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Help!! I am trying to wean ds2 of breast, He is crying and refusing bottle. feel ready to give in.

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champs · 15/02/2005 16:52

Ho all. I am pg and have been advised to stop bf as I am sick and v. tired. Ds is 1 and a half so is ok to stop bf. The thing is as some of you may remember (i went on enough about it)
he doesn't take bottle, I tried a cup and a soft spout. He has taken a couple since I started to wean yesturday but he is now crying for so long I feel horrid. I am going to cry too. I feel v.bad but i dont enjoy bf as am pg and nipples are tender.
I need help!!!!
I still gave breast last night as I dont want to cut him off completely.

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SofiaAmes · 15/02/2005 23:44

yes my ds was sleeping through the night from 6 months (when I did cc).
I think the getting your dh or someone without milk producing boobs to take care of your ds during the times when your ds expects milk is crucial.

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champs · 16/02/2005 00:02

mears--- was thinking about that too... just dont want him to feel abandoned. will deff think about it as it may be best in long run.

lol hunker!! he does ask my mum for hers sometimes bless him!!

sofia--- agree, he actually sleeps if dh comforts him instead of me comforting him. he has seemed to bond with dh more too today.

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HunkerMunker · 16/02/2005 00:04

That's true - DS does that sometimes too, then looks quite confused!

SofiaAmes · 16/02/2005 00:09

Ok I have a confession to make. Although I did successfully wean my ds at 15months, he is now 4 and has had a sudden re-interest in bfing. He overheard me and a friend talking about another friend who had bfed her son until he was 4 and we must have made a comment about her son being the same age or size as my ds. A few weeks later ds came downstairs to breakfast and announced that he wanted to start bfing again. I don't think he actually has any idea of what it is, but has decided that he is missing out on something that another child got at the same age as him (dh's smacking lips at the thought of breasts probably doesn't help...). Dd (2) has now also jumped on the bandwagon. I am beginning to wonder if there will soon be a revolt in my house and I'll have to put a lock on the breast door.

MarsLady · 16/02/2005 00:20

Oh Sofia!!!!!!!!!! Sorry, trying really hard not to laugh. Really trying hard.... gotta give in

PMSL

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champs · 16/02/2005 01:22

lol sofia!! they'll have their picket signs before you know it!!

marslady, control yourself or I wont be able to stop

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hercules · 16/02/2005 08:43

I dont think anyone would actually believe for a moment that breastfeeding would mean no illnesses. I thought it was fairly obvious that it lowers the risk of infections etc but of course it doesnt mean your child will never get ill. I've never read such a claim anywhere. Lots about lowering risks but never eliminating.

Bozza · 16/02/2005 09:16

LOL Sofia. DS was taking particular notice of me feeding DD this morning. Thats a big nipple mummy, xxx has finished biting your nipple now etc. He knows I breastfed him but all that happened when DD was born was that he started asking for a drink of milk with his breakfast instead of juice.

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champs · 16/02/2005 16:05

lol bozza, my ds1 always asks what flavour my milk is and thought for ages that their was a milk duck in the breasts when I told him about milk ducts.

ok day 2 and I am cracking. good thing is he had a bottle(with soft spout-- ty marina!!) in early hrs of morn given by dh.
I stayed most of day upstairs but could her him crying all time. gave in and gave him breast at about 3:15pm I just thought he was too stressed. He has a rotten cold and temp so he is even more upset.

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champs · 17/02/2005 20:21

OMGOSH, my lovely sweet natured buba has turned into a clingy, crying miserable one!! I'm not sure how much is down to cold and how much is due to cutting of b/f. I gave him breast a 7pm today so he went whole day without. He had a little milk from cup a few times including early morning.
I am having serious doubts about this as I seem to be causing so much upset
How long does it take before they dont cry??

Help!!

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champs · 17/02/2005 22:59

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emkana · 18/02/2005 15:57

Hi champs
if I was you I'd consider leaving it for a while, it won't help with you feeling sick and tired if your toddler becomes very clingy. Also I think they pick up on it if you're not 100% behind weaning.
Maybe the way forward is the "don't offer, don't refuse" approach - try to distract whenever you can, with other foods, drinks, games, videos, whatever, but don't refuse if he asks for it. He might surprise you and soon become less interested if he realizes that he's allowed the milk when he wants it!
Good luck!

root · 18/02/2005 19:08

hi champs

i've got a similar problem but am not pregnant. DS is only 6 months and i intend to BF for at least a year, but as i'm going back to work in May i need to get him onto to bottle too. he used to be fine with bottles as DP gave him an early morning feed from age 3 weeks so i could get more sleep. when he started sleeping through at 12 weeks we got out of this habit and now he just won't take one, though he is really enjoying solid food which we started this week. i wonder whether a cup would work or is he just too young? any advice anyone? sorry to hijack your thread, champs.

hercules · 18/02/2005 19:12

Champs - if I were you Id keep on with the bfeeding. Far less stress imo.

Roots- I had the same problem and used these

She never drank milk from anything else.

HunkerMunker · 18/02/2005 21:05

Yes, I'd keep on bfeeding too Champs. Especially if he's not well. Perhaps the thought that he can't have it really makes him want it and if you're more relaxed about it, he might lose interest much more quickly. And your milk may change taste as you get more pregnant, so he may very well self-wean anyway!

Hugs, hun

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champs · 18/02/2005 23:08

ty emkana, hercules and HM(I needed that hug was going out of mind!!) I think I may really think about trying at a later date, it feels abit like failure but i must go by how he feels too.
He has gone to my mums tonight--- first time away overnight hopefully it will help with the b/f I wont be collecting him till late tommorrow evening.

roots-- you weren't highjacking at all!!How about the avent soft spouts? or tommee tipee cups with soft spouts? My ds wont drink from a teat at all but has taken milk from these. the playtex hercules showed are meant to be good too!

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root · 21/02/2005 21:05

thanks for the advice - will give some of those a go. at least i've got two months to get him back on the bottle, so not too stressful...yet!

HunkerMunker · 22/02/2005 16:47

How's it going, Champs? xxx

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champs · 23/02/2005 18:17

going ok HM!! he has dropped day feeds and has about 3 at night/early morn. My nipples are quite tender tho and each time I feed him they hurt more as there is a long space between feeds. I am feeling better about it as he seems to be happier than last week.

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champs · 01/03/2005 14:48

he hasn't had bm since friday!!! he still goes for it but I distract him. he still cries at times mostly when he's tired but at other times he just moves onto what I've distracting him with. Think milk has dried up. it doesn't squirt out if I squeeze anymore. How long does it take for milk to dry up?

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champs · 02/03/2005 15:37

bumpy!! mears, pupuce, tiktok and any other knowledgeable mnetter??
also will it come back in time for new baby?

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tiktok · 02/03/2005 16:08

champs, you'll have milk for a little while yet....of course it will return for the new baby, in the form of colostrum which changes to milk, just as with anyone else

If you find you do end up feeding on a few more occasions, no big deal. There is no need for bf ever to stop suddenly....gradual weaning is fine.

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champs · 02/03/2005 16:34

it doesn't come out when i squeeze (sounds a little rude) also breasts hurt a bit.

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