Bullying ? Teacher improper contact

[Respect17]

Please read this and advise me.
I am a parent of 2 children at the same school.
On a parent teacher evening last year. While standing next to both children...long after school had finished.
A teacher barked orders at my child unfairly. I didnt do anything.
Some months later the same male teacher approached from behind me as i waited in playground .
He put his hand on me. Asked me questions referring to children .names which he got wrong .
I didnt say a word .i felt uncomfortable with him. And he left.
I didnt report it.
This week . I collected my child in playground as usual. School has a policy not to ride bicycles scooters in grounds.
My child collected their scooter as i waited for my youngest. He walked his scooter down path. As 3 children zoomed past me towards him.
The same male teacher shouted my sons name .singling him out even though others were at fault.
This point was enough for me.
I walked towards teacher .about 2 mtrs. He was still 4 mtrs away.
I told him not to talk to my son like he was an animal.
And i stopped.
Teacher approached me angry with his chest puffed out.
As he came within arms length. I wondered was he going to touch me like before.
I asked him to "go away"
He was enraged
I asked again.
Go away.
He did not take his eyes from me.
I said go away or i will assault you.
He walked away.
Reported my last ditch attempt as a threat.
Now
I am being interviewed by headmaster.
I have since found. The teacher has a history of similar and only just back from a suspension.

I have given the school my full statements. And asked..... to keep off school grounds.
Help .

The school has asked me
To stay off grounds. To show male teacher
Their duty of care.
At the expense of my family and any reputation.

I said go away or i will assault you.

What a stupid thing to say.

Soola
I agree . At the time knowing his past contact he has had with me. I was calm and he agitated.

Ok, so you lost your cool.

I think you should make it clear in a letter to the school governors that you felt intimidated by his behaviour towards your child and yourself and that’s why you said if he comes closer you would assault him, so that it shows your comment was in defence not as an attack.

I would also speak to your local MP for support before you go down an expensive legal path.

Were the three other children on scooters?

What did the teacher shout to make you suggest he was talking to your son like an animal?

How do you know the teacher has been suspended and the reason behind the suspension?

You need to explain in what way he 'touched' you last time.

Ok he called out at my son . Said his name. As he shouted the word
Bloody scooter.
NO my son wasnt on his scooter. The 3 other children ...whose names are not same as my son.
Were all on theirs. Riding at a fast pace.
The male teacher put his hand directly on my shoulder as he asked me questions .. for about 2 minutes.

Also because of my ban from school grounds a friend had contacted me . And has removed his daughter from this school since he was reinstated after she was verbally abused by him on numerous occasions and while in their presence.

He should have told all the children to stop. The words he used are not speaking to someone like an animal. Your reaction was disproportionate.

Your information around the teacher being suspended appears to be gossip.

What do you want to happen now? Have you apologised for threatening to assault the teacher?

Is the ban just for the time it takes the head to investigate or for longer?
I’d be creeped out and feel intimidated if a bloke put his hand on my shoulder like that. It’s not on. He’s on some power trip.

Well you lost your temper- that is easily apologised for.

The rest seems to be second hand info?

You did threaten him though? You can't do that. If the other issues were so terrible you should have reported them at the time...

I havent exactly said
What he shouted at my son here.
This is not the first time he has shouted at him while i was present and have collected my child.
At what point.... does a teacher give up responsibility ?
Outside the gate? Or
When a guardian has collected the child?

OP, that's not speaking to your son like an animal. And putting his hand on your shoulder isn't assault. He wanted to get your attention on the playground. No doubt in front of many other parents.
However, what you did was threaten a teacher. In front of your own child. What sort of message does that send out to your child? You have no idea if, or why he was suspended. And if he was and is now back in school then the school clearly didn't think he had anything to answer for or else they would have dismissed him.

When he spoke to you, you ignored him ? You also threatened to assault him ?
What a strange post

Keeps responsibility whilst on school premises with or without parent I’d say.

If your child is not following the school rules whether in your presence or not, staff should deal with that, as you clearly are not.

You threatened to assault a member of staff on school premises(possibly using a different expression) and wonder why you are banned? They have a responsibility for safety on their grounds, of your child, other children and visitors.

None of what you've said the teacher did justifies saying "I am going to assault you". I agree that putting his hand on your shoulder was not on. You should have said so at the time, or complained about him if it bothered you. I don't think anything he said to your dc sounds particularly objectionable, and certainly not like talking to an animal.

The hand on my shoulder was only weeks ago.
I honestly thought he had no boundries when he approached me . I am not in any way confrontational. But i felt a need to stop an abuse. That is all. My partner is a teacher also.

You can’t go around threatening to assault people. I’d imagine you’ll be banned from the school premises indefinitely. You’ll have to wait outside the playground to pick up your children.

A hand on a shoulder is not abuse or assault

The hand on the shoulder is definitely not abuse.

I guess I would say they definitely have authority on school grounds but anyway it will do your kids a lot more good if they don't hear their parents threaten teachers.

You literally threatened to assault him, even if you were annoyed at how he spoke to your son and didn’t like him touching you on the shoulder previously you were out of order and should be banned from school premises even if just for a short time

If you threatened to assault the teacher it's unsurprising that you've been banned from the school grounds.