2 day old baby takes one breast for at least half hour at a time!

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latch looks good from teh outside.

but he NEVER comes off on his own.

is windy as hell, too.

passing stools well and colour is good, plenty of wet nappies.

he often gets very hungry and shakes his head trying to get on, so i wind up swaddling him to try to calm him.

has a preference for one breast.

widgey pillow helps positioning a lot.

what's going wrong? his sister was a dream to feed!

you're bloody amazing, expat. well done. I think you're doing a brilliant job.

Hope things smoother today - always hard before milk comes in.

i put my wheatbag on my boobs and it soooo helped.

one-handed here cuz he is eating.

again.

he weighed 8lbs., 10 today so he's lost some weight but midwife says normal in bf baby.

expat it's totally normal, do try and relax a bit if you can.
Both mine fed loads for the first few days/weeks (both weighed around 9lbs at birth), remember they fed on tap before they were born so it takes a while to get used to having to do it for themselves.
Just feed as often as he wants and he will re-gain the weight and your supply will regulate.
I struggled with DS2 in the first few days (rock hard boobs, latch less than ideal) but we got there and he is still b-fed at 18 months.
Stay calm, rest if you can and spend lots of time with him and not on MN!!

How big are your boobs expat? Mine are big and droopy and I could only get a decent latch if I propped them up by rolling up a hand towel and popping it underneath. My nipple was then at a better angle for dd to latch on.

Hopefully it'll be easier now your milk's in

Expat - sending lots of sympathy, and one piece of advice..

DVD boxsets. Get something you've wanted to watch for ages, put it on while you feed, it will take your mind off a) the length of the feed, and b) it hurting!

O yes Taliac- I watched the whole of Frasier while bf ds in the early days

well done expat.

Oh God, yes yes yes to the DVDs. Get The Wire, expat...

hey expat what kind of day have you had re feeding?

no one can prepare you for the sheer pain when your milk comes in, I have had to express every time with all 3 to get some relief

Yes just tuck up in bed with the baby, get DH looking after other DC and bringing you things.. Then feed and watch..

30 rock is good for 20minute feeds as the episodes are short and very funny.

Heroes and Grays Anatomy got me through the mammoth all day / night feeds with DD2.

thanks for all your help, ladies, but he's fully FF now.

i just couldn't take the pain and there's no help out here. i'd have needed a lot of that IRL to keep going and it just isn't there.

my nipples are now incredibly scabbed over and painful, as are boobs now that milk is trying to come through (DS 6 days old).

it's great to tuck up in bed, but that's not really something that's possible with my life (DH has dyspraxia as well and is not the tidiest of people), also, i have a lot of PND/anxiety issues and am trying quite desperately not to wind up ill this time round.

have been treated for AND durign this pregnancy and last night had to take a couple of temazepam just to get to sleep because my imagination tends to run away with itself and my moods are starting to fall.

am a little sad as boobs are very rock hard just now.

but not as gutted as first time and have been getting fairly decent sleep.

have to do what is best for the entire family. DD1 is still having issues with my having been gone a few days, she's also got severe dyspraxia, has a lot of immaturities and tends to panic.

DS is a very hungry baby and eats loads, but so far he is very happy and sleeping well.

Sounds fabulous Expat. You are being very realistic and considering the WHOLE family. This is your third child and you know what is right for you all. And you gave it a shot didn't you?
Stay upbeat! Good Luck!

What Vanilla said!

Loads of love to you all and I hope that you manage to get some much needed rest now expat.

thanks! just had a two hour kip. still having hte pregnancy hormone dreams and they are sooo far out.

bit of a wreck with anaemia, too, as was anaemic during pregnancy and then lost lots of blood in delivery - gave me two lots of that yucky placenta out drug and then anti-coagulants every day in hospital.

stitches, too.

see what we take on for those delicious babies?!

Oh you need some serious looking after! Be very kind to yourself and I would prescribe lots of chocolate and a little red wine .

got some dark chocolate for the anaemia .

thanks, leonie .

first time round, i was gutted it didn't work out.

second time, it was a piece of piss.

3rd time, yikes!

he's been up most of the day, too, and it's my night to be on duty, so here's hoping .

DH has dyspraxia but he also came from a very messy home and just doesn't see dirt .

and of course, my AND and PND are characterised by major anxiety, which, in the run-up to DD1's pre-SCAT meeting (she's been held back a year due to her delays and the last pre-SCAT meeting was not good) have ramped up.

DD2 is only two and is acting naughty to get attention, so has to be treated not with anger but with understanding.

NO family help at all till next week.

so it's not a good recipe as it is.

because it had been so easy with DD2, i knew right away that something was wrong. kept being told his latch was okay, and would wait 10 seconds, take him off, which was really hard because even the paed noticed he has a very strong suck reflex, put him back on again and still be in serious pain.

he's gained by the weight he lost after birth.

my mum calls him 'little bruiser'.

and wgere are the photos..?
good decision, expat, he sounds lovely.

i have three from when he was in hospital, aitch, but i don't like them .

so DH is out getting a baby bath right now, we're going to give him a wee bath - he's going to LOVE that - and then pose him in front of the fire in a couple of his outfits.

i'm turning into my mother, poser of babies and person who likes to 'experiment' with hairstyles and outfits on young children.