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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Original poster

can/should/would you breastfeed an upset 1 yr old in a public swimming pool?

315 replies

preggerspoppet · 12/04/2008 20:50

By popping your boob out right there and then?

OP posts:

berolina · 13/04/2008 23:44

oh my goodness me, those are the white spots on our magnolia-painted floorboards.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/04/2008 23:46

LOL bero!

policywonk · 13/04/2008 23:51

Yes bero. And they will never, ever come off.

berolina · 13/04/2008 23:52

(Un)fortunately we rent, and will have to repaint the damn things when we move out anyway.

verylittlecarrot · 14/04/2008 00:18

LOL

My DH asked me this morning, "you know those spatter marks on your laptop...are they...?"

yup. course they are.

mehdismummy · 14/04/2008 00:37

it also says in the koran that a woman should be paid a wage for bf her child. I have actually bf in a mosque and had lots of women till mil how wonderful i was. Mil really proud of me

policywonk · 14/04/2008 00:39

Wages for breastfeeding! Fantastic.

mehdismummy · 14/04/2008 00:42

lol policy. I have yet to see any cash though! I am the martini woman of bf. Anytime anyplace anywhere until he wants to stop

kiskideesameanoldmother · 14/04/2008 08:25

lol, fantastic news mehdismummy. This is just what i need when i tell dh that i have bought a(nother) sling!

frasersmummy · 14/04/2008 10:29

vvv I dont have a problem with comforting their kids in the pool..bf or not.. kids get upset and need comforting

i just expressed an opinion that if someone was trying to quietly do a full bf that I would feel like I would have to make the effort to keep out the way for fear of upsetting the feed.

I didnt mean any offence... or to make anyone feel they couldnt bf where/when they want. I personally think a bf mum is a beautiful sight that should be encouraged and applauded

belgo · 14/04/2008 10:33

I was interested in the photo of the Bolivian president meeting a women who was bfing. Fab photo. It reminds me of the first time I saw public bfing - in Gautemala I saw an indian woman bfing her small child. The image stays with me because she was just getting on with it, and everyone around her were just getting on with whatever they were doing. No big deal.

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2008 10:45

kiskidee, (and others)out of interest, what did you think of the teacher showing her breast to her class of 10/11 year olds to explain breast feeding?

belgo · 14/04/2008 10:48

I think it's very sad that children need breastfeeding explained to them in school. I wish we lived in a society where it was normal to see breastfeeding and where bfing was treated as completely normal, then maybe the teacher wouldn't have felt the need to do what she did.

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2008 10:48

frasers mummy, I think you were unfairly jumped on by people desperate to make a point.

SoupDragon · 14/04/2008 10:51

Consideration works both ways. How about consideration for the mother and child? Who has priority when bringing "consideration" into play? Generally speaking, the bf-ing mother is showing consideration for others by being discreet and not waving naked breasts about in people's faces. Other people should show consideration by simply looking elsewhere if they are offended.

SirDigbyChickenCaesar · 14/04/2008 11:23

i think trying to calm your child down (by BF or wahtever works for you) IS being considerate to the others in the pool. Personally I get upset when i see an upset child (not because they noise bothers me but because i hate to see a child upset) but some people get all when they hear a child kicking off. so what's worse?

personally i would have done it and i think you are a star and a great mom.

berolina · 14/04/2008 11:38

I have just come back from a meeting with our financial advisor, during which I bf two or three times. He batted not an eyelid. I'm sure, though, that he was feeling desperately uncomfortable at my brazenly getting my breasts out. A screaming child would no doubt have been preferable.

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2008 12:13

You had a meeting with your financial advisor in a swimming pool?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/04/2008 13:52

Frasersmummy - a "full" b/feed for a one year old isnt at all the same as a "full" b/feed for a one, two, three, four, five or six month old.

It's not likely that a one year old would need a "full" b/feed in the middle of the day at that age anyway, and to be clear - we arent talking about newborns, we are talking about 1 year olds wanting comfort - not young babies wanting feeds. Certainly trying to feed a few week old baby (which wouldnt happen - they recommend to have their first set of vaccinations before going swimming anyway - at 8 weeks) would be harder. But that's not what is being talked about, and you certainly didnt say that this is what you were referring to (until now).

I would also think that if a mum is happy enough to b/feed by the side of a pool, in a pool, or around a pool, she'll have already taken into consideration her environment (as far as disturbance etc is concerned) so you neednt worry yourself.

I'm certainly not offended, not least because it takes an awful lot more than that to offend me . I do think that this topic has the capacity of offending some people very easily so it is important to be clear about what you are discussing, and be relevant and correct with any facts. Saves a great deal of confusion (and offence) that way.

kiskideesameanoldmother · 14/04/2008 15:21

Lynette, I have absolutely no idea why my opinion on that topic is relevant to this one. In my opinion they are poles apart in relation to each other.

I am finding it curious as to why my opinion on that topic would have any significance to this one. Would you care to share your reasoning with me before I share mine with you?

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2008 16:17

kiskidee, no I'm going to leave it, you seem totally unable to understand me at all. I'm leaving this thread. I've found it quite horrid, tbh.

preggerspoppet, I'm sorry you were "gawped"
at, those fellow swimmers were totally out of order. I hope your next swimming trip is more relaxed.

kiskideesameanoldmother · 14/04/2008 16:21

oh, i understand you. i can't see why your question is relevant to this topic, that is all. i only thought it would be a good idea to know why you thought it had any relevance to it. just because i don't see your perspective doesn't mean i am not interested in finding out about it.

i'm sorry that you feel that we have been horrid.

harpsichordcarrier · 14/04/2008 16:23

actually all this "discreet" bf is one of the reasons I think women have so much trouble getting bf established.
it's hard to do it (esp the latch) because we don't know what it looks like
if you have seen it from when you are a child, it is easier to do imo.
by hiding it away, we are sending the wrong messages to children and young girls (that it should be hidden) and not doing future bfeeders any favours.
imo.

harpsichordcarrier · 14/04/2008 16:24

oh and yes I would
like weeing in the pool
isshoooooos, much?

LynetteScavo · 14/04/2008 21:45

To sweeten the sour people on this thread

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