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Tiktol & others, please help! Just had an accident & can't bf my baby. Am heartbroken.

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Maria2007 · 10/01/2009 08:31

Hi Tiktok (and other bf experts), I need your help urgently!

Here's some background: I'm Maria (we've met on these threads before, I think). I'm breastfeeding my 5 & a half month old baby since birth. He's also used to taking bottles once in a while, since in the last 3 weeks we've been giving him one bottle of formula at 11. Under my current circumstances it's good that he's comfortable taking bottles.

So. Yesterday, around 4 pm, I had a bad accident. I fell on my face (onto a plate) & broke several teeth- some came out completely- and other teeth are misplaced. I will need extensive dental work. I also had big cuts all over my mouth, & was given extensive stitching at hospital (I went with an ambulance to A&E). As you can imagine the whole thing was extremely traumatic, I lost lots of blood & didn't know at first what was happening. I'm very relieved that the damage is only on my mouth & teeth, as it could have been so much worse. But it's likely there might be some reconstructive work needed in the future, let's see.

About the medications I'm taking: They gave me morphine at hospital, for the pain. And then lots of local anaesthesia for the stitching. They have now put me on 2 antibiotics (Amoclan & Amoxillin) & one strong painkiller (Diclofenac). Plus, some paracetamol as needed. I will also be doing dental work, starting today, & that too will likely require more anaesthesia & perhaps more painkillers. Hopefully all this treatment will be completed within a week or- more likely- 2 weeks.

In the meantime, I can't & won't breastfeed, not without getting advice (hence my msg here), because I'm very scared of giving all this medicine to my boy through the milk. At the same time, I don't know what to do. Last night after my return from hospital I expressed & threw the milk away (to relieve the engorgement). This morning I also expressed & threw it away. Should I express & throw it out? If so, when? My boy usually feeds every 3 hours or so. At night we give him one bottle of formula at 11 (and I express at the same time) & then we usually give him EBM at 3.30 or so- this too we started recently & it helped our baby's sleep- so he's used to bottles at night. The rest of his feeds have been direct breastfeeds. Should I express on that schedule & throw it out? Could I then continue feeding him- when this ordeal is over- perhaps EBM in bottles if he refuses the breast? (will he, most likely, refuse the breast after 1-2 weeks on bottles solely)? I was planning & hoping to keep up the bf until he's 1 year old or so, perhaps keeping up to 3 feeds a day on the breast. Is that completely wishful thinking at the moment? Should I just give up completely? I don't want to, not in this traumatic & sudden way, but I also need to rest & recover.

Any advice would be fantastic. I can't talk to a bf helpline so easily because- as you can imagine- I don't talk clearly because of my cuts in the mouth. Which is why I'm writing here. I've always got good advice here....

Thanks in advance.
maria

OP posts:
Jacksmama · 19/01/2009 20:55

If you still feel wobbly I second talking to your GP. You've had a trauma and it can stick with you for a while. There's no shame at all in saying you're having a hard time or in getting some help so you feel capable again.
xxx

Poledra · 26/01/2009 21:43

Maria

How are you and that lovely boy of yours doing?

Penthesileia · 26/01/2009 21:45

Yes, how are you? Was just thinking of you over on that soft-spot thread.

Hope you are all ok & healing!

Maria2007 · 26/01/2009 22:17

Hi Poledra & Penthesileia How lovely that you've thought of me!

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Poledra · 26/01/2009 22:34

Fantastic, Maria. I'm so pleased your mouth and teeth are feeling better, and even more pleased to hear how well you and your DS are doing. Good on you for sticking to your guns at such a stressful time.

PS if he's 6 months old, does that make him a July 2008 baby? There are a load of us hangin' out over here, y'know, and we're reeeeeeally nice....

Grendle · 26/01/2009 22:37

I'd been wondering how you were too. So glad to hear that things are gradually improving .

Penthesileia · 26/01/2009 22:37

This thread!

Wow - it sounds like you're doing so well. I'm so impressed by the way it sounds you're handling it all!

Sorry about the flashbacks. Have you been offered any kind of counselling? Would you want some?

Stayingsunnygirl · 26/01/2009 22:37

I've only just read this thread, and having read your first post, Maria, I had to read through to the end to see how things went and how you are doing now.

I am so glad to hear that things are getting better for you physically, and with the breastfeeding, and I'm sending you a huge (but gentle) hug in case that will help at all.

And Tiktok and all the others who posted advice and support here - wow - what a wonderful and caring group of people you are.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 30/01/2009 09:50

So pleased that things are going so well now. Hooray!

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