LEAVING THEM TO IT!!

[rusmum]

My dd (11 weeks) is comfort feeding. Some (most?) nights by the 3-4am feed I am just so tired that i put her in with me and leave her to it so to speak. IS THIS AWFUL??

Nope, I quite often fall asleep with DS feeding he can take care of himself.

Not at all. It's what mothers all over the world have been doing for millenia.
As long as you follow safe co-sleeping guidelines this can be the best way to ensure the maximum amount of sleep for the maximum number of people. Just enjoy the lovely nighttime cuddles with your baby

this is great. it isn't comfort feeding you aren't being used as a dummy. it is normal and will only lead to more sleep for you.

Not awful at all, just make sure you follow all the guidelines and away you go!

THANKS - god you feel so guilty dont you????

Why awful?!? I really wouldnt worry about it - I think it is totally natural to sleep with your children/babies.

FWIW Ds2 wakes up around 2am for a feed and I basically just latch him on and go back to sleep. He has been known to feed on and off all night - I just swap sides from time to time

DS are I are co-sleeping rusmum. I often wake up to find him latched on. HVs have been asking me how many feeds he has each night and I have no idea .

He's soooo cuddly I don't think I'm going to want to put him in his own cot for a good while yet

Not awful. Read Three in a Bed by Deborah Jackson and you may even start to feel quite evangelical about it...

HI BBM thanks DH makes me feel bad he says has sha been in here all night? mind you he also is trying to get me to give up BF- he attributes all the evils of the world to BF!! LOL

thank you. he attributes colic, any crying ANYTHING!! to BF.

He looked after her the other day and gave her a bottle (expressed) now he says i should bottle feed too. What, when it is here at the right temp, on demand?????

I've been doing this (and feeling the guilt) too - I just can't stay awake while I'm feeding her at night.

What are the safety guidelines? I'm utterly terrified of crushing or smothering her and usually wake with a start to find her sleeping peacefully (on her tummy - urk) on my chest.

Dont know but i cradle her in my arm beside me (and a little below) I figure that way she cant fall out of bed??

LOL bottlefeeding increases colic because they swallow more wind and get it trapped. I'm actually of the opinion colic is a codeword for 'grumpy for no apparent reason' baby. I'm quite colicky myself

LOL COLIC!!! mmmm

DD2 has been 'colicky' from 3-11 weeks!!!!!!

at your DH's attitute to BF. If bottle feeding stopped crying and colic I think we'd all be doing it .

Angelpoise - there have been lots of threads on safe co-sleeping - I'll see if I can hunt one down for you. There are several ways of going about it.....

BBM how you do that thing where you put links on for others??

angelpoise - I found one I started on safe co-sleeping

rusmum - if you look under the list of smiley's to the right of the 'add your message here' box it tells you how to add links.

Thanks BBM - I did do a search last night but didn't get very far and then DD decided that she wanted feeding for hours and hours ...

rusmum I kind of cradle her too - suspect I sleep very lightly when I do it and won't drop her, but god if I did ... !

Dd1 once fell out of bed!!! she as about 9-10 months though. now sleep sittibng up and with 1 eye open. Is it healthy from this point of view? Does anyone sleep?

get a bed guard thus or similar and shut both eyes!

LOL TA!

DD is only three weeks, so I think a fall might hurt her! She's currently (when she's in her own bed) in a drop side cot next to our bed, with the side dropped but still sticking up about six inches between our beds. Perhaps we should take the side off altogether and bungee her cot to our bed so they can't come apart (?). Can you just take the side off a cot or will it fall apart? (It's a Mothercare one.)