Partner has issue with me breastfeeding. Help!

[Moonchild5]

Has anyone else had a partner that’s had an issue with you breastfeeding?

My daughter is almost 8 months old. My partner seems to have some sort of issue with it & I don’t know why. We never go anywhere & I said to him a few months ago we’ll need to start going out & doing stuff etc like go out for dinner or something & he said yeah we will it’ll be better when she’s a bit older & you don’t have to get your boobs out. She starting getting teeth & I told him she had started biting my nipple & he said she’ll need to start getting a bottle then. He’s working away & FaceTimed him last night & began to tell me that he heard on the radio that morning that new studies suggest you only breastfeed your baby until 6 months old which I genuinely think he’s made up. He’s discouraged me from day 1 & keeps making little comments like these. Long story for another day but our relationship isn’t great probably going to split up soon & when we’re arguing he says things like when we split up you’ll need to do something about breastfeeding her cos she’ll be spending time with me. It’s exhausting & really upsets me. He’s also got an issue with me co-sleeping & letting her nap on me & things like that & says she needs her own space but I’ve tried explained babies are literally designed to want to be attached to you etc it’s as if he’s jealous of his own child. I take her through to the bedroom to get her to sleep because 1 that’s where she sleeps & 2 he’s really noisy & always has the tv blaring but he goes in a huff & moans he’s left in the living room by himself he’s like a big child. I can’t deal with it. I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this & why he may have an issue with me breastfeeding & caring for her in general. Thanks.

I hope he has tbh it’ll take the heat off me

Wow thank you everyone I’m glad I’m not going crazy & it is as bad on paper as it is in my head. He always says he’s just honest & I can’t handle it whenever I say I don’t like what he’s said.

Gosh. We went out to lunch three days after I had my first baby and I breastfed there. I can't imagine being with somebody who doesn't support my choices.
He's wrong - the recommendation is to breastfeed for at LEAST six months if possible.

I think I’d focus on separating as that’s what you’re going to do? Not sure I’d care what he thought given that.

He sounds like a dick..

I agree your partner is a controlling asshole. I'm sending you my sympathies and encouragements . As you say you often end up with men who are assholes, maybe consider doing some counselling to change that. Good luck

I don’t care what he thinks I just wanted to peoples thoughts I just didn’t know what his issue was with it

That’s the thing I have doing I’ve spoke to every type of medical professional over the last 7 years. People like that are so clever & manipulative

This is great advice, I would be doing all these things.

Definitely do not stop breastfeeding, because as soon as you do, he will leave you and try to take her away as he has threatened. You are better off leaving him now while you are still feeding.

btw I bf all my kids, first one til about 15 months, second one til 2 and third one til 3. All my kids self weaned, wasn’t something that I stopped. Nothing wrong with feeding past 6 months if that’s what you choose to do.

it’s as if he’s jealous of his own child. He is. At the prenatal classes I went to, one of the midwives warned us that some men are like that.

He won't try to take the baby from you. He doesn't sound very interested in her, let alone a hands on dad who wants to spend a lot of time with his child. I suspect he'll lose interest quite quickly.

I'm still night feeding my 3 yo; not interested about what anybody else thinks!
My husband has been nothing but supportive.

WHO have said 2 years and beyond for nursing. So up to you and baby when you want to end that journey.

He sounds very immature. Maybe his own prejudice about breastfeeding, immaturity and maybe trauma from his own parents.

Sorry to hear about this at such a sensitive time. You'll be much better off without him.

He speaks as though he is. Says how much he loves her, wants shared custody, seems really concerned that I’ll stop him from seeing her, he kept saying he wanted to do more for her I’m always with her because of breastfeeding. He was happy to get up during the night etc. He never held her for weeks when she was born & said it was my fault but I kept asking him & he said he was too nervous. He’s never changed a nappy. He moans that I don’t put her down enough. I’m only doing what feels natural. I never with my 10yo because his dad & mum was in my ear too. She’s getting bigger now I only hold her every few hours to feed her & if we’re in the house for a nap then I let her nap on me as she only sleeps for a short time anyway. His words & actions are contradicting. I’m so confused & exhausted. I really can’t handle him trying to take her away from me. He has more money, more support. Also knows some big scary people. My anxiety is through the roof just now