Told by playground Mum this morning "you're a fool, a glutton for punishment" because I'm bf my 20 day old baby!

[MamaG]

She asked how DS2 was sleeping, I said he was feeding a lot at night. She said "oh is your DH doing some of the feeds", so I told her I was bf.

She told me, very strongly, "you're a fool, a glutton for punishment" - I was a bit taken aback but said "I don't think so, its much easier in the long run if you persevere and we both enjoy it"

I'm laughing about it now TBH, can't get worked up, but I did think WTF?!

She hardly knows you and she called you a fool? . Was she born in a barn?

(Probably not, or she'd know a bit more about bf.)

I hope you sort her out, MamaG. What a ridiculous woman.

no way, that is terrible. She should have just kept her opinions to herself. Non-educated twat!

She sounds delightful, you should definitely be friends with her.

OK so either you have to get up in the cold make the bottle (or get it out of the fridge and warm it)

OR you pick up baby, flop out a boob, snuggle together and feed hmm I know which one I found easier

Everyone has an opinion on this best to ignore them all really - im sure she didnt mean to cause offence and just meant hubby should be doing his bit

I did wonder if i'd taken it the wrong way, but she was very forceful with her words! Doubt she took on board my reply really

oh my. i'm all fired up from friend's situation... but what is it with people and bf??

Stupid woman.
Not even worth getting upset about. She doesn't deserve the energy expenditure.

The thing is you meet all sorts in the playgound dont you...maybe shes just someone you wont like

I have quite strong opinions on things but I think part of being intelligent and growing up is learning that just because I think something is right doesnt mean everyone has to agree with me.

Some people never learn to be diplomatic or to express their difference of opinion in an pleasant way do they?

She may even be at home now thinking "ohh I was grumpy this morning I shouldnt have said that"

People can be very, very rude about other people's feeding.

I think it is more likely to be people criticising others for bf - it's being done too often, in the wrong place, to a baby of the wrong age, in front of the wrong people blah blah blah, the milk is too weak, too strong, not enough of it, yadda yadda yadda.

But I have also seen and heard criticism of people who formula feed - mainly they're being criticised or questioned for not breastfeeding, rather than for anything to do with where and how long it's done for.

My theory is that because feeding babies, however it is done, is linked with emotional and psychological sensations, and it 'gets' to people at a deep level. Hence the comments overriding what we would usually think of as normal courtesy.

tiktok, you are so right.

I think the pro and anti bf camps are equally intolerant of each others point of view.

I dont think anyone would deny in an ideal world breastfeeding is better for the childs health but for whatever reason some people cant or just dont want to do it. Pro or anti its no one elses business is it.

I never thought I would bf but it was the most natural easy thing in the world for me - I would still never criticise someone for bottle feeding its not my place.

That makes sense tiktok

A week ago I'd have probably burst into tears, was v hormonal

today I'm fine and can just laugh it off and think "weirdo" for commenting like that.

I fully agree wily

I bf all three of mine but would NEVER look down my nose or comment if somebody chooses not to.

Nobody's business but mum and baby really is it!

(by the way - DS2 STILL asleep and last fed at 8 am. Should I prod him and make him feed again? )

Wont his tummy wake him up if hes hungry..lol or is that just me remembering how precious me time was when they were bf?

It was a no brainer for me once I knew how easy it was to bf rather than fiddle about making bottles...plus it left a spare hand for whatever book I was reading rther than having to hold a bottle

People are so rude. . Rude and tactless people is a personal bugbear of mine.

Stupid woman what does she know? If you and bub are happy with your feeding then that's all that matters, she's the fool for being so narrow minded and tactless. on your behalf.

MamaG, her comments say more about her own insecurities than anything else. I am still bf-ing ds 2.2 years.

Did she mention 'rod for your own back'?

Ignore.

at that woman!

FWIW MamaG, re should you wake him to feed him, my advice is yes. Feed every three hours during the day and he should go longer at night. I used to wake mine in the day to feed and they'd go straight back to sleep usually. They didn't sleep longer at night at first (they used to keep me up all night the buggers ), but eventually they did (slept through at 11 and 13 weeks)

I miss breastfeeding.

I'm not upset, truly