🥺 this was upsetting to read, never mind having to see the footage of what happened to your own poor boy! I can only imagine how you are feeling bless you and your son.
I don't have advice but I couldn't read and run. I have a little boy not quite 2 yet but with the way things are I do fear for him as he grows up 😩
I just want to give you a big virtual hug OP. I hope he is ok ❤️

I would want to visit his mum to show her what a little scrote her son is! I would be so so angry!
I hope the police can do something even if it's a visit and a caution, it may help defer him from repeating the act? May not.. but something needs to be done either way he can't get away with that!

Xxx

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annabanana88 · 04/03/2023 12:57

@DNAshelicase see this is what I wanted to do but my ( nearly ) teenage girl is asking me not to as my son will be going to secondary school this year and she doesn't want him being bullied further ( I obviously don't either ) but I want people to be aware of this brute and keep their children as far away from him as possible.

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DNAshelicase · 04/03/2023 13:00

Yeah I totally get that and it’s a fair point from your DD. I am probably being unreasonable but I have a little boy and the rage I would feel if this happened to him. So sorry OP, get your son some treats and have a lovely weekend together

ditalini · 04/03/2023 13:01

I'm so sorry op. I am the mildest mannered of people and don't usually bear grudges, but I think I'll bear a white hot grudge against the boy who bullied my son until my dying day (and it was nothing as physical as that).

Could you report the family to social services? I know they're overstretched but surely that sort of behaviour is a big red flag for future disturbed and violent behaviour that needs stopping now before he does end up in the criminal justice system.

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annabanana88 · 04/03/2023 13:05

@EmbracingTheEyeBags honestly hun it was horrific to watch...I still feel physically sick!! The world is such a horrible place and protecting your kids seems to be becoming harder. Thanks for the hug 🥰 I'll make sure he's going to be ok and doesn't let him impact him too much. I will be showing his parents the footage when I find out where he lives...I would be horrified if any of my children thought that behavior was acceptable!! The police had a ' strong ' word with him but seriously that's a kick in the teeth for us xxx

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annabanana88 · 04/03/2023 13:08

@DNAshelicase the rage I am feeling is off the scale and I don't know how to channel or process it at all!! I know we can't wrap them up in cotton wool but I certainly want to now.

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mummywithtwokidsplusdog · 04/03/2023 13:09

Your poor boy- and poor you! I’m shocked that a child under 12 would behave like that and even more shocked that the police say they can’t do anything? Your DD sounds wise …. what is your son saying? I would definitely email your child’s teacher and headteacher so they can see the footage so they understand what an awful time he’s had and ask their advice re letting social services know?

Quitelikeit · 04/03/2023 13:10

Op I am so sorry. I witnessed my child on the end of some repulsive behaviour and I cried for him. It truly is awful.

there is truly some disgusting vile children in the world and unfortunately a lot of there parents are similar to them as the kids are a reflection of their parents

Smartiepants79 · 04/03/2023 13:10

Do you know what school the kid goes to? Perhaps try through them?

EmbracingTheEyeBags · 04/03/2023 13:13

Bless him ❤️ things like this play on my mind when I've seen news articles and videos in the past. I hate it so I understand it's really really upset you as a mom. Don't feel like you failed him though there's nothing you could have done mom, although you want to, it's impossible to protect them forever. You sound like an amazing, caring mom. Like other poster said, Just have plenty cuddles on the sofa this weekend, get some junk food/treats and give him plenty of love. And I hope it doesn't impact him too much especially mentally I really hope it doesn't. Maybe when he's feeling a bit more himself mention if he'd like to use this to take up a hobby in self defence or something to build his confidence back up. We already spoke about this with our DS when he's old enough of course. It's a scary world isn't it sadly.
Lots of love to you all xxx

RudsyFarmer · 04/03/2023 13:16

MintJulia · 04/03/2023 12:43

This. I hope you are in the UK. Make it clear to the police that you expect and require them to act. If they don't you will complain the the local PCC.

You can bring a private prosecution for assault. Inform the bully's parents. His school. The school pta. Make sure every single person in the town knows what he is.

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Fuck yes!!! All of this!!! You have photographic and video evidence of this crime. Do not let this go. You push it as far as you can. Media if need be. Do not let this little shit hurt one more child.

Ilovetocrochet · 04/03/2023 13:20

I would definitely contact the school as I think they have a responsibility for behaviour during travel to and from school, especially if in uniform. I could be wrong but I certainly remember such incidents being dealt with by the school when I was still a teacher.

JacobsCrackersCheeseFogg · 04/03/2023 13:22

Talk to the parents?

If my kid did that I'd ground him forever and force the little to apologise to your lad AND you. But we live in the real world, unfortunately.

HappyBirthdayLydia · 04/03/2023 13:22

Was the other child / children from the same school?

I would be making a lot of noise with the school the bullies attend- they absolutely must address it as a matter of protection for your son?

JacobsCrackersCheeseFogg · 04/03/2023 13:23

Little s(..)t, I mean.

DangerPigeon · 04/03/2023 13:25

That sounds awful! I hope your ds is okay. Would it be worth getting in touch with the secondary school he's going to and letting them know, just in case they'll be at the same school?

PatientlyWaiting21 · 04/03/2023 13:40

God that’s heartbreaking, so sorry for you both, some kids are utter cunts! Give your boy a cuddle from me. You didn’t fail him.

MamOfFive · 04/03/2023 13:41

I don't normally say this but go round to the parents house and threaten them in front of their little shit of a child.

They'll soon learn not to do it again.

Spraylatter · 04/03/2023 13:47

This makes me want to cry and I would be fuming. I’m sorry this happened to your little man and that saw the footage.

I would be trying every avenue possible to give this boy some comeuppance. Lots of good advice above. If you don’t track your sons phone I would get him an air tag so you can have piece of mind you know where he is.

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