.. I am very against that advise but really getting sick of things and at wits end.
Basically we had issues that came to a head in Yr5. Had gone on for 3 years and 3 different Heads and the behavioural problems in a small group of boys were not improving. My son was desperately unhappy. After much gut wrenching/governor complaints etc we finally moved schools. Best thing we ever did. DS settled fast, a weight was lifted from him and to prove it he did himself really proud in SATS and left primary on a high.
Now at upper school. Some of the original children from previous school are there and he generally gives them a wide berth. We have had a few incidents but he has handled it well - one kid in particular just being persistently mean. I informed the school every time - who seem pretty uninterest to be honest. DS grits teeth and gets on with it. - Said child apparently took shit stuff off his shoe today and wiped all over my DS's jumper. We grit teeth. At the bus stop today older child went up to mine and slapped him on both sides of his face. Laughed and carried on his way. This child is a couple of years older, lives locally and had done similar a few times now.
What do I do? Tell my 11 yr old to toughen up? Stand up for himself? Each little incident takes him a step back to remembering the awful bullying of before and I can see his anxiety levels rising. What would you do? Most blokes seem to say to boys to hit back etc. It doesn't sit right with me. But I am aware he is 11 and I can't keep fighting his battles for him. I would really welcome some advice from others who have experienced similar and come out the other side.
Also DS and I divorcing. Kid has enough going on.