woman at work called me 'bitty'

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Was upset this morning when talking to a couple of women at work. Both of them have bf their babies and I was saying that I would like to slowly start to wean ds off the breast, but wanted to do it gradually so as not to traumatise ds (or myself either!)
One of the women, an older one started saying 'bitty' and said that I should just stop feeding him full stop, refuse the breast and 'just stop it'. She implied that I was feeding him for my own benefit and not his, that he didn't need breast milk anymore, had his own antibodies and only women in 3rd world countries should bf their babies for longer than a few months.
I tried to talk about the emotional element of bf and was given a look, and told to give him a cup of cow's milk.
I know it is nothing new, read similar threads on here before, but really upset me and made me feel like I am weird stupid woman doing something shameful.
Dh said to me this evening that I should just have told her to feck off. I am too nice for my own good!
ds is 11 months old! Still a baby!

Thanks kiskidee, you are right that I wasn't intending to criticise any one on mn, just wanted to vent, at the same time I am in danger of doing to others what I don't want done to me, (my post must have seemed really hypocritical) so I am going to quit while I am ahead.

and I take it you knew what she was implying by the ? I still hear a woman venting.

She isn't allowed to judge them, though they were judging her, non?

Are bfers supposed to be holier than thou? (they get kicked for supposedly being that too, if i recall correctly)

Or is she allowed human frustrations and allowed to vent and to have other adults cut her some slack since she is not singling out anyone in particular for her frustrations but a specific group who she has to deal with on a daily basis?

~ tw.

What does 'bitty' mean?

look at No. 8 or look for the video clips on you tube.

the emoticon is explained on your right.
I too hear a woman venting and it is not tw.
TW had every right to be upset, I know I would be in her place and rather thought that she oughtn't assume that people who did/could/chose not breastfeed were somehow less caring than those who did/could.
With reference to "she isn't allowed to judge them, though they were judging her" I think a "tit for tat" (!) approach very immature and unhelpful.
Clearly bfing is best. Sadly, as in my case, it didn't work out. I don't feel that I need to "justify"- unlike her colleagues -why this is so ,just as tw doesn't need to "justify" why she chose to bf. It is a sensitive topic to everyone, not just those who are able to bf. A little more thoughtfulness and compassion called for all round really .

I think tit for tat is immature and unhelpful too. Don't you see she was hoping to vent on here? Just because she is undoubtedly a responsible adult, she can't be allowed immaturity sometimes in what should be a fairly safe arena and method for letting off steam without having her wrist spanked?

On my right says, 'hmm'. On my left it says 'sceptical'. So she may be sceptical of their reasons. That covers a gamut of possibilities! MNers use to cover a gamut of possibilities on a wide range of subjects. I will not going to assume that I know what she meant by a little . why should anyone?

I believe if you look up sceptical in a thesaraus, you don't find 'judgey' as substitute.

"Is she undoubtedly a responsible adult" becasuse she bfs? I see what you mean about a holier than thou attitude!
I think that when someone faces an uninformed and unenlightened attitude, that one shouldn't stoop to that person's level. Obviously, we are tempted to retort and hurt the person who is hurting us but most of us usually don't, and when we do, we have the grace and self possession to apologise or withdraw the comment.
As tw said she was in danger of doing to others what had been done to her. Fair enough, she did have the maturity to apologise.

I don't need a tutorial on emoticons, but the op clearly expressed scepticism at the reasons given by colleagues for not bfing.
I also believe that you should look up a dictionary prior to looking up a "thesaraus".

MNs often coin words, use spoonerisms, in-jokes and deliberate errors for amusement, were you aware?

"Is she undoubtedly a responsible adult" becasuse she bfs?

Did you seriously mean to type that?

I can't bother to read the rest of your post now. As after that statement, I am questioning if you have made any sense.

I stopped bfing ds at a year old. It was a personal choice - I wanted to stop and he seemed quite happy to be moved on to cow's milk. I admit that he may have reaped benefits from a continued exposure to breastmilk, although he enjoys eating and has happily eaten a variety of nutritious foods ever since, so I do not think that he has suffered from the choice that I made, either.

I would, however, never suggest that it is anything other than admirable to continue with bfing longer than I did. The problem with "bitty" type commments is that they seem to suggest that there is something almost incestuous and psycologically unsound about extended bfing and is at the very least a tasteless and ignorant comment.