today I recieved a report about Callum's checkup last week and the doctor said that I should increase his solids to increase his weight

[SparklyGothKat]

FFS he is small!! He is gaining weight now, and is on one meal a day, plus BFs. Why can't they see that callum is just a small child. He is devolping normally so whats the problem??

Tell them to f off . How big is he now? Im just being nosey.

he is 12lb 8oz at 30 weeks old (23 weeks adjusted)

he is just below the 0.9th percentile and heading back to the 0.4th (which is where he was following before we introduced the formula and have now stopped)

she was 12lb 13oz 2 weeks ago. at 47 weeks old

aww bless you have a smallie too

SGK - my hv said told me that increasing solids is more likely to make a baby lose weight, as pureed carrots etc have a lots less calories in them than milk (either formula or breast).

this is my new hv btw, not my evil old one who told me to start weaning ds at 11 weeks!

your doctor's a knob, sorry...

lol you wouldn't say bless if you met her. Think she is the demon child.

He looks lovely on your photos SGK - and not too small at all! Ds2 is tiny - he is about 24 pounds atm, and will be 2 next week. But he was 10lb2 when he was born, so has really been 'catching down'. He seems to crawl along the 9th centile, but has visited the 0.9th!

he is a knob! he was trying to get us to move clinics, I think he sees me as trouble

he probably does see you as trouble SGK, because you won't do as you're told and do your research. some doctor's hate people like that - it makes their job so much harder!

Just looked at our red book and she never even on the the 4th line always been below them but shes happy crawling, starting to walk, now eating 2 meals a day has loads of b/f's doesnt like her cot, insists on sleeping in our bed, has 2 teeth, apart from being dinky and mindful, she is just like all other nearly one year olds. I have just decided to be totally laid back about it but do love it when people look at her in her pushchair and say aww isnt she lovely and she blows raspberries at them (thanks to my older kids for that!)

At 23 weeks B was only on two meals a day - one of which was just a small bowl of porridge - and she was born at term at a 'normal' weight. Both B and dd1 were at least 9 mths before they had three meals a day - with dd1 my hv looked very worried by this. With B - I just avoided the hv Milk is far more important - and calorific!

i questioned him last week, about the fact that he forced formula onto us, when Callum was following a line. He just said that Callum had dropped through too many lines and needed it funny how now he isn't on the formula, he is dropping back to that bottom line

Your child, your decisions.

i'm not increasing his solids atm, he needs milk more

SGK he is lovely he looks quite long/tall

he isn't, he wears 0-3 months clothes lol

You are absolutely right!

we are doing BLW mainly anyway, he is able to feed himself, but we do do the mushed up stuff too. Didn't dare tell the doctor that we are doing BLW, he already thinks I am 'odd'

You should have said - he would have undoubtedly passed out and you could have made a quick exit

lol! I think he thinks that we don't have Callum's best interests at heart, but we do. I must get in contact with the BF councillor we saw a few months back. She was very supportive

Well if that's what he's thinking the man is plainly a total loon! It's such a good thing you're awkward - I don't think many could keep going in the face of such relentless opposition.

I told the SCBU nurse that if I had been a first time mum, between her and the doctor, I would have been scared into giving up BF, and that it wasn't on, that they should be supporting mums who want to BF, not make they feel that they are doing sometthing 'wrong'

That's the problem though isn't it - b/feeding is seen as an ideal - and they are all too ready to say 'oh well - not an ideal world, let's move on'