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Infant feeding

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Extended Breastfeeding discussion thread

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Flighttattendant · 30/06/2010 07:26

Hi all, just tried to respond on the previous thread here

and found it was too big, so thought it might be worth starting another in case anyone else wants to continue the discussion.

In response to Cakes, two points.

First: the entire topic of weaning and milk is quite a complex one, moreso if you start involving dummies. I've never had an issue with an older child having either a bottle or a dummy - indeed my first child had a bottle of milk as his replacement for breastfeeding from about 18 months, and continued to do so, preferring milk to 'proper' food till he was about 3. I'm not certain why - perhaps my dodgy cooking played a part - but there were efforts made to encourage eating and he didn't really want it.

I've been massively flamed on here for allowing him a bottle at pre school, and a dummy which he still has on occasion at 7 (though will not in public - his choice). I see NOTHING wrong with that...he is insecure sometimes and it comforts him.

Anyway...enough about poor old ds1.

The other point was about the word 'Boobie' which you suggested some EBFers 'teach' their child to say as opposed to 'milk'. I am baffled by this assertion.

There are as many names for it as there are women who breastfeed, short term or not - I shan't go into the variety of words I have heard used but I really, really have never heard of a policy of EBFers to use the word 'Boobie'. And really, I don't see why they shouldn't - but please do try and remember that kids often choose their own word, it isn't usually a case of the parent deciding what they call the breast.

For what it's worth, ds2 is limited in his language still but my breasts are known, somewhat inspiringly, as 'This one milky' and 'That one milky'

On that note I will abandon this thing to the mercies of anyone else as crazed determined interested as I am in the whole topic...back later.

OP posts:

Deux · 06/07/2010 20:18

My DD is almost 2 and shows no signs of giving up. She says 'mulk mamee' and then pulls at my top. If she wants the other breast she sort of taps that side. Sometimes alot of swapping sides goes on.

Until recently she was only fed before bed and before her nap. For some reason she wants more feeding this week. Today when we were upstairs she said 'in bed mamee me mulk'. Right OK then I know what you want .. So we snuggled up and all was well with the world. Must confess to having a nap myself [blush}.

MultipleHeadedFlyingPig · 06/07/2010 20:25

I'm still bfing my 3yr old. She doesn't call it anything. She does say 'please may I have some of your milk' and always says 'thank you that was lovely' afterwards.

Nowt to do with me. I gave birth to a Victorian apparently.

hellymelly · 06/07/2010 22:13

MHFP that is very sweet.My dd does this whole ritual of "that's a pretty bra mummy,with bows on,and that's a pretty booa with moles on (!),"and then I have to say "and thats a pretty face" to her.Every bedtime,She does say "I'd like the other one now please".

spiderlight · 06/07/2010 22:30

MHFP, she sounds adorable!!

BosomForAPillow · 06/07/2010 22:36

My dd asks for milk but it sounds like "malt". She also asks for the "other side"/"dat side" quite clearly now, whereas a few months ago she'd wail "side" but it came out "whhhhhyyyyyy!" She's 21 months.

cheezcurl · 06/07/2010 22:47

Blowing raspberries and nuzzling down the cleavage sounds so familiar! My DD also will request a change of breast by yelling "other side"... when she is done we get a resounding "yummy!"

greenbananas · 06/07/2010 23:13

I love these stories - keep them coming! Yes, blowing raspberries and nuzzling does sound very familiar... especially on the bus...

For me, one of the many lovely things about full-term bf is the fine excuse to lounge around reading for half an hour each afternoon, having a lovely cuddle with DS while feeding him to sleep. He asks for this by saying "mik" and "batbee" (=blanket).

solo · 07/07/2010 00:22

I get asked for 'can I have the other one now please' and sometimes she'll tell me 'it was lovely or delicious' oh and I love having boobie'.

booyhoo · 07/07/2010 00:24

i also have no bfing friends.

can i just ask, ds is 13 months is that classed as 'extended bfing'?

solo · 07/07/2010 00:28

Not sure booy. sorry.

slushy · 07/07/2010 07:45

Booyhoo It depends on the individual person, there is no clear defined age some say 2+ some say 18m+ some say 1= and some say 6m+ it seems to depend on how long the person fed their baby for as to what they think is extended.

I personally think as most mums do not hit 12mths and a baby is fully weaned by then that this age should be classed as EBF.

CoupleofKooks · 07/07/2010 07:57

the more appropriate name is 'natural term breastfeeding', of course - with 'curtailed breastfeeding' for those who wean earlier

can any of you weirdy freaks help me with my nearly 2 year old who seems to have developed a really crap latch
i am sore as hell, have cuts from his teeth on each nipple, as his teeth have been resting on the very side of my nipple when feeding - he's obviously sucking on the ends, and he likes to push / knead the breast while he is feeding, which makes it worse

i've had some luck with asking him to open wide before each feed, and then stuffing in as much breast as possible - but he likes to chat while feeding so each time he pops off we have to start again, and i don't get it right each time - the cracks are getting bigger and sorer

is there anything else simple i am missing? lying down feeds seem the worst - possibly because i am half asleep and it's in the dark - possibly the position
but i can be ultra careful all day and improve things by the evening, only for it to re-open again at night after one short badly latched feed

tribunalgoer · 07/07/2010 08:15

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mrsbuggywinkle · 07/07/2010 08:24

Hello!

I'm tandem nursing DD1 (4 this month!) and DD2 who is 15mths. DD1 still nurses lots, twice some days 6 times on others! She asks very politely for milk, and always tells me wether it is chocolate or strawberry flavoured!

DD2 signs and boings up and down...when I undo my bra she starts nodding vigorously! She also waves bye bye to the milk and blows kisses when she's done!

Sorting out latching with older ones...opening wide and latching quickly is good. Then I unlatch the moment DD1's latch goes a bit odd and ask her to latch again...she also chats while nursing (but only at home, she nurses properly when we're in public). When she was younger I also asked her to show me how well she can latch, which worked...she also used to slide off my nipple which drove me crazy so we also do wide mouth to unlatch too!

slushy · 07/07/2010 09:51

I used to keep a finger ready for biting or if the latch was wrong and I would break the latch as soon as it started hurting.

This annoyed ds so he stopped biting and pulling and twisting on the breast .

GormlessHeart · 07/07/2010 10:47

Yes I think it's tough to have a whinge about ebf to your non bf friends as they are baffled as to why you don't just stop.

ATM it's the constant switching of sides which is driving me crazy, DS (20m) doesn't say anything but does the sign for 'outside' which means 'other side' in his world!

I don't feed him in public anymore which makes me feel a bit disappointed in myself, as it's only by doing it that it becomes a more normal thing to do...

booyhoo · 07/07/2010 12:16

ds is doing this thing now where he will latch on for about 15 seconds and then want the other side and then back again. it is very frustrating, especially in the early morning feed when i want to doze!! i try to latch him back on teh same side before he switches but he gets annoyed and squeals at me. he has also started unlatching to 'chat' in his own babbly way.

weasle · 07/07/2010 13:00

my ds2 is 2.6 yrs and asks for mummy milk. however, as he gets older i am regretting that it is so obvious what he wants as most people don't know i am still bf him. MIL often helps me at bedtime and it's not discussed that i am still bf as she certainly wouldn't approve, but ds2 screaming 'me want mummy milk' makes it rather obvious!

couple, he also chomps into me with his teeth a bit and leaves a mark from his top incisors and it is really painful. gettng him to open wide helps a bit. i was going to try to wean (as per my previous thread about DH asking me to stop) but he's asking for it more in the day as well now.

i think with ds3 (7 weeks) i might try to teach him a euphemism instead of mummy milk, but it won't be boob!

slushy · 07/07/2010 13:08

Actually ds did call mine boob only he couldn't say boob so said boo, and I was called wait for it either slushy or boohbah, Dp found this hysterical .

My ds had a lot of speech problems when he was little but most people assumed when he cried boo boo boooo that he was calling me.

booyhoo · 07/07/2010 13:14

ds calls mine "nahnahanahnah" but it is the same word he uses for all food. i think it is because he always has a banana first thing in the morning and i say "banana" everytime i give it to him which he repeats but he thinks all food is called banana.

slushy · 07/07/2010 13:24

I always gave ds and dd a banana in the morning .

BosomForAPillow · 07/07/2010 14:02

It's nice to hear from so many people feeding toddlers. I also don't know anyone in RL, although one friend fed until a year. It's great that the original "um, weird" thread produced this lovely thread instead.

GormlessHeart · 07/07/2010 20:48

Where is the original thread, BosomForAPillow?

And how is the night weaning going btw? (I used to be MrsMotMot) I have taken a... retrograde step or two...

GormlessHeart · 07/07/2010 20:48

oops see link in OP now

BosomForAPillow · 07/07/2010 21:13

(Never done that before!)

Nightweaning not so good. I did write a post on my thread earlier but then my computer didn't send it. Retrograde steps here too...back to square one really. Urghh.

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