Please help! Upset and want to carry on breast feeding

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Hello I have an almost 12 week old. Breastfeeding going really well and milk in full flow.

My problem is this. I didn't set out to breastfeed this long and so had planned a night out way in advance for 18th October (next Friday) it's my friends birthday too so double celebrations really. Il be honest, I plan to drink as much as I want and stay out till very late ! I know it's selfish but I really really need this....

I also have a rave booked which my DP very kindly brought me for my birthday present for me and a friend, seeing one of my fave DJs in london in November .

Now my problem is , I know I will definitely drink, there may even be other things involved at the rave. Again I know it sounds selfish but I would never put my baby in danger hence why I'm wanting solid advice on how to go about continuing to breast feed .

Will my milk dry up if I don't pump at all or breastfeed for one evening whilst I let my hair down? Will I be ok to just pump the next day for 24 hours , dump it and then resume breastfeeding after 24 hours?

These are the only two events I have coming up and I want to ENJOY them. I also want my baby to be safe and I would love for this not to affect my breast feeding as I would ideally like to breast feed for six months. Please no judgment I have been as honest as I can!

Stop it. Do you get that there is a huge difference between the very occasional recreational on a night out when no children are present and someone with a drug addiction who takes drugs while pregnant or caring for kids?

Would they? Social services would not give two shiny shits about a mum using recreationals on a single night out where her child is being cared for elsewhere. I promise you.

It’s so refreshing when an OP posts asking for genuine advice and then listens and takes it on board.

@GuestFeatu thank you! Right, so bloody naive and sheltered to the world

Social services are more interested in the drug addict parents of the poor children literally left in their own faeces due to their parents shit habits. Now that is shocking , and sad. I'll have you know my baby is extremely well looked after thank you ! @MusicLife80

No judgement here. But you might find you need to express every few hours to be comfortable and avoid your boobs leaking. Wear a dark top to make damp patches less obvious.

Does anyone recommend any portable devices I can use to pump that would fit in a handbag???

Ergh why would you want to take something that literally could leave you dead and your child motherless, couldn’t you have fun without it? Drugs destroy lives , think about how they’re made and what lives they’ve destroyed before you even take them

My partner "the twat" as someone called him, said that it's a wise decision I don't do drugs at the rave

I can't even begin to imagine why someone who wants the best for their child by breastfeeding would take class a drugs? It totally contradicts itself! Surely once you have kids you knock all that teenage shit on the head?

There's a difference between an addict and someone who takes them recreationally

And I have known of instances where children's services have been involved even with occasional drug use so it's ridiculous to say they don't care

Why should you stop doing things you enjoy now and again just because you're a parent? I get whilst breast feeding fair enough, I've decided I'm not going to do it whilst breastfeeding. But no one is going to stop me doing what I want now and again after I've stopped breast feeding, I'm an adult

No with respect there isn't. It takes one time.

As someone who has stood at the grave of a young mum who "had the right to have a good time" the risk is the same, the loss and devastation left behind is the same.

Please seek support for your child's sake.

Rubbish , they've
Got bigger things on their plate. Much much bigger things. How does an individual , away from their child with their child in the good and safe care of their biological father, taking a class a drug one evening, coming home and sleeping it all off, and then going on as normal with their children the next day , affect that child or their well being??? Please tell me how?

@Marblesbackagain you are incredibly naive.

And you sound like a really selfish immature one.

Becoming a parent brings the responsibility of putting your child's needs above your wants.

I think the point people are trying to make is that class A drugs can kill you, even as a one off, and it seems like a fairly high risk activity even before you have kids, but an utterly bonkers one as a parent.

And yes, people do it. Doesn’t make it any less bonkers

Yep but I don't take drugs and risk my life unnecessarily for my children. So I will take that over the 80 odd deaths per 100000 in the UK from drugs annually.

@namechangeforobviousreasons24 because they are unable to prioritise the needs of their child or safeguard themselves

Oh come on. I've got a couple of friends who from time to time partake in recreational use at a prearranged event. They have a good night, sleep it off and then go back to being the amazing mums they are. Not like they're shooting up in front of their child.

why do you need drugs to have a good time? The music would be enough? Never understood this?

Do they have jobs ? As in most professional jobs you risk losing your job if it's discovered you partake

Don’t do drugs while you’re breast feeding.

Yes they do have professional jobs.
I've just seen a previous post which used the wording I used regarding a good time and I'm sorry because I didn't see that before I posted.