can u share a positive story with me when you stopped b' feeding your dc during the night??? he is crying with dh and I am finding it quite hard not to go up and feed him......

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ds wakes every 40min to 2 hourly through the evening. On the rare occasion if I go out, he refuses a bottle (excl b'fed) and will settle quickly and sleep through most of the night with anyone else but me. he eats well during the day and feeds at least 4-5 times, this evening we are going to try and get him to sleep through for at least part of the night by doing pick up put down....

how did you stay strong?! I can hear him crying upstairs with DH and I want to go and give him my boob!!

he is 10 mo btw!

I think it's a bit young myself.

you might not want to hear this but I do think he's too young as well. With my dd we waited until she was nearly 2 and was able to understand when I told her that breastfeeding goes to sleep at night. I'm not suggesting that you should wait till he's 2 but 10 months really is ever so little and although it feels like a pain in the arse now, this too will pass in a blink of an eye and he'll be all grown up. I do know the frustration as my dd was feeding all day and all night for a long time but if your heart says go and feed him, then go and feed him! I woke up one morning and knew I didn't want to feed her at night anymore and it was only then that I truly had the resolve to do it.

just to clarify I meant he wakes every 40min to 2 hour through the whole night until morning, not just the evening!

I did nightweaning recently but DS3 was 15-16 months. Would have found it too tough that young, especially given separation anxiety, weaning and going back to work etc at that age.

As moony says, I would wait until he is ready...

But if you must... The only way to go is ear plugs and bravery on your part.

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BTW we went through a phase about that age where I had to swap sides and cluster feed a lot in the evenings for him to sleep for longer stretches...

So feeding 4-5 times between 7-10 and making sure he got 4 or sometimes 6 (!) sides each time! Exhausting but it usually meant only one feed in the night then...

If he won't take a bottle then I think you need to BF him. He will be so confused right now. If you really need to stop BF at night then I think you need to work on getting him to take a bottle before just refusing to feed him when he is used to being fed on demand.

DD is 12 months and BF till 8-9 months and still has milk at night. She is on cows milk now but I don't see why she should go without so she still has it when she wants it.

I left DD to self-wean - last feed to go was the after-bath-before-bedtime one and that ended completely and without any fuss at 21 months.
(she had last thing at night and first thing in the morning mummy milk from around 12 months)

So what are you actually doing? HAve you left him to cry?

agree with everyone else, too young to be nightweaned totally.
and, even if you do manage to wean him it doesn';t mean he will stop waking.

I managed to replace some feeds with dummy when ds2 was around 9/10 months. until then he was feeding 1-2 hourly day and night.
I started offering the dummy instead of breast during the night, if he took it that was fine, if he didn't I fed him.
but it did NOT stop him waking. he woke at least as often as before, it hjsut meant that I didn't have to feed him
I think at that age a lot of it is a comfort thing as well as food. they wake and they need you to be able to get back to sleep.
comfort is a really important thing IMO, and often overlooked int he whole "he can't be hungry" attitude that a lot of people have.

can i ask when DS is sleeping during the day, it could be a napping issue rather/as well as a feeeding one.
he may want to sleep at nigh but isn't tried your all in bed and he might be feed becuase your trying to get him to sleep, hope that make sense!
my DD can only be allowed to sleep for a maxium of 2hr all day and only before 1500 anymore or later and she stays up most of the night feeding. if she's had the right naps she will sleep until 8am and then feed and go back down until 1015.
DD will feed if it's offered all day and all night.

Agree with the others. I would feed him and not worry about what he "should" be doing in terms of sleeping/feeding.
Think we are a bit overly hung up on weaning (day and night) in this country, in many cultures babies are breastfed on demand until they are much older that we are used to here.
DS1 (b-fed until age 2) stopped having night feeds at around 12-14 months or so, DS2 has just stopped at 19 months.
I co slept with DS1 and DS2 still shares our bed for part of the night, I've found that feeding at night and co-sleeping are easier and far less stressful than the alternatives.

I have been upstairs feeding him. I listened to him for oooh 6 minutes i think it was and then cracked. Talking aboout weaning him during the night seemed like a good idea today, but in practice theres no way I can do it. I guess I have to accept sleepless nights......

when you look back on it though, it seems like such a short time.
seems horrendous when you're lving through it, mbut I do kind of miss those snuggly feeds in bed with ds2

oh yes, feed him if you want to
it is what you are actually FOR - you are his mother, and you're designed to look after him and give him milk when he wants it, and to want to do this
so good on you

katpink he naps in the morning round 10am for 40 mins and then in the afternoon for about 40 mins to and hour and a half on a good day! He has always finished napping by 3pm