Senior HV says Co-Sleeping is very dangerous

[MoonlightMcKenzie]

She's actually a very good HV in lots of ways but trained a long time ago. Her bf knowledge isn't brilliant but I have never heard anything damaging from her.

I know she would be openminded and interested in information I could provide on co-sleeping NOT being very dangerous, so this is a request for links and research.

Many thanks

I hate this emotive talk about the babies who die of 'SIDS' in beds with their parents - it's all "He was at the end of the bed", etc. My cousin died of SIDS in a cot but I do not tell people whose babies sleep in cots the details of what he looked like and where he was found. I think people should make their own minds up.

Shall we call for a ban on GroBags too after that one link?

In this household an accident is more likely to happen without co-sleeping; ds3 was injured by ds1 (SN, I can't blame him) in the early hours; it's a far more present and real risk sadly.

There's just too many circumstances and situations to make snap judgementas- you just have to work out what, on balance, is right for your family.

'I think you just do what you need to and whatever you feel comfortable with and thats the way i do it too tinkerbellesmum move him with me when i turn over ......' thats what I do; 5 nights a week dh isn't here anyway, so no space issues

if ds3 about i keep baby other side

no that top link was when a draw string bag was left in reach of the child in the cot at nursery. not a grobag

I remember that- didnt the nursery admit culpabilty? (fairly local)

sad yes

SIDs no

Ah, I misread it. I'll go and fish my grobags out the bin!

sorry Ginger and Tiktok- cause of death was recorded as SIDS. Also sorry provincial if I went into too much detail with my description...I was just recalling my experience. It is just my point of view.

No no cafebistro, I wasn't criticising you - I just mean that in general the language used in the two cases is often so different and weighted against co sleeping.

Tb brutally h - if my baby was going to die of SIDS, I'd rather he was in my arms or right next to me,than away in a cot.

(PS I do sometimes use the cot/hammock thing)

I can remember a few months ago when DD was tiny going into my bedroom while DD was there asleep in the cot and looking at her and for a split second thinking that she looked blue/white. My heart literally sunk and I burst into tears. It was a hormonal over reaction. But at the time I thought that this is reality for so many people. I know SIDS can happen in the cot, bed wherever but I think if I can do everything in my power to TRY and prevent it then thats all I can do. I see co sleeping as a SMALL risk but never the less a risk.

I co-slept, but the baby was not between me and ex - it was always on the outside, with its own blankets, not under our duvet. We pulled a chair up to the bed so the baby couldnt fall out.
I wouldn't have risked having the baby between us and under our blankets. Even I found h's body heat too much most of the time!

SIDS is an unexplainable and unexpected death of an infant. So the child didn't die from being overheated, crushed or suffocated, they had no explanation why it happened so it could have happened anywhere.

Someone asked ages back about what country has a tradition of co-sleeping and a very low SIDS rate - it is Japan.

And90% of SIDS deaths occur when the baby is sleeping in their cot, alone.

What about car seats?

cafebistro - the baby died of SIDS, you say, so in that case, the sleeping place was irrelevant, then, surely? Could also have happened in a cot.

Does anyone know what % of SIDS happens on a sofa or somewhere else outside of the cot or family bed?

Would be interesting to arm ourselves with.